Tumse Milkar Hua Hai Ehsaas, Ek Naya Naya Naya,
Tum Agar Jaan Lo, Tum Bhi Maan Lo
Ho Na Ho Yeh Pyaar Hai, Jane Kyon Aisa Lagta Hai
Kal Jo Kal Aanewala Hai, Woh Baharon Ka Mausam Hai
Roshni Hai Ujala Hai, Ey Haseen Humsafar
Thoda Sa Sochkar, Tum Kaho Kya Yeh Pyaar Hai
Manzilen Humne Khoyi Hai, Raaste Phir Se Paaye Hain
Aaj Humne Bhi Palko Pe, Sapnon Ke Ghar Banaye Hain
Keh Raha Aasmaan, Ey Mere Raazdaan
Tum Kaho Kya Yeh Pyaar Hai?😳
Don't you guys feel that the above song would suit Jai's situation in Kasamh Se to the T?😉
I know that a lot of you guys feel that the whole Apology / Repentance Scene wasn't up to the mark in the Friday Episode, but a lot of you also feel that it was just the kind of Apology that Jai could have offered...and well I belong to the Latter Category!😳 Jai is a very complex person on the outside but in the inside, he is still very much like a child.....and have you ever accepted an apology by a child? If yes, then you would immediately emphathize with the way Jai reacted! Jai was not only guilty like hell, he was also extremely and immensely shamed by his behaviour towards Bani! Just look at him, a self-assured, worldy-wise, middle-aged man.....and he just couldn't tackle the news of his so-called wife's supposed Infideilty! Agreed, that anyone in his place would have reacted in a more or less similar fashion, but then the anyone would have also shared a normal relationship with his spouse! And if any of you think that Age is not a barrier in apologizing to anyone, trust me....try saying a simple, "I am sorry" to someone younger than you....and you will know how you feel....and here a 40 year old man is apologizing profusely to a 23 year old girl who happens to be his wife!
Jai realized that when it comes to exercising his rights over Bani, he is her husband at that moment, but when it comes to giving rights to Bani, she is his nobody.....And that was the feeling which gnawed Jai's heart, made him look like a complete fool and utterly paralysed his conscience! How could Jai face the girl whom he had degraded, demeaned and demolished in just one go? A girl who had married him to save his honor, a girl who had given Jai the right over her as his wife, without ever getting her rights as his wife, a girl who accepted his family as her own, when they weren't even ready to acknowledge her existence, a girl who put her husband's honor, heart and hearth above her own self-respect? Not only Jai, but how can any man ever say "I am sorry" to such a girl looking into her eyes? Please do tell me? Because I find it impossible to see how else could Jai convey to Bani that he is not only immensely apologetic for what happened, but also shameful, remorseful and extremely miserable for all the hurt and pain that he had heaped on Bani!
I thought it was courageous of Jai to apologize to Bani in such a direct and heartfelt manner.....after all she is 17 years younger to him, is his wife or rather his unwanted wife, she has proved herself right without proving him wrong, she has upheld his honor by sacrificing hers......No amount of apology ever suffices for Bani, but still, there was one due and Jai had it coming! I personally do not believe that "Sorries" and "Thank you's" in Love and Relationship do not exist, why not? Every human being has an inherent sense of dignity and self-respect and no one in the World can get away by flagerrating it, the way Jai did.....and incase such a crime happens by you in mistake or circumstances (like in Jai's case) the next best and only thing to do is offer a heartfelt and sincere apology, the way Jai did!
Jai has humanized and endeared himself even more by apologizing in the manner he did....not only to Bani but to the viewers also! I personally thought it was so touching when Jai miserably turned his head to the other side and told Bani that he is a bad human being and not worthy of her sacrifice.....No one except Jai could have the courage and the grace to offer such a heartfelt and honest confession!👏Alright, I agree that Ram Kapoor wasn't at his best in the scene and perhaps that is why the whole effect did not come out as well as it should have, but it still does not take away the core essence of the whole scene!
