Kab tak Chup Rahoongi - Supporting Bani! - Page 6

While u have put up an almost convincing argument about Bani being justified in her stance, I have a few comments for whatever they are worth.
She does not want to return back to JW, that is fine by me .She cannot face herself for being in love with a man who was responsible for her mothers death, that I can empathize with. It is not that she completely abhors JW and wipe out whatever they shared together ,else she would have contemplated an abortion and she could have sought a divorce.
That B stayed back at Walia mansion after marriage out of magnanimity of her heart or to deflect the ire of JW from P&P to herself (in any case, JW brought havoc to P&P life made them homeless,jobless etc,even when B was around) is BS. She stayed back b'coz she was guilt ridden for her sister's action and for "hiding " the fact that P&P were a couple. B'coz she had respect for him. B'coz she "felt" for him… felt his anguish, understood his behavior on the betrayal and was experiencing an undefined attraction for him. She could have easily left him & the house and sought to lead an independent life as she is doing now.
There is no denying that JW behaved like a jerk and lost no opportunity to demean and disgrace B. (some of his insults are not condonable).JW was emotionally immature,unable to deal with situation .JW reacted to her presence in the only way he knew (hard nosed biz tycoon that he is)……to systematically break the perpetrator(opponent) and destroy. You can call it revenge .

The C was a natural & beautiful culmination of their resp pent up emotions and there is no denying that both wanted it to happen.

The morning after JW being insecure about their relationship and what both wanted out of it very rashly called it a mistake.

That he proposed to Pia knowing fully well that he caused the death of her mom is a little hard to digest. And why did ND send his daughters to the person who "destroyed the very core " of their collective existence. That appears to be a glaring loophole in the narrative.

As we grow older we have different expectations of life…. JW had reached a stage when he has achieved material success and all the trapping that come along. He wanted something more. B has transformed JW life as so eloquently put by him to Masi after B had left Walia house. He yearns for & loves B but at the same he yearns for a family to complete him & his life. A family comprising of B & child. Every individual has the right to do everything possible to keep a good thing going. Here I would like to add that JW did not blackmail B at the godown when she wanted to know the truth about PR. He made it clear to her what would be the consequences and was ready to confess .

That B wants to live her life on her own terms now, I can respect that . JW also respects that even though it is not agreeable to him. But to deny him his right to their child is ridiculous. And to hesitate mentioning JW as father on the hospital form,that was absolutely "moronic"(courtesy Raaga) . There are many single mothers around who are and have brought up their kid(s) single handedly and well. They have done so b'coz the father is not around or b'coz the father made life too miserable to continue as a family. JW does not belong to either category. B does not have the child's best interest at heart, ofcourse she does love the unborn (never actually xpressed in words). As mentioned in another post, bond with a child has to be nurtured and environment of love and security created long before child comes into existence into the world. B is denying the child this basic birthright.

One does sympathize and feel for B….she has had a rollercoaster of a life and she has had to emotionally deal with many complex issues from a very tender age and is doing so even now . She will soon need to rationalize and get on with life without any doubt & confusion. And why is she not sharing such a big fact from her sisters is beyond me.They have every right to know and do not need to be "protected" from the truth .Another one of B convoluted thought process,I guess.

Using ur very words,MT, " Just because BANI is mopping her tears in private and tearing apart her heart for the childhood she did not have, doesn't automatically make her the aggreived party and JAI the villain!"//CAT

Yeah...no matter what happened between J and B...the child is not to be blamed or punished.

JW is the father of the child and no amount of anger or hatred can change that. So what is the point in not accepting that?????

Originally posted by: sirigina

But on the other hand he left no option other than to treat as a bas***d child with his guilt about the C-scene and stuff - I emphatize with Bani but dont sympathize with her

Sarah buddy, i agree with u to some extent but i feel that she was a bit hesitant.
Bani has never regretted the 19 June night and the consummation, in fact she has mentioend a no. of times that her 'dil and dimaag' was completely in tune when she was making love to her husband and that the memories of that single night would be enuf for her to spend her entire life! this is no mean thinking dear and it takes courage. she drew courage from the fact that for at least that once she was completely loved by her hubby.

The form stuff was awful but she would come around soon. the wound i still fresh in her midn adn heart - in fact, if it was somebody else, she wld have divorced the person a long time back. but she knows very well that she loved Jai madly and she's giving herself time. And nobody can argue, she needs time and lots of it.

Jai will always be there for her and she will be there for him ... i have faith on both of them but i wish Jai would not have repented for that C-night. In fact, he acted guilty when Pia confronted him after Bani left home. He could have said that its a personal thing between a husband and a wife, but no, he had to talk out of line and that too, to Pia ... Did he need any explanation for loving his wife and takign their relation to the next level?

Anyway, we still have to prepare for Defence. 😉

U Wont Get Any Gaali's From Me

Think Bani Is Justified In Her Stance

Im Sure If He Gives her Time + Space She May Be More Accepting To Him Having Contact With Her+ Baby

i agree wit u MT
yeh Jai is indeed selfish!!
I do lyk him lots as well buh that dsn change the fact that he has alwais bin a selfish man!!

Originally posted by: sirigina

Sangs dear - I agree with you - but it hurts the unborn - she is being insensitive to the child by not declaring its father on the form - I understand she is confused, disturbed and deranged with the truth learnt of her mother and surely time and patience will make her realize something is amiss within her if she tries to deny JW's existence which she is trying to do - I also think her actions are not with an intention to hurt Jai or the child or to take revenge but with shame for loving the man whom she holds responsible correctly for her family's downfall - she is only punishing herself by denying her love and the result of her love which is her child

Sarah, we know Bani, for long she will not be able to keep herself away from Jai, she cannot do it for long and she's too insensitive to keep the child away from the father. 😛

lol!! finally someone has the same thought as me.. mt!! welcome back!! and i realised u started calling ram mr kapoor?? 😆

I agree with both points of views.

Jai commited this "crime" by accident. It wasn't his fault.
But that doesn't mean that he can hide it.

I do understand that the love you have for your parents will always be greater then the love you have for anyone else.
BUT, that is NO reason for Bani to keep Jai's child, who he equally has a right on. First of all, Bani will ruin Jai's life (just like he "ruined" Bani's life) and she may even "ruin" her child's life.

But basically, Bani is justified in most of her actions. Jai is justified in some of his. Both of them made mistakes, but we all know that this is only a temporary state for Bani, and loosing a parent because of your lover is extremely hard to deal with...