Should one continue in a loveless marriage

Part of the motivation for the post is Prashant's rant about Aarti forcing her 'love' on him. I know Prashant is a pig for abandoning her when she was pregnant. However, it begs the really important question - if he didnt love her at all, is'nt it better that he let her go?

Lets say Prashant was a decent guy and wanted to do the honorable thing but he fell genuinely in love with someone else. What would that have looked like? He would have let Aarti down gently but continue to be involved with Ansh. However, Aarti being so consumed by him would never have understood this at all. Is that fair to either.

I know loyalty is very important and so are stable marriages but how does one balance that with loveless relationships. I have seen couples who stay together only for kids but are so frustrated in the marriage that the kids are exposed to all that anyway. One of my friends whose parents fought all the time actually said to me she wished her parents separated when they could.

Thoughts?

well aperantly parchant( whatever his names is) cheated on her. and secondly if he did' int love or not even sure that he is able to live his whole with her why married her in the first place? and got her pregnant. i mean what was all thos lovey -dovy talks that arti has flashbacks?

but yes you do got a point, after every storm there is rainbow. if good that the parchant left her, not the storm is about to end( if cvs wills) and her son is to get a better father.

Originally posted by: LOVE_DMG

well aperantly parchant( whatever his names is) cheated on her. and secondly if he did' int love or not even sure that he is able to live his whole with her why married her in the first place? and got her pregnant. i mean what was all thos lovey -dovy talks that arti has flashbacks?

but yes you do got a point, after every storm there is rainbow. if good that the parchant left her, not the storm is about to end( if cvs wills) and her son is to get a better father.

Maybe Prashant was infatuated with Aarti and that's why he married her...but now he realised that is heart lies somewhere else...either way he was very heartless towards her and his son...so I don't know how he could love another.

Good point, I was also about to open a topic on this one and esp Prashant's character who I believe is not a villain...Yes he is selfish, materialistic and insensitive but is not a complete negative person...

Originally posted by: yipee

Good point, I was also about to open a topic on this one and esp Prashant's character who I believe is not a villain...Yes he is selfish, materialistic and insensitive but is not a complete negative person...

About your question, being married myself I would say its tough to answer in yes and no...sometimes there may not be love in marriage but there may be other things like compatibility, respect, understanding which keep the marriage going...basically I feel if two people really know it is not working out in any way they should not continue forcibly...I have seen few divorces very closely and know that instead of getting tortured in a marriage that does not work out, people are eventually happier once they come out of the grief of separation.

however the issue in Prashant Aarti's case was that she was pregnant, the matter becomes complicated once a kid comes into picture...

Prashant did mention yesterday about how they tried to work things out but it didnt happen...how I wish he would have taken the decision of divorce before Aarti was pregnant...But then this is life, things sometimes happen when we dont want them to...

Even in yest's episode, Prashant was decent in beginning, it was only when Aarti kept pushing him to come back, he got irritated and had to tell her all those things so that she would stop briging up that topic again and again, as he has moved on in life...I atleast give it to him for being honest enough to own up his affair and leave Aarti rather than sticking around with her and cheating her for the sake of Ansh which would have been even worse...Atleast now Aarti can move on in life...

Originally posted by: desikimsam

Maybe Prashant was infatuated with Aarti and that's why he married her...but now he realised that is heart lies somewhere else...either way he was very heartless towards her and his son...so I don't know how he could love another.

Originally posted by: tarantulla_p

Part of the motivation for the post is Prashant's rant about Aarti forcing her 'love' on him. I know Prashant is a pig for abandoning her when she was pregnant. However, it begs the really important question - if he didnt love her at all, is'nt it better that he let her go?

Lets say Prashant was a decent guy and wanted to do the honorable thing but he fell genuinely in love with someone else. What would that have looked like? He would have let Aarti down gently but continue to be involved with Ansh. However, Aarti being so consumed by him would never have understood this at all. Is that fair to either.

I know loyalty is very important and so are stable marriages but how does one balance that with loveless relationships. I have seen couples who stay together only for kids but are so frustrated in the marriage that the kids are exposed to all that anyway. One of my friends whose parents fought all the time actually said to me she wished her parents separated when they could.

Thoughts?

If Prashant was unhappy with the marriage, he should have divorced Aarti before having relations with someone else, but he cheated on Aarti with Nidi much before he divorced her, which was plain wrong.🤬 Infidelity is always wrong regardless of one's emotions, and it should never be condoned. Prashant should not have cheated on Aarti, and that is a fact. If he did not love her, he should have divorced her before looking for another woman.

Also, it depends on how one views a loveless marriage...if one adheres to the western concept of romantic and passionate love, then there is very little level of commitment, whereas if they adhere to the companionate love of interdependent societies like our Indian one, then they will adjust to their partners' needs and wishes and commit to the relationship. Marriage is not just about two people. It brings two families together so before entering marriage, a couple should be certain that they both have the same level of commitment towards, or else they should not marry. In Aarti and Prashant's case, Aarti was 100% committed to the relationship whereas Prashant was not.

Of course, there are some cases when even Indian marriages do not work out because two people are just not suited to each other at all, no matter how much they adjust, and in that case maybe divorce is the best option for the sanity of other family members, but for the most part, it is our Indian tradition to make compromises and adjust in marriages, because we value such a holy relationship than westerners do. We also do not give prime importance to love in the western sense. Life is not like what movies and shows show. Love doesn't enter our life riding on a white stallion, in the form of romantic characters like Maan Singh Khurana or Arnav Singh Raizada. Such men often do not exist in real life. In real life, we meet people we learn to live with regardless of their imperfections, and we do not go running after love like it is shown in movies and shows. It's just not realistic.

I'm so glad this post got bumped up...I've meaning to comment on this for ages!