Sr.Scindia's anger isn't completely unjustified:VB pg 5

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Janaki

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Posted: 13 years ago

Yes, I agree that it would be unfair of Paridhi to give up her job, but I also think Sr. Scindiya's anger is a bit justified, as he was lied to, no one ever let him know that Paridhi had returned to work as the elder of the house, and Paridhi was kind of making a spectacle of herself in front of others, not to mention that her crowd was blocking traffic which would make any working man or woman angry who needed to get to an important meeting.

In this issue, I don't think Sr. Scindiya's anger is completely unjustified, but what do you think would be the best decision they should all take in the case of Paridhi's career? Should Paridhi be allowed to go to her career without having any responsibilities in the household at all? Wouldn't that be unfair on Vidhi and Aarti? Shoudn't all three bahus share equal responsibilities?

Maybe Paridhi can work 3 out of 5 days of the week so that she can attend to family responsibilities as well. I don't think CVs should make a decision that is completely in favor of either Paridhi or Sr. Scindiya. This is the perfect time to show how families should compromise their interests for each other. Prateek's parents should understand that Paridhi is a career-oriented woman, and Paridhi should understand that she should be at home some of the time too. Maybe she can change her job to be part-time so that she gets both the enjoyment of a career and also adjusts her life as a responsible married woman.

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Mamita

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Posted: 13 years ago

Agree with you that Sr. Scindia's anger is not unjustified completely because he was lied to. He is the decision maker in the house and yet he was oblivious of the fact that his youngest DIL goes to work which everybody knew. So the rise in his temper is completely expected.😉

I also agree with the solution you gave...😊 Paridhi need not go to the Radio station everyday. She needs to realise her duties as a Scindia bahu too which can be possible only if she stays at home at least for sometime and observes how the other DILs are working. We saw initially that she doesn't pay too much attention to the tradition and rituals etc. But she needs to learn all of them. So I feel that the Scindias should talk over this problem and come to a mutual agreement. 👍🏼

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Priya Desai

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Posted: 13 years ago

I agree that a woman should be independent and should still have the right to work after marriage, but Paridhi doesn't know how to do a single thing, which is wrong. She's been spoonfed and pampered way to much and it's about time that she actually knows how to do some things.

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Anubhuti

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Posted: 13 years ago

I think Paridhi should be allowed to carry on with her career and no I don't think she should compromise her working days either...

That not what family is... in many houshold some pple work and some doesn't and if other bahus don't go for work it is not her fault at all.

Even after going to work she can share her share of work at home...like in morning she can help a little in start up or at night she can do some work, but again that doesn't mean that even if she is tired whole day she have to do whole her home shecdule... it can be compromised. If Men go to work, they are not asked to share work at home then why women... she and Prateek can share the resposibilty of household to make up for others but again in healthy environment, it should not be a competetion that if i work this much at home, you too have too.. your career is your issue.

If both husband and wife work both should share household work to make things look fair for other, why should she compromise her career just because she got married.

For Papa scindia, Yes is anger this time is justified.

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gafulu14

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Posted: 13 years ago

i think she should work on her carrier, but take family responsibility little. house work arti or vidi don't have to worry coze partike know how to help in kiychen

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: tellyme
I think Paridhi should be allowed to carry on with her career and no I don't think she should compromise her working days either...

That not what family is... in many houshold some pple work and some doesn't and if other bahus don't go for work it is not her fault at all.

Even after going to work she can share her share of work at home...like in morning she can help a little in start up or at night she can do some work, but again that doesn't mean that even if she is tired whole day she have to do whole her home shecdule... it can be compromised. If Men go to work, they are not asked to share work at home then why women... she and Prateek can share the resposibilty of household to make up for others but again in healthy environment, it should not be a competetion that if i work this much at home, you too have too.. your career is your issue.

If both husband and wife work both should share household work to make things look fair for other, why should she compromise her career just because she got married.

For Papa scindia, Yes is anger this time is justified.

agree with you!

Firstly, i believe it's Pari's choice if she wants to work or not but she should be able to convince her in-laws about doing a job. She is no more a single woman, she has responsibilities towards her husband, her in laws and other family members. Just because she is working doesn't mean she can ignore her duties!

Secondly, balancing office and house work is no easy thing. Support from the husband and family is very much required.

It's a good thing that Pari works for a Radio station and not an office 8 hrs five days a week job, She can have her show timings changed and come up with a much flexible schedule to give sufficient time for her family.

As Scindias are financially very sound there is not financial need for their DILs to work. Pari's work is more of her passion to RJ than for money. The only problem is SP & G3 are not broad minded for them men go and work while women take care of kitchen, kids and house responsibilities.

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KhatamKahani

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Posted: 13 years ago

It's not Pardidhi's fault the other two don't work, are not allowed to work. Besides, Prateek helps out a lot with the kitchen matters. So it actually evens out. Why is it expected of Paridhi that she should be in the kitchen, doing bahu duties? I don't see Yash or Pankaj in the kitchen. Yeah, they work for the family business. Well Paridhi is bringing in her own source of income as well. It's not a matter of needing the money or not needing the money.

