Big Boss 19: Daily Discussion Thread - Aug 29, 2025
Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai - 29 Aug 2025 EDT
BHAROSA THODNA 28.8
MAIRAs SCHOOL 29.8
Param Sundari opens well
Abhira : The self-respect queen
Aneet and Ahaan on the cover of THR!!
Geetanjali Saree look
Anupamaa 29 Aug 2025 Written Update & Daily Discussions Thread
Deepika Ranveer At Ambani Ganpati Festival
Bullying in the first week?
Ijja-jjat hai
Trailer - Do You Wanna Partner - Tamannaah Bhatia Diana Penty
Monsoon Magic Micro-fiction Contest Felicitation Ceremony
Throw back! When katrina did not take 'gentle' gently from Shah!
Unseen bollywood pics
Thank u Doc, such a beautiful gesture... But I believe not the act the aftermath of the act matters, so even though I condemn the act of pregnancy termination but if it can hv life changing effects for someone than it should be acceptable. Like teenaged mother, etc...Originally posted by: sonshine
Thank you to all who liked my post on "Kshamaya Dharithri." Thank you Ritzy, Jhalak, Nia and all those who commented for you wonderful comments.
I know there are a lot of young women who frequent this thread and you read what we write in here. This post is inspired by my REDUX friend Kopal, who is a practicing Gynaecologist. From what we were discussing last night, I came to know that she has had experiences similar to mine, regarding how laymen and women are influenced by what they see on TV.
I know, you are watching Anjali going through a tough phase in her life and opting for abortion. Whatever her reasons, whether justified or not, never forget that it is all make-believe. Do not romanticize it.
This is just to share some information that I have on this subject.😊 I have tried to keep it as simple as possible. If you already know about it, always keep it in mind. If you don't, well I have tried to help you here. If you think I am being a prosy bore,😆 I humbly beg your pardon.😆
MEDICAL TERMINATION OF PREGNANCYAbortion is generally applied to the process of losing a fetus before it is viable, i.e. at a stage of development when it is unable to survive in the outside world, i.e. outside the uterus. Abortion can be spontaneous (generally called miscarriage) or induced (proper term- Medical Termination of Pregnancy or MTP) The latter should be done under aseptic precautions by a registered medial practitioner if and only if the relevant criteria are met. Otherwise it is called criminal abortion and punishable by law.The period of viability of the fetus is taken as 20 weeks of gestation, in INDIA. You count the number of days from the first day of the last menstrual period (LMP) and divide it by 7.
The loss of a fetus beyond 20 weeks is called premature labour, not abortion- again it can be induced for medical reasons like threat to the mother's life. But other reasons like failure of contraception is not applicable here.
This is the MTP Act of 1971, if you care to read
👏👏👏Thank u bush for this nice pc of info,,,,Originally posted by: Arhimaniac
Again a good episode...fast paced ...quickly gearing up ME...gathering of the storm before it unleashes...Episode starts with continuation of yesterday's scene and pre-cap scene...as I mentioned yesterday..Arnav played that little game just to bring the smile back to her face...he also subtly reminds her about her place in his life...he verbally tells her that they are to walk together now...they are one...Khushi out of innate goodness goes up to Anjali to make sure she eats...first she uses Arnav's pain...when that doesn't work she reminds her of the baby...and how important it is to take care of it...something clicks in Anjali's mind...what we don't know as yet...Anjali Manohar Jha..As of now we do not know her reaction to the whole fiasco...does she believe Arnav and khushi or she believes that her husband cannot be wrong...what is going in her mind is not shown...is she in depression or is she black-mailing...However today after being triggered by khushi she has taken a rash decision to abort the baby...is it a rash decision or a pre-planned move...we don't know as yet...The auto wala coming back to ask for money was quite interesting raising a warning flag in my head...Nani on finding out that khushi disobeyed her is disgruntled, mami rightly scolds her and reminds her that she was present to take care...and again points out that Gupta sisters only stir trouble in household...(for me this is again the girls walking out...)-Today Arnav said to Akash that Di will not go with me you take her...- Yesterday's nani's FB...when half way through Arnav moves away from Anjali and the family to take a call and Akash holds Anjali to bring her forward...-Arnav's constant reminder to khushi that he is there for her...his concern, pain an dguilt evident for every time she is thwarted or stopped by nani for her good will towards Anjali ...(for me this points that Arnav might walk out with her...or even if he stays behind the separation will be very minor...they are emotionally bounded...so if she stays at GH and he at RM...then we will get a pre-wedding type romance track)...The Maha-epi promo is out where khushi has raised the 6-month contract herslef...he stops her from leaving and says he will make ker KKGSR..goes with the pre-wedding type romance track...😳The tracks are loosely laid and many options are available to choose from by the CVs...we will get a much clearer picture in a few more episodes...till then ..Food for thought...read an relate to Anjali and Khushi...An excerpt from an article by Susan Forward on Emotional Blackmail..👏Author's Big Thought:
Emotional blackmail is a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They can be our parents or partners, bosses or coworkers, friends or lovers. No matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to win our compliance.
