Dreams Vs. Desires - Page 3

There are several things in AshNi situation currently - they have not talked about their desires, their feelings, their future ambitions, their future together - the baby storyline has been stirred up at the wrong time - they haven't even talked seriously yet about anything. Both of them need time to understand each other. Ashu has more baggage to unload. Nidhi still needs to mature. Both need to learn to make decisions together.


As soon as they got back from HM, the Mallu story started (again).

Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

For me, I think both of them are wrong...and they will realize it sooner or later!

Originally posted by: Armu4eva

Yes.. they will as there are going to b some issues... u cant have drama.. without that hun.. 😳

From a drama perspective, I have no issues whatsoever...if they are so smart and understanding, where is the conflict then 😆

I accept Nidhi should be a full fledged doctor.For that 1 year is enough. I support Asutosh as he is running out of time. He is 43 after 2 years and by the time the baby is born he will be around 46 which is a bit old for Indian standards. What I don't like is the unilateral decision taken by Nidhi and the way she thrust that on him. The 2 year time frame was given by Shyama and she bilndly followed it. Where did she convey that important decision to Ashu ? in the hospital corridor where you cannot share your true opinion even if you want to.I am married and I say the most understanding husband will resent a decision forced on him without any real discussion. Some say she has asked only for 2 years. Can she ask for 5 years like other girls. She wants to ignore his age and that is what really hurts him.making him feel in secured. They never discussed the matter in a proper way. She did'nt want to talk about it and decided for 2 years and expects him to share his mind.

Originally posted by: nandininandu

I agree with your reasons but remember even Ashutosh should enjoy this time period in the same way like Nidhi. I just mean to say, why aren't we supporting him?? He is 43 and running out of time, orphan so want to have a blood tie, want to have a child to bind their relationship aren't these reasons valid??

I don't think any couple can ever understand each other to the core as everyone has something to hide from his/her partner, it is normal psyche of human beings...no one is transparent to the other

Originally posted by: radhika72

I accept Nidhi should be a full fledged doctor.For that 1 year is enough. I support Asutosh as he is running out of time. He is 43 after 2 years and by the time the baby is born he will be around 46 which is a bit old for Indian standards. What I don't like is the unilateral decision taken by Nidhi and the way she thrust that on him. The 2 year time frame was given by Shyama and she bilndly followed it. Where did she convey that important decision to Ashu ? in the hospital corridor where you cannot share your true opinion even if you want to.I am married and I say the most understanding husband will resent a decision forced on him without any real discussion. Some say she has asked only for 2 years. Can she ask for 5 years like other girls. She wants to ignore his age and that is what really hurts him.making him feel in secured. They never discussed the matter in a proper way. She did'nt want to talk about it and decided for 2 years and expects him to share his mind.

Originally posted by: Armu4eva

And 42 is OK by indian standards to get married? 🤣

Sorry.. just a thot!

Originally posted by: radhika72

My personal opinion is No.The more you are aged the more it is difficult to adjust.Marriage is all about compromises and adjustments.Most of the late marriages tend to fail.And this is aserious reply for your funny post😊