It evens out because Prateek does still cook and make dishes and such. His mother hates it and tries to limit it, but he still does it. Even if we don't see it as much, it's implied. And that's another thing. Let's say he's not doing it so much because Gayatree is trying to keep him out of the kitchen.

How is that right? Let Prateek do some cooking as well and the excuse that all the work is on Aarti's and Paridhi's shoulders shatters. It's not all on them. They have Prateek. The only thing is, people expect that it should be the duty of the three bahus, and not of a man.

It's not Paridhi's fault. It's Prateek's own fault for not talking to his father. She manipulated the situation because she had to. Prateek would've kept avoiding the matter. We saw him avoid the matter when Yash wanted to talk to SP Scindia. Prateek was more than happy and willing for Paridhi to continue working in secret.

Paridhi did what she had to do because Prateek was never going to stand up and bring the issue up.

Yes, SP Scindia is justified in his anger as no one told him and everyone lied to him.

But if he disallows Paridhi to work, he is not justified.

I haven't watched today's episode yet. But Paridhi should stick to her will to work. And Prateek should support her. They are grown, married adults. It's their choice. Not SP Scindia's.

And the joint family excuse doesn't work with me, either. I've seen plenty of modern joint families. They don't all bow down to the elders. People and couples have independence and a right to their opinions and decisions.

Unlike what some of these serials portray. Yes, it makes sense in the Scindia household because they are more conservative and traditional. But it's not the case that joint household means that the "elders" rule the household and make all the decisions and no one else has any say in the matter.

And to be fair, there are serials which show modern joint families.

Edited by likarsh - 13 years ago

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Janaki

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: tellyme
I think Paridhi should be allowed to carry on with her career and no I don't think she should compromise her working days either...

That not what family is... in many houshold some pple work and some doesn't and if other bahus don't go for work it is not her fault at all.

Even after going to work she can share her share of work at home...like in morning she can help a little in start up or at night she can do some work, but again that doesn't mean that even if she is tired whole day she have to do whole her home shecdule... it can be compromised. If Men go to work, they are not asked to share work at home then why women... she and Prateek can share the resposibilty of household to make up for others but again in healthy environment, it should not be a competetion that if i work this much at home, you too have too.. your career is your issue.

If both husband and wife work both should share household work to make things look fair for other, why should she compromise her career just because she got married.

For Papa scindia, Yes is anger this time is justified.

I do understand what you're saying, but it's also unfair for a woman to both work and manage the household. I've seen households where women are forced to work and take care of the house at the same time, and they're exhausted by the end of the day. That's why I'm suggesting Paridhi work part-time. When she married Prateik, she knew she was marrying into an orthodox family, so I think Paridhi has some responsibility to family as well as work. It would be difficult for her to do both so she can stay at home two days of the week and go to work three, since weekends are free for her anyway.

Also, I don't think we can compare men and women when it comes to Indian culture. Our culture is very different from western culture and women are still the primary caregivers in Indian culture. They are the ones who mostly rear the children, and they are the ones who take care of majority household duties. You cannot change the whole culture because it's the oldest culture in the world's civilizations. Instead, a modern woman can work with it instead of fighting against it, and make compromises with the family so that she's still allowed to enjoy a career.

When one marries, they do not marry just their partner but their partner's family as well, so Paridhi should not completely disregard the Scindiya's wishes when it comes to career. Like Aarti returned to the family with their blessings, likewise Paridhi should convince them and work with their blessings, not against them.

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ToxicRebel

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Posted: 13 years ago

How about this.. husbands should start working part time and helping out in the house part time too... you know.. compromise..

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Janaki

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Originally posted by: ToxicRebel
How about this.. husbands should start working part time and helping out in the house part time too... you know.. compromise..

Yeah, that's great and all, but it's not realistic. I'm trying to make a point about what is realistic in a typical Indian household, and honestly, no husband works part-time. This may or may not be hard to swallor for some people, but India is not feminism-based like western countries. Majority of Indian households are like the Scindiya household, and if a couple wants to make a marriage work, and if both the partners want to work, it's typically the wife who makes more compromises. Husbands aren't tyrants, but Indian culture is based on the ideal that a husband is the head of the household, or his father. Women are the ones who take care of household duties. If a woman wants to work, it falls on her to do part-time or quit her job, unless her family doesn't mind her working full-time, but that is not the case for most families.

In India, a family DOES have a say in a couple's life. It's not like western families where a wife and husband are completely separated from their families. That's not Indian culture, so for Paridhi and Prateik to make their marriage work, they definitely need to make a compromise with the Scindiya's ideals. Prateik already helps with the kitchen-work way more than Paridhi does, and he too has a job, so if Paridhi can also prove herself to be a dutiful DIL while at the same time working, that'd be the ideal situation for everyone.

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