Emotional blackmail is a powerful form of manipulation in which people who are close to us threaten, either directly or indirectly, to punish us to get what they want. Knowing that we want love or approval, blackmailers threaten to withhold it or take it away altogether, or make us feel we must earn it. If you believe the blackmailer, you could fall into a pattern of letting him/her control your decisions and behavior.
Blackmailers create a thick 'fog ' that obscures their actions. FOG is a shorthand way of referring to fear, Obligation and Guilt. Blackmailers pump up an engulfing FOG into their relationships, ensuring that we feel afraid to cross them, obligated to give them their way and terribly guilty if we don't.
Blackmail takes two: it is a transaction. Following clarity comes change. It's easy to focus on other people's behavior and to think that if they change things will be fine. The change has to begin with the blackmail target. Our compliance rewards the blackmailer, and every time we reward someone for a particular action, whether we realize it or not, we're letting them know in the strongest possible terms that they can do it again. The price we pay when we repeatedly give in to emotional blackmail is enormous. It eats away at us and escalates until it puts our most important relationships and our whole sense of self-respect in jeopardy.
PART 1: UNDERSTANDING THE BLACKMAIL TRANSACTION
Diagnosis: Emotional blackmail
The issues may differ, but the tactics and actions will be the same, and clearly recognizable.
1 A demand: it may be direct or indirect and may not even sound like a demand until the blackmailer is set in the course of action and is not willing to discuss or change it.
2 Resistance from the target.
3 Pressure
4 Threats
5 Compliance
6 RepetitionManipulation becomes emotional blackmail when it is used repeatedly to coerce us into complying with the blackmailers demands, at the expense of our own wishes and well being. When you see other people are trying to get their own way regardless of the cost to you, you're looking at the bottom-line of the emotional blackmailer. There is little interest in compromise or conflict resolution.
The Four faces of Blackmail
Punishers let us know exactly what they want, and the consequences we'll face if we don't give it to them, are the most glaring. They may express themselves aggressively or they may smolder in silence, but either way, the anger is always aimed directly at us. The closer the relationship, the higher the stakes and the more vulnerable we are to punishers. When blackmail escalates, the threatened consequences of not acceding to a punisher can be alarming: abandonment, emotional cutoff, withdrawal of money or other resources. Explosive anger directed at us. And, at the most terrifying extreme, threats of physical ham,
Self-punishers turn the threats inward threatening what the will do to themselves if they don't get their way. High drama, hysteria and an air of crisis (precipitated by you, of course) surround self-punishers, who are often excessively needy and dependent. They often enmesh themselves with those around them and struggle with taking responsibility with their own lives. The ultimate threat self-punishers can make is frightening in the extreme: It's a suggestion that they will kill themselves.
Sufferers are talented blamers and guilt-peddlers who make us figure out what they want, and always conclude that it is up to us to ensure they get it. Sufferers take the position that if they feel miserable, sick, unhappy, or are just plain unlucky, there's only one solution: our giving them what they want ' even if they haven't told us what it is. They let us know, in no uncertain terms, that if you don't do what they want, they will suffer and it will be your fault. Sufferers are pre-occupied with how awful they feel, and often they interpret your inability to read their mind as proof that you don't care enough about them.
Tantalizers put us through a series of test and hold out a promise of something wonderful if we'll just give them their way. They are the subtlest blackmailers. They encourage us and promise love or money or career advancement, and then make it clear that unless we behave, as they want us to, we don't get the prize. Every seductively wrapped package has a web of strings attached. Many tantalizers traffic in emotional payoffs, castles in the air full of love, acceptance, family closeness and healed wounds. Admission to this rich, unblemished fantasy requires only one thing: giving in to what the tantalizer wants.
Each type of blackmailer operates with a different vocabulary, and each gives a different spin to the demands, pressure, threats and negative judgments that go into blackmail. There are no firm boundaries between the styles of blackmail, as they can be combined.
