Grief does not come with a time limit

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Piu Chatterjee

@Transference

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Posted: 14 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: MeySimi
Thanks Piu,
I am so sorry for disappointing you. As usual my Migraine has got the better of me. I would post Neil's best tomorrow morning. I promise. I was wanting to read KRML too. I can hardly see what Im typing. Catch up with you all over weekend though my weekend is over.

O ho take care dear...hv you tried vasograine...good one for migraine...

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rakni

@rakni

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Posted: 14 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: enchanted.
i once too made a post about this too ..and i used to think the same.. i still do, but gulaal is a tv show, and it is important for a show to keep its audience interested. here the audience is interested in seeing kes-gul.. and yes, there is def no time limit to greif, but the story needs to move on, and gulaal needs to become a little less stubborn for that to happen.

in real life, there is no time limit, but on tv, there has to be 😊

Very well said - so true 👏👏👏. I guess we all got a little carried away with this show 😳

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EXOL

@EXOL

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Posted: 14 years ago

#13

The thing is Gulaal is completely avoiding the situation which came up in front of her unexpectedly. She is running away from the situation. She had this misconception the world will revolve the way she wants but she forgot every body has their own individuality.Thats what motaba always had warned her right from the beginning but she chose to ignore as if it can never happen. For whatever good cause she did the deeyarvattu she played with a child's life . Whatever child as teenager undergoes leaves a huge impression on their mind and thats what happened to Kesar. If Kesar is unable to live without her today its coz of her.She should own the responsibilty as well coz did she forget that Kesar was one of the Vasant's dream too ? how can she leave him halfway after making him her shadow ? He just needs her around him and I think he can life his whole life like that.

The saddest thing is Gulaal atleast got her father speaking for her but for Kesar there is no one..literally no one!

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without-fathom

@without-fathom

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Posted: 14 years ago

#14

@Rakni - while I have nothing to argue about with your post to the word, you have to allow Kesar his space. If he of all the people must understand her predicament for Vasant - someone (read: Gulaal) needs to explain that to him - as she has not. She has only rushed out of his life, refusing to have one sane word with him - and its driven the adolescent in him so much over the edge, coupled with a decade's misunderstanding/lack of knowing of the entire Vasant murder mystery, that it will not occur to him hence - not so promptly anyway. With a dozen or so people telling him everyday of how wrong he is, someone needs to answer his questions.

There is also a second side. It's one thing Gulaal cannot accept Kesar (or any other man) as a replacement to Vasant in her life (and although the show will move on, I'm with you where you say there are people in the real world who never really do move on - good or bad, sane or not) Thing is, she cannot just deny Kesar his right to feel. He hasn't wished for what he is in, anymore than Gulaal has, and while she herself has had the entire decision making in her command right from the deeyarvattu point, he has only been held onto with a finger and led on. Now he's gotten of age, and has feelings for her - right or wrong - can he be denied those, any more than Gulaal be denied her feelings for her dead husband? He can't force her to love him back, and she can't force him to stop loving her - just because she decides to play pretend game and tell herself ever y moment of the day that he's an obsessing kid. It's as unfair to him, as his push is to her - and the least he deserves is respect of being a grown up now. Who, even if he can't control all his life's decisions - given her half role in them - should at least be allowed to decide what he feels for whom.

And in that light, I find myself unable to side up solely with Gul, or Kesar, despite each with their own share of grief.

JZee

Edited by JZephyr - 14 years ago