A mother carries in her womb
A mother gives birth
A mother nurtures
A mother protects
A mother may want to terminate her pregnancy
A mother may want to go through the medical procedure called abortion.
Does a mother take scissors in her hand and want to exterminate?
Does a mother ask for sacrifice for her own happiness?
More than a shattered woman, I saw a self-centered woman whose life revolves around just one person; herself. She may have had a tragic past, the details of which are still unknown to us. Her past may shrouded with darkness, and it may continue to haunt her. But two other people share the pain and feel the pain to the extent as she does.
Her younger brother shares the past with her, the brother who was forced to grow up not for him but for her. His life was also shattered by the same events which led him to grow a shell around himself which would be strong enough to protect not just him but her as well. A shell called ASR because a young Arnav would never be able to become the guardian for his Di. He was forced to grow up because he had become his sister crutch, her support system. He had to make her life perfect for her. In order to do so, he forgot that he had a life. He forgot to smile. He loves and respects her like a mother but does she even what it is to be a mother figure?
The day she lost her parents, another woman lost her daughter too. The pain of losing a child is unbearable and only a woman who loses the one she gave birth to would know the severity of the pain and the emptiness created by the loss will forever remain. The pain of seeing her young grandchildren orphaned and thrown out of their house must have been unimaginable too. But at some point, she decided to overcome the pain because she had a responsibility to raise her orphaned grandchildren. She is a mother too.
Mami is the lady who is not related to them blood. She is seemingly self-absorbed woman but behind her loud, garish, taunting exterior is a woman with big heart, a woman who loves her niece and nephew like her own. She may be blunt for the world but she loves them like her own. She may not have given birth to them but she is no less than a mother.
Anjali Jha may be traumatized but is she the only one who went through a shocking event? What about the aged the nani, who lost a daughter and is now seeing her grandchildren facing such tough times? What about Arnav, who was held captive for two weeks and just escaped from the shackles of death? What about Khushi, who didn't know whether she would see her husband again and nearly died twice but trying to save him?
Anjali Jha's world may have shattered; her dreams may have been broken. She may be shocked or traumatized but should it kill her maternal instincts? She isn't just the mother of the unborn child; she is a mother figure for her brother too. She may feel hate towards her unborn child because of her father, but should it stop her from seeing her brother's wounds?
At the hospital she screamed that she hates the father of her child. She is worried how the child would face the world and what questions the world would ask to that child. But if she really hates the man, why was she looking at his pictures that morning, why was she talking to picture the night before and saying she can't live without him?
If she really loves her brother, why doesn't it bother her that her husband kidnapped and attempted to kill her brother? Did that fact register in her head or is it just a trivial thing for her? Did she ever ask him how he is?
If she really hates the father of her child, why does she want her life to become the way it was before?
Why was she asking chotey to fix things for her? Or is chotey just someone who makes her life perfect for her? Is chotey just there to make her world flawless and erase her pain? What about his pain and his suffering? Have we ever seen her bother about it?
Does she want her happiness to come back or is she asking for a sacrifice from him? Is she driving him to the edge?
I felt sad for Khushi Kumari Gupta Singh Raizada, a woman who never thinks of her own happiness and wants to make everyone else's life perfect. I felt sad for KKGSR, who was blamed for no real fault of hers. She has made mistakes in the past, but her intentions have always been noble. All she could think was Di didn't eat. She forgot that she was specifically asked to stay from her. All she could think of was it would affect Di's health and her baby's too.
She loves Di as much Di's own brother loves her. Does Di love her like her own sister and or does she think of her as the Saut who tempted her husband and ruined her world?
I felt pity for Arnav Singh Raizada, a man who is ready to give up his life for his mother figure, his Di. Just the day before, he announced to world that wife and Di are the two most important people in his life. Does he really love khushi as much? Yes he does. He loves her like his own life. His life was empty before she stepped in. She taught him how to live. She brought happiness in his life. She is his life. But his Di is more important than his own life and that's why he is even not thinking of himself and his life. Without Khushi he would go back to being the lifeless man that he was. But the question is, does Di really care?
Different people have different ways of dealing with traumatizing events. Some people can cope up faster and move on; some have a hard time and may even need therapy, some may never recover completely. Is Anjali Jha really depressed or traumatized?
Or is she obsessed, obsessed with her own needs and happiness and perfection in her life?
UPDATE : I guess I didn't hear it properly. Anjali didn't say she hates Shyam. She said others hate him. Thanks to everyone who pointed this out.
So technically she still thinks he's innocent and Khushi's at fault. Thanks Hi50.
I don't know anything about pregnancy, abortion and motherhood. I can't judge or blame a woman who decides to abort a child and I never will. Because I am not in their position and I am nobody to judge. But I feel this is no longer about that child . It is about these three people, Anjali, Arnav and Khushi.
I don't even know if any of you will even agree with what I wrote. I don't mean to sound insensitive about such delicate issues. Even after watching Wednesday's epi, I didn't make judgments on Anjali. But I wrote what I really felt after watching the episode. I don't mean to offend anyone. My apologies if I did.
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Originally posted by sarunfan4ever ( she brought up some important points)
Anjali was and is always self absorbed, selfish woman. We had glimpses of it when she balckmailed Khushi in training Lavanya with the contract of one lakh rupees. Also, she didnt bother to think or apologize Khsuhi when Lavanya called police for Khushi's BG check during Janmastami. All she did was to ask everyone to ignore that matter. She lives in her own delusive world where everything is perfect and I think that is why she stopped mami too when she was about to inquire Shyam.
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