Grief does not come with a time limit

A lot of people on this forum have suggested that Gulaal should move on. While I understand the practicality of that advice, it is not always feasible. There is no expiration date for grief and mourning. Yes, human nature is such that we move on, we accept what we cannot control and figure out a way to "deal with" situations. However, noone can determine for another, exactly how long this grief should last. For some it lasts a lifetime, for others it is a matter of days, and everything in between for the rest because every human being is different and has a unique coping mechanism in place.

Of course there is no time limit but if you watch the show closely then you would know that time and time again the writers have tried to highlight how 'lonely' Gulaal really is.

For the show to move on, Gulaal has to have a life other than waking up early morning, doing household chores, continue with her monologues with Vasant's photo,attending to Talli's hairdo and homework and retire to bed with a goodnight to Vasant's photo again. The show does not carry a meaning if viewers are subjected these routine activities of Gulaal.

^Exactly. From no angle do you see Gulaal as a woman who is complete. She has that 'adhurapan' which has been highlighted for a reason. That emptiness inside her which she chooses to ignore time and time again. Kesar is offering to complete her but she can't allow herself to do that due to so much guilt built within her.

well yeah...gulaal's grief in understandable, but then, so is kesar's...

grieving for her husband is understandable, however, i do not think that grieving gives her the right to take some one else's happiness...
had she not married kesar, or rather, if she had explained to him at that point itself that she was still his bhabhi and not his wife, maybe kesar would have had a relatively normal childhood and would have been able to find love elsewhere...

however, because she did not make this clear to him, he always thought of her as his wife and was denied the normal childhood he deserved. in this case, i really think kesar has had the worst lot because losing one's childhood is one thing which cannot be made up for...gulaal at least had a childhood and she, however much she might not have wanted it, took kesar's childhood away from him...

so both gulaal and kesar have sufferred miserable for 10 years, kesar more so than gulaal in a way because during his adolescence, when opinions and perceptions are formed as such, he was away from his family, had the burden of thinking about his wife and had lots of questions which no one could help him with...

i feel bad for both, but gulaal has to take some responsibility for kesar...if only she had made it clear to him at that point itself that she was still his bhabhi...but she didn't...so...

@Meysimi..lovely reply...so agree with you..Btw where is your Neil's best: post me soo desperately waiting for it😳

Originally posted by: manzilmukul

@Meysimi..lovely reply...so agree with you..Btw where is your Neil's best: post me soo desperately waiting for it😳

Thanks Piu,

I agree it has no limit, nor does love and nor does life and nor does grief

i once too made a post about this ..and i used to think the same.. i still do, but gulaal is a tv show, and it is important for a show to keep its audience interested. here the audience is interested in seeing kes-gul.. and yes, there is def no time limit to greif, but the story needs to move on, and gulaal needs to become a little less stubborn for that to happen.