teenage marriage

ok so i dont know if we have discussed this before but i just came across this in real life so i wanted to know how everyone felt about it. I am in highschool and these two students 18 yrs old got married while they are in school without their parents permission. These kids are desi so u can imagine the outrage from the parents and even if their parents agreed i still think 18 is too young to get married. I mean yeah u shud date and get to know each other and then get married. u shud experience life first, make a career first and i dont say this cause i am feminist teenager my mom taught me this. she always says that u shud learn ur responsibilities and be mature when u get married. I think that if u are going to hide the marriage from ur parents and u can't stand up to them to get married, and u dont have a good job and a solid career or future, then u have no business getting married. I dont think teen marriage is the best idea. what do u guys think?

i think teens should make their carier bright 1 then get married

lol...teenage marriagez r big stupidity.....
but if any1 want to marry in his/her teenz wat can we do ? let them marry...lol

You know not all teenage marriages are stupidity and i can say this from experience.You know what age i got married at?At 16!Not because it was an arranged marriage but because i got married with my choice.Alot of people assumed that i was forced into it by my parents or the fact that my husband only got married to be to come over to the UK.I dont blame people for assuming like that because thats how human being naturally are.People ask me all time if i regret getting married so young and i always tell them that there is no question of regretting because i got married to the person who i want to be with for the rest of my life.As for the question of career.i'll be starting my law degree in september,hoping to be a successful lawyer.
My marriage is no barrier to my achievemetnt infact i consider myself to be lucky to have a person alongside me who is supporting me at every step.
However i dont think people should get married so young,an ideal age for a girl would be 21 or over.I was very mature for a 16 year old,i looked older and acted older so i personally think it was different for me.

Thought i'll tell you my life story 😆 😆

Teenage marriages never stay stable!
That is a time of your life when you are attracted to the opposite sex. You give it the name love, and marry each other. In my sisters school, there is a couple in 12th grade, married with a kid! And before that, they didn't know it would be so hard, and they are suffering as they have no way to provide their child with that they need. They are okay, but its not a good idea of getting married in that age. Rather complete ur studies, have a career, and then get married..there is no suffering, and a better chance of a marriage staying alive!

Originally posted by: Soruj

You know not all teenage marriages are stupidity and i can say this from experience.You know what age i got married at?At 16!Not because it was an arranged marriage but because i got married with my choice.Alot of people assumed that i was forced into it by my parents or the fact that my husband only got married to be to come over to the UK.I dont blame people for assuming like that because thats how human being naturally are.People ask me all time if i regret getting married so young and i always tell them that there is no question of regretting because i got married to the person who i want to be with for the rest of my life.As for the question of career.i'll be starting my law degree in september,hoping to be a successful lawyer.
My marriage is no barrier to my achievemetnt infact i consider myself to be lucky to have a person alongside me who is supporting me at every step.
However i dont think people should get married so young,an ideal age for a girl would be 21 or over.I was very mature for a 16 year old,i looked older and acted older so i personally think it was different for me.

Thought i'll tell you my life story 😆 😆

Well ur life is very interesting so we dont mind u sharing, now if it was boring ...😉

I feel that you are one of the lucky ones whose teenage marriages survived, especially when it was a love marriage. Like i feel that a love marriage is more likely to fail when u r a teenager, rather than when u r an adult. i feel that at 18 ur emotions are really unstable and u r impetuous and rash (most of the time) so a successful marriage would be rare. I really feel that if u r in love with someone than it shudn't be that hard to wait till u r in a better situation, with a career and an education and stuff.

its not all that stupid...but i think it would prove hard...it would be better to marry after your life kind of relaxes and your studies are in the safe zone...

i dont know about ur points but i wana share a real story of my DADA ABU
my dada abu says when i was 16 years old im flying kites on my roof of home my dada abu was live in jalandar(india)before existence of Pakistan he was flying kites then the father of my dada abu came and said to his son in punjabi " chal putar ajj tera nikkah hai chal shabaash tayaar ho ja " the age of my dadi ammi was 14 years old after getting married they bacame live with each other and mashaallah birth 8 children

interesting na..................

Originally posted by: zhasan2

its not all that stupid...but i think it would prove hard...it would be better to marry after your life kind of relaxes and your studies are in the safe zone...

you're absoloutely correct,it is difficult to prove it to everyone that you're bound in the marriage for a lifetime and it isnt just a teenage infactuation.No marriages are easy,even with adult marriages its difficult to maintain.Marrying so young you feel as if you've been pushed in the deep end from the start.it is very difficult!

Teen marriage-a big NO. In teen years, you don't even know what you want. You are barely getting out of puberty and going towards young adult age. There is so much to explore before you decide on marriage.
Someone mentioned about their grandparents...well that was the case with almost all of our grandparents. My Dadi ji got married when she was 13. Many of my friends grand parents got married at that age and had tons of children, but that was back then. They didn't have a choice. No one had a reason to wait. Many families decided about your future mate by the time you were a baby...but now we have a different life style. We are living in a different society. The way you see life in your teen years is different from the adult perspective. I fail to understand why would you want to get married at that age? I know all teens think they are mature for their age and may be they are in their age group. But marriage is a life long bond. Why not enjoy your life? Enjoy your college years with your friends. I know many girls go to college after marriage, but that's a different experience.