A Blinding FOG
Emotional blackmail flourishes in a cloud just below the surface of our understanding. Our judgment becomes hazy. In the midst of the FOG we're desperate to know: How did I get into this' How do I get out' How do I make these difficult feelings stop' When blackmailers pressure us, there is practically no time between feeling discomfort and acting to get relief.
The Real F-Word: Fear
Blackmailers build their conscious and unconscious strategies on the information we give them about what we fear. The blackmailers fear of not getting what they want becomes so intense that they become tightly focused, able to see the outcome they want in exquisite detail but unable to take their eyes of the goal long enough to see how their actions are affecting us. At that point, the information they've gathered about us in the course of the relationship becomes ammunition for driving home a deal that's fed on both sides by fear., One of the most painful parts of emotional blackmail is that it violates the trust that has allowed us to reveal ourselves.
Obligation
Often our ideas about duty and obligation are reasonable, and they form an ethical and moral foundation for our lives. Sometimes these are out of balance. Blackmailers never hesitate to put our sense of obligation to the test. Reluctance to break up a family keeps many people in relationships that have gone sour.' Most of us have a terrible time defining our boundaries ' when our sense of obligation is stronger than our sense of self-respect and self-caring; blackmailers quickly learn to take advantage.
Guilt
Guilt is an essential part of being a feeling, responsible person. It's a tool of conscience., in its distorted form, registers discomfort and self-reproach if we've done something to violate our personal or social code of ethics. One of the fastest ways for blackmailers to create undeserved guilt is to use blame, actively attributing whatever upset or problems they're having to their targets. Once blackmailers see that their target's guilt can serve them, time becomes irrelevant. There is no statute of limitations.' Guilt is the blackmailer's neutron bomb. It can leave relationships standing, but it wears away the trust and intimacy that makes us want to be with them.
Tools of the Trade
The tools are a constant that runs through the endlessly varied scenarios of emotional blackmail, and all blackmailers, no matter what their style, use one or more of them.
The Spin
Blackmailers see our conflicts with them as reflections of how misguided and off base we are, while they describe themselves as wise and well intentioned. They let us know that they ought to win because the outcome they want is more loving, more open, more mature. Any resistance on our parts is transformed from an indication of our needs to evidence of our flaws. In addition to discrediting the perceptions of their targets, many blackmailers turn up the pressure by challenging or character, motives, and worth. We may be labeled heartless, worthless or selfish in any relationship with a blackmailer, but those labels are especially difficult to withstand when they're coming from a parent who can wipe out our confidence faster than anyone else.
Pathologizing
Some blackmailers tell us that we're resisting them only because we're ill or crazy. This is called pathologizing. The experience of being pathologized can be a devastating blow to our confidence and sense of self and is therefore an especially toxic and effective tool.
Pathologizing often arises in love relationships when there's an imbalance of desires ' more love, more time, more attention, more commitment ' when it's not forthcoming, he/she questions our ability to love. Like the spin, pathologizing makes us unsure about our memories, our judgments=, our intelligence, and our character. With pathologizing the stakes are higher, and can make us doubt our sanity.
Enlisting Allies
When single-handed attempts at blackmail are effective, blackmailers call in reinforcements (family members, friends), to make their case for them and to prove that they are right. They may turn to a higher authority such as the bible.
Negative comparisons
Blackmailers often hold up another person as a model, a flawless ideal against which we fall short. Negative comparisons make us feel suddenly deficient. We react competitively.
The Inner World of the Blackmailer
Emotional blackmailers hate to lose. Blackmailers can't tolerate frustration. To the blackmailer, frustration is connected to deep, resonant fears of loss and deprivation, and they experience it as a warning that unless they take immediate action they'll face intolerable consequences. These convictions may be rooted in a lengthy history of feeling anxious and insecure. Complementing and reinforcing possible genetic factors are powerful messages from our caretakers and society about whom we are and how we are supposed to behave. Blackmailers believe that they can compensate for some of the frustrations of the past by changing the current reality.
The potential for blackmail rises dramatically during such crises as a separation or divorce, loss of a job, illness and retirement, which undermine blackmailers' sense of themselves as valuable people. Often people who have had everything and have been overprotected and indulged have had little opportunity to develop confidence in their ability to handle any kind of loss. At the first hint that they might be deprived, they panic, and shore themselves up with blackmail.
Usually blackmailers focus totally on their needs, their desires; they don't seem to be the least bit interested in our needs or how their pressure is affecting us. They often behave as though each disagreement is the make-or-break factor in the relationship.
