Sr.Scindia's anger isn't completely unjustified:VB pg 5 - Page 2

Originally posted by: Kai.

agree with you!

Firstly, i believe it's Pari's choice if she wants to work or not but she should be able to convince her in-laws about doing a job. She is no more a single woman, she has responsibilities towards her husband, her in laws and other family members. Just because she is working doesn't mean she can ignore her duties!

Secondly, balancing office and house work is no easy thing. Support from the husband and family is very much required.

It's a good thing that Pari works for a Radio station and not an office 8 hrs five days a week job, She can have her show timings changed and come up with a much flexible schedule to give sufficient time for her family.

As Scindias are financially very sound there is not financial need for their DILs to work. Pari's work is more of her passion to RJ than for money. The only problem is SP & G3 are not broad minded for them men go and work while women take care of kitchen, kids and house responsibilities.

Originally posted by: JanakiRaghunath

Yeah, that's great and all, but it's not realistic. I'm trying to make a point about what is realistic in a typical Indian household, and honestly, no husband works part-time. This may or may not be hard to swallor for some people, but India is not feminism-based like western countries. Majority of Indian households are like the Scindiya household, and if a couple wants to make a marriage work, and if both the partners want to work, it's typically the wife who makes more compromises. Husbands aren't tyrants, but Indian culture is based on the ideal that a husband is the head of the household, or his father. Women are the ones who take care of household duties. If a woman wants to work, it falls on her to do part-time or quit her job, unless her family doesn't mind her working full-time, but that is not the case for most families.

In India, a family DOES have a say in a couple's life. It's not like western families where a wife and husband are completely separated from their families. That's not Indian culture, so for Paridhi and Prateik to make their marriage work, they definitely need to make a compromise with the Scindiya's ideals. Prateik already helps with the kitchen-work way more than Paridhi does, and he too has a job, so if Paridhi can also prove herself to be a dutiful DIL while at the same time working, that'd be the ideal situation for everyone.

Originally posted by: JanakiRaghunath

Yeah, that's great and all, but it's not realistic. I'm trying to make a point about what is realistic in a typical Indian household, and honestly, no husband works part-time. This may or may not be hard to swallor for some people, but India is not feminism-based like western countries. Majority of Indian households are like the Scindiya household, and if a couple wants to make a marriage work, and if both the partners want to work, it's typically the wife who makes more compromises. Husbands aren't tyrants, but Indian culture is based on the ideal that a husband is the head of the household, or his father. Women are the ones who take care of household duties. If a woman wants to work, it falls on her to do part-time or quit her job, unless her family doesn't mind her working full-time, but that is not the case for most families.

In India, a family DOES have a say in a couple's life. It's not like western families where a wife and husband are completely separated from their families. That's not Indian culture, so for Paridhi and Prateik to make their marriage work, they definitely need to make a compromise with the Scindiya's ideals. Prateik already helps with the kitchen-work way more than Paridhi does, and he too has a job, so if Paridhi can also prove herself to be a dutiful DIL while at the same time working, that'd be the ideal situation for everyone.

Originally posted by: ToxicRebel

I mean no disrespect but this is the 21st century. As proud and boastful we are of our culture, we must also realize that we are not perfect.. nor we have been. Equality has been and unfortunately continues to remain a topic of distress in our nation... Why must the woman still continue to compromise? Why can the man not compromise too? The girl just wants to work. What exactly is the responsibility of dutiful bahu according to you? Making khana din mein teen baar.. In'laws ki seva..?? What about your own life? Don't get me wrong. A wife should be dutiful and so should be a husband. Pratik's doing a good job of it so far. This I feel is not a situation of East vs. West... but pig-headedness... WHy should the poor girl not work? She has every rightful right to work full time.. and I stand by my belief. So it is good that show is showing this.. we need to break out of this silly mould of women always making comprises,, Why can it not work both ways.. The west prays to male deities and .. we in India have more Goddess that we pray to than our ability to count... so you can't see we are NOT feminine based!!! We are just unfair to females.. Thats all..

Originally posted by: tellyme

Hi Dear...

Today Indian cultre have changed and atleast in educated family it has...

If both work, wife may do the cooking but it is not she only to handle all household work... husbands do share as they see both of them are coming tired same way.

Even in-laws these days try to understand and they don't expect a women to work whole day hard and do whole household work all alone...

Like in my family too we are five co-sisters and we two most youngest ones are working others are house wife and they do understand if someone comes all tired and if husband help,no one will mind.

In joint family too these days its not like only wifes are supposed to help and husband doesn't. India is changing and that is I am talking with my experience.

And sometimes when needed, yes husbands cut short their working hour depending on situation and kind of wrk profile they have...

Originally posted by: ToxicRebel

I mean no disrespect but this is the 21st century. As proud and boastful we are of our culture, we must also realize that we are not perfect.. nor we have been. Equality has been and unfortunately continues to remain a topic of distress in our nation... Why must the woman still continue to compromise? Why can the man not compromise too? The girl just wants to work. What exactly is the responsibility of dutiful bahu according to you? Making khana din mein teen baar.. In'laws ki seva..?? What about your own life? Don't get me wrong. A wife should be dutiful and so should be a husband. Pratik's doing a good job of it so far. This I feel is not a situation of East vs. West... but pig-headedness... WHy should the poor girl not work? She has every rightful right to work full time.. and I stand by my belief. So it is good that show is showing this.. we need to break out of this silly mould of women always making comprises,, Why can it not work both ways.. The west prays to male deities and .. we in India have more Goddess that we pray to than our ability to count... so you can't see we are NOT feminine based!!! We are just unfair to females.. Thats all..