Dreams Vs. Desires

Nandini: i voted for any other reason.. Bcoz, i feel she has taken an initiative to join back kotnis as she feels that she needs to be a identity of herself as a Doc rather than a housewife..

An excellent post...I can't vote because while I do support Nidhi's desires, I do not support her unilateral decision on a time frame without talking to Ashutosh about it...she could have easily sat Ashutosh down, shared her road map for her future with him and then had a discussion on what would be a realistic time frame for this, without compromising either of their desires..that would have been the most sensible way to handle the situation...he spoke of his desire to have a baby...but he did not ask her to get pregnant tomorrow...!

And you are right..if it is just two years in the context of Ashutosh, it is just two years in the context of Nidhi too...if his desire can wait, so can hers...and being much older than her, time is running out faster for him! That is the harsh reality, whether we like it or not...!

I dont think nidhi has made any compromise.no one forced her to marry ashu.he was chosen by her. D reasons y i support nidhi.
A)she isnt ready herself. She said so many times.
B) its just one month 4 god's sake. Wats d hurry. Koi train thodi na chut rahi.
C)she isnt even a graduate.let her complete wat she gave 4 yrs for.
D)ashu n nidhi dont even understand each other as a couple. Dont think they can handle pregnancy n parenthood pressure.
E) let them njoi their time 2gether b4 takin addnal resp.
F)nothing wrong in wanting an own identity.
G) hated that dusro ka paisa dialogue. She cant earn tyvm.

Interesting poll n pov. . i believe u are personally supporting Ashu? Please correct me if i m wrong..!

Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

An excellent post...I can't vote because while I do support Nidhi's desires, I do not support her unilateral decision on a time frame without talking to Ashutosh about it...she could have easily sat Ashutosh down, shared her road map for her future with him and then had a discussion on what would be a realistic time frame for this, without compromising either of their desires..that would have been the most sensible way to handle the situation...he spoke of his desire to have a baby...but he did not ask her to get pregnant tomorrow...!

And you are right..if it is just two years in the context of Ashutosh, it is just two years in the context of Nidhi too...if his desire can wait, so can hers...and being much older than her, time is running out faster for him! That is the harsh reality, whether we like it or not...!

Originally posted by: nandininandu

Sujatha, I was waiting to read your analysis...is indeed beautiful. Being a working woman I personally want her to complete her internship but not this way, ignoring his desires...He can be easily convinced even for 10 years with sensitive and rational discussion.

Nandini,,exactly what I said elsewhere...even ten years is no big deal...we have seen Hollywood stars become fathers at sixty and seventy...men do not suffer the kind of restrictions that women do with regard to the biological cycle...of course modern medicine has broken even that down thanks to assisted conception and surrogacy...so long as the decision is mutual and not thrust by one person on another, I don't think any of us has a problem!

Originally posted by: jayanti_dj

I dont think nidhi has made any compromise.no one forced her to marry ashu.he was chosen by her. D reasons y i support nidhi.
A)she isnt ready herself. She said so many times.
B) its just one month 4 god's sake. Wats d hurry. Koi train thodi na chut rahi.
C)she isnt even a graduate.let her complete wat she gave 4 yrs for.
D)ashu n nidhi dont even understand each other as a couple. Dont think they can handle pregnancy n parenthood pressure.
E) let them njoi their time 2gether b4 takin addnal resp.

Originally posted by: nandininandu

I agree with your reasons but remember even Ashutosh should enjoy this time period in the same way like Nidhi. I just mean to say, why aren't we supporting him?? He is 43 and running out of time, orphan so want to have a blood tie, want to have a child to bind their relationship aren't these reasons valid??

I don't think any couple can ever understand each other to the core as everyone has something to hide from his/her partner, it is normal psyche of human beings...no one is transparent to the other

Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

Nandini,,exactly what I said elsewhere...even ten years is no big deal...we have seen Hollywood stars become fathers at sixty and seventy...men do not suffer the kind of restrictions that women do with regard to the biological cycle...of course modern medicine has broken even that down thanks to assisted conception and surrogacy...so long as the decision is mutual and not thrust by one person on another, I don't think any of us has a problem!