And Bani did what only Bani could do.....she just avoided the topic altogether! I have mentioned this question a lot many times, asking you whether you think that Bani is a meek and passive person. I am personally of the opinion, that of all the characters in Kasamh Se, Bani Walia is the strongest emotionally! Bani is the one who never has an emotional breakdown, come what the situation, she is always calm, collected and cool and always in control of the situation, quite unlike Jai! It is mostly other people who need Bani as their emotional anchor and not the other way round, with Jai being the only exception! And mind you, even though Bani needs Jai, he has till date never really given his support to her, on the contrary, Bani has always stood by Jai, putting her head in the gulliton instead! Many would pan her by calling her regressive or moralistic or passive or whatever......but I don't think so! Bani would have been a passive person or a door-mat if she was doing all this out of force or compulsion, but Bani remaining with Jai is out of her own choice, our of her own will and because she is in love with him!
And that, mind you, takes a hell lot of courage, to just love someone to this extent......And that way I feel that Bani is the first amongst the best in Kasamh Se!
Now for the questions of the day, based on Friday's episode;
Please summarize your views on Jai Walia's apology to Bani. Did you feel that the Apology was the best that Jai could offer and was keeping in sync with his basic character or do you feel that whatever was shown was completly Out of Character and something more refined or different should have been shown?
Jai's open admission of, "After all you are my wife goddammit" not only made Jai realize & acknowledge what Bani means for him, but also assured Bani that she was not misplacing her feelings for Jai. Do you feel that Bani now knows well enough that Jai has come to grow very attached to her and that might have been a reason why Bani did not react to Jai's angry outburst and barrage of insults?
In your opinion, do you think that Bani has forgiven Jai for his transgression or do you think that she was never angry or upset towards him, and hence even if Jai had not apologized, Bani would have not kept any grudges in her heart against him? Also, do you feel that incase Bani has forgiven and forgotten Jai's harsh and cruel jibes against her, was she right in letting go of him so easily?
What do you make out of Jai missing Bani, sitting alone in his room? Is Fate playing out a memory from the past (when Bani was waiting for Jai) and is this the beginning of Jai's complete realization of his love for his wife or is it just a temporary phase that has overwhelmed Jai's mind?
What do you make of Bani's statement to Jai in reply to his admission that she is his wife, "Jab tak mein is ghar mein hoon..." Is Bani "telling" Jai that she is in his house for a few days only or is she "asking" him whether he wants her in his life permanently?
Do you think that Anu's wedding preparations will become the groundbed for Jai and Bani coming closer than ever before, or will Bani maintain a studied distance from Jai, considering all that has happened with them in the past few days?
We all know that Jai is going to confess is love to Bani very soon. Please guess as to how would Jai approach the whole, "Falling in love with Bani" thing. 😳Will be woo her in his usual frank and direct manner, or will he give her subtle hints, or will he keep his emotions in check and just pray to God that she comes to know of it on her own? (Since my informer has very generously shared with me how Jai is going to go about winning Bani back, it would be fun to see how many of you come closest to guessing the correct thing!😉)
Do you think that the past few days have been very critical in determining Bani's feelings for Jai and now that she has seen the extremely terrible side of Jai, she will tread very cautiously with regard to him and keep her emotions in complete control or will just make a clean break with their past and yeild completley to Jai?
What is your take on Bani's character till date, with regard to her relationship with Jai? Do you feel that her marriage to Jai has made her a feeble, meak and cowed down wife than the forthright, strong and independent girl she was before their marriage? Or do you feel that Bani is still the same person as she was before and it is only for Jai, that she becomes submissive, subdued and restrained, as and when the situation demands.
Do you feel that once ensconed in a secure, sheltered and safe relationship, Jai will give himself up completely to Bani and will be the kind of husband that Bani always wanted? Or do you think that Jai can never let go of his arrogance and attitude and Bani will forever be doubtful about Jai's stance towards her?
Please share your views and comments on the above, I will be eagerly awaiting your responses......
Cheers,
MT😃
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