What to do with you, Ahemji?! - Page 2

Originally posted by: soapbubble

Thanks Aish for this superb post! you make some very pertinent points - Arshi were always more to each other than friends. It was in the air all the time with them, which is not the case here.

Once he overcomes the initial shock at the very idea, I pray too that they show Ahem more assertive, more aggressive with Gopi. She's taken quite a few initiatives - the candles, ready to keep pace with him whatever his mood... it's time he did some running too.

@highlighted: So thanks, I will not despair yet 😊😛
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Originally posted by: Aish3003

@ bold.. Hehe yeah! We are all looking forward to it!

Originally posted by: tangam

I have only recently started watching this soap, and am slowly catching up on the old ones.

Saw the clip of his entrance and ealier Anita clips they present a suave self assured man who loves his mom and has gone to lengths to please her. Also the anger that is present for the dissapointment taken out on his young wife (and by young I mean not just age but maturity too).

With all that has past they are reconciling their differences and Gopi seems to have matured a little and Ahem thawed toward her quite a bit.

I like the progression though slow it seems to have a continuity (not in scenes but in terms of relationship and charactor)

But this last couple of episodes have me confused while I understand Gopi's nature and having reasons for being afraid Ahem being so awkward does not sit well...

Granted he is confused by his feelings and Gopi's reactions yet what happened to that self assured person...sleeping out on the couch is a bit much...esp in a place like MM.

Even in anger they were able to cope...

Now that he is feeling love is the repressed side of his upbringing taking over as in is Ahem the young boy who never grew up coming to the fore...

He seems more in control in emotion neutral environments ie business...the only emotion he seems most comfortable with is anger...

Forgive the rambling but I am trying to make sense of the person they are presenting and something about him does not jel

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Tangam, you answered your own question. Ahem was a self assured man. He was on top of everything including his emotions be it business or Anitha. He knew what he would feel. I think he was in control.

But with Gopi, right from the beginning, I think the one thing that Ahem does not have is control. Control over his anger. Control over the hate he felt for now..

Now he is unable to control his like or let me say love for her.. That I think is why he is behaving oddly. He just does not know how to behave. For an assured person, Ahem is now is deep trouble. Hence his little boy reactions.. He just does not know whether he should feel happy for the kiss or if he should tell Gopi that he does not expect things from her. His heart is fighting his brain and I think it is winning.. So soon we will see the self assured man he was..

Just need him to sort himself out a bit..

Originally posted by: Nadiamimi18

He was hugging Anita all the time when she was his girlfriend, Gopi is his wife for goodness sake, so a peck on the cheek shouldn't have made a big deal for ahem, right?

I think ahem needs time to ponder over his confused feelings. I think he is having some confusion in his thoughts. One thing is he didn't know what he is feeling for her? is it love or friendship or something beyond that?

Another thing is he is confused not in gopi's kiss but to face her..He seem totally lost and he doesn't know gopi's feelings for him. So may be he is thinking that he can't force himself upon her.

And about comparison with arshi, I agree with every point made by aishwarya. Both couples are different and have their own behavior. It was always accidental in gohem relation and intentional in arshi's relation. So that makes the whole difference.

And I quite liked the fact that like, in real life, a husband needs to understand his wife before having any relation with her, aham is gonna understand her slowly and silently. Giving time and taking time himself, he is actually building a strong base for their relation to hold..

It may take time but its good rather than having a real story like as you know that there are married people living in different places having consummated , even though there is no love b/n them.

So I think they will take their own time and create their own space in understanding each other's feelings and emotions…