Blackmailers frequently win with tactics that create an insurmountable rift in the relationship. Yet the short-term victory often appears to be enough of a triumph ' as if there were no future to consider. Most blackmailers operate from an I-want-what-I want-when-I-want it mind-set. Any logic or ability to see the consequences of their actions is obscured by the urgency blackmailers feel to hold on to what they have.
The most important thing to take away from the tour of a blackmailer's psyche is that emotional blackmailer sounds like it's all about you and feels like it's all about you, but for the most part it's not about you at all. Instead it flows from and tries to stabilize some fairly insecure places inside the blackmailer. Many times it has more to do with the past than the present, and it's more concerned with filling the blackmailer's needs than with anything the blackmailer says we did or didn't do.
It takes two
Blackmail cannot work without the target's active participation. The target gives it permission to occur. You may be aware of the blackmail but feel as though you can't resist it, because the blackmailer's pressure sets off almost programmed responses in you, and you're reacting automatically or impulsively.
Blackmailers may be aware of your hot buttons. Faced with resistance, blackmailers' fear of deprivation kicks in and they use every bit of information to ensure that they prevail. The protective qualities that we have that open us up to emotional blackmail are:
' An excessive need for approval
' An intense fear of anger
' A need for peace at any price
' A tendency to take too much responsibility for other people's lives
' A high level of self-doubt
When kept in balance and alternated with other behavior, none of these styles dooms you to the status of 'preferred target' of an emotional blackmailer. Emotional blackmailing takes training and practice. Emotional blackmailers take their cues from our responses to their testing, and they learn from both what we do and what we don't do.
Originally posted by: redwine1
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NOTICE:This is space is hereby booked by Ms. Gul Khan .. this is the space where the PARTY of the year is happening today ... A couple of weeks back the said show IPKKND .. hit a BIG 1 year mark .. for a lot of actors on the show it was FIRST .. but due to unavalibilty of some Main Leads .. & some not so main leads ( who were busy whispering threats in our ears on the sidelines) ... we were unable to celebrate. Today marked the resurgence of IPK .. One of the most strong come backs in the last 1 year of our serial ... in the name of BUDGET conserving we here at IPKKND .. will be throwing a combined party .. SO GUYS STEP IN .. with ur party shoes .. & LETS ENJOY ... IPKKND._____________________________________________________________________________The reason i am not making an episodic post here today is because in the last couple of days i have seen a sway of emotions & reactions in all here .. people who have loved a segment or episode or simply detested it .. while some people questioning it ...Guys .. to me this is the MOST EXCITING time in IPK history .. the time we have waited for patiently for the last one year ...We got the Leads in Love this weekWe got the exposure of the villain this weekWe got some rocking promos this week ( Gutter alert : todays) ..We got some parallel tracks opening up here today ( pay ash & Anjali)We got drama galore this weekWe got some desperately wanted SLAPs this weekWe got yet another Prakash brother this weekWe got a sauve handsome dreamboat this week ( out of the vest )We got Khushi in a new Suit this week ( yesterday & today)We got the opening of a new track this week ...We Were back in TOP 5 in TRPWe got a ME confirmation to happen( Above week = TRP week )UFF 5 days mein kitna kuch mila hai ... & we have not celebrated ...Today one request to all who stop here to read .. & press like .. it will be a great time to reminisce & rethink why we LOVE This show .. Why We have Stayed with this Show till date ... & are we GETTING all that we wanted from this show today ... isn't the maker delivering to us what we wanted ...!I am sure once u have thought through .. u will step in to party as well . . & celebrate our reason for BONDING .. IPK .I will cover todays episode & my thots on the same in tomorrows post ... if u have any queries do drop a note on chat here or a PM & will certainly revert ...Thank you Guys ..C U AT THE PARTIES ..
Originally posted by: redwine1
Guys .. to me this is the MOST EXCITING time in IPK history .. the time we have waited for patiently for the last one year ...We got the Leads in Love this weekWe got the exposure of the villain this weekWe got some rocking promos this week ( Gutter alert : todays) ..We got some parallel tracks opening up here today ( pay ash & Anjali)We got drama galore this weekWe got some desperately wanted SLAPs this weekWe got yet another Prakash brother this weekWe got a sauve handsome dreamboat this week ( out of the vest )We got Khushi in a new Suit this week ( yesterday & today)We got the opening of a new track this week ...We Were back in TOP 5 in TRPWe got a ME confirmation to happen( Above week = TRP week )C U AT THE PARTIES ..
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