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kananya

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Posted: 14 years ago

After seeing all the episodes of ME so far, I noticed that whenever there is an MIL or an adult live in maid, there is no cooperation for the new member. Right from Poojabedi's maid, Sudesh Berry's SIL, Mumbai mom's mother(sujatha agarwal episode) to vaishnavi's MIL they all tried to resist the newcomer. The only exceptions I can think are Apara Mehta's family and to a little extent Zohra's MIL.

On the other hand, where there was no strong female presence ,the moms had it much easier and were able to convince and impose their rules. Looks like men just give in knowing its only for a few days without making big issues.

I know that in yesterday's episode, Raja's wife has a lot of issues, but Vaishnavi's MIL treated her very badly speaking in English knowing that she would not understand(looked like that to me) and ordering her around like she is a servant. God knows how she is in day to day life.

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: kananya
After seeing all the episodes of ME so far, I noticed that whenever there is an MIL or an adult live in maid, there is no cooperation for the new member. Right from Poojabedi's maid, Sudesh Berry's SIL, Mumbai mom's mother(sujatha agarwal episode) to vaishnavi's MIL they all tried to resist the newcomer. The only exceptions I can think are Apara Mehta's family and to a little extent Zohra's MIL.

On the other hand, where there was no strong female presence ,the moms had it much easier and were able to convince and impose their rules. Looks like men just give in knowing its only for a few days without making big issues.

I know that in yesterday's episode, Raja's wife has a lot of issues, but Vaishnavi's MIL treated her very badly speaking in English knowing that she would not understand(looked like that to me) and ordering her around like she is a servant. God knows how she is in day to day life.

The reason for MIL's behaviour was "unreasonable ousting of jenny"....If that has not happened, she might have been something else.

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kananya

@kananya

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: sbanik

The reason for MIL's behaviour was "unreasonable ousting of jenny"....If that has not happened, she might have been something else.

yeah that must be the reason for her angry outbursts, but I still think she could have dealt with it in a more mature manner than that. What's the dffernece between her and sunitha then?

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Abby315

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: kananya

yeah that must be the reason for her angry outbursts, but I still think she could have dealt with it in a more mature manner than that. What's the dffernece between her and sunitha then?

well, jenny was like her daughter and if some unknown person comes and throws the daughter out of the house,how would a mother feel....and mc donald family basically talk in english i guess

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kananya

@kananya

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Posted: 14 years ago

The unknown person came to the house as a part of TV show and it is clearly said that they should live by her rules for 4 days. They are bound by a contract and they should have been prepared for anything. I never said Sunita is right by throwing her out, but what kind of behaviour is this when you order a person to clean the kitchen, shout at her to come back inside and do the work? Abuse cannot be replied with abuse. If it is so, then both are wrong, not just sunita.

Jenny had a problem with whatever sunita did from the beginning. I did not see Jenny being very cooperative either. If I use the same logic, then maybe if Jenny was cooperative, Sunita would not have asked her to get out.

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fast trak

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Posted: 14 years ago

Whether Jenny was cooperative or not Sunita certainly didnt know to adapt at all. She was useless and shows her class. The first instance itself she told Jenny if u wanna fight then im game. then saying kutta etc all the time and that too on camera shows the kind of lady she is. imagine what all she must be saying at home and to harshada esp.

Vaishnavi is adapting types but strong by nature. im sure even if there were ladies in that family she wudve adapted very well. she adores her own mother in law which was evident when sunita called her names and she wanted to punch her back for that. differences will be there in every house and basically all wars start in the kitchen area but females can also be very supportive of each other when it comes to gender issues and also when it comes to sensitivity matters.

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kananya

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Posted: 14 years ago

The issue I have here is for every episode somebody is made a scapegoat and the others are glorified. Being human, everybody makes mistakes, but it starts to jar when only one person's flaws are highlighted over the other. This has been happening for every episode. When Jenny talks, no problem but when Sunita replies, she has no class. Actually my friend who started watching the show in the middle even had a doubt that why when Vaishnavi is so sophisticated, why are her in inlaws so lowclass?

Actually I did not like it when Vaishnavi told Raju that she has never seen such a boy who cries all the time. Raja kept quiet but I dont think any mother will keep quiet for such insensitive comments. He showed the anger on his kid instead of taking it on vaishnavi . Vaishnavi has issues with how the parents treat harshita why take it out on dhruv?

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fast trak

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: kananya

The issue I have here is for every episode somebody is made a scapegoat and the others are glorified. Being human, everybody makes mistakes, but it starts to jar when only one person's flaws are highlighted over the other. This has been happening for every episode. When Jenny talks, no problem but when Sunita replies, she has no class. Actually my friend who started watching the show in the middle even had a doubt that why when Vaishnavi is so sophisticated, why are her in inlaws so lowclass?

Actually I did not like it when Vaishnavi told Raju that she has never seen such a boy who cries all the time. Raja kept quiet but I dont think any mother will keep quiet for such insensitive comments. He showed the anger on his kid instead of taking it on vaishnavi . Vaishnavi has issues with how the parents treat harshita why take it out on dhruv?

I cannot really comment on the class of Vaishnavi's inlaws much as they didnt go into those details on the show. If u r mentioning Jenny then she is an orphan who has been living in the house in order to take care of the child Margaret considering the old age of the mother inlaw and Vaishnavi's profession. Jenny was resistant to Sunita from the beginning I agree but then Sunitas atitude we already know. And be it Jenny or Pooja's maid they all belong to one category but Sunita is certainly expected to behave much better than them. Shes a wife, a mother and a homemaker and more class is expected from her than give swear words on the camera.

The issue wasnt abt Dhruv crying all the time it was for crying in order to get anything and he knows he will get it. if a child at 3 yrs is shown that u can get everything by crying then the habits will only worsen. its a child after all. Raja realised the situation was out of hands and he probably took out all frustration by shouting on the child. and i guess the anger wasnt for vaishnavi it was for his wife sunita. vaishnavi is there for a week and thats it. even when vaishnavi told sunita in the discussion that ur child cries and gets things sunita was quiet bec she knows thats the truth. even we could see that the boy was being over pampered when he kicked his sister or even snatched her things.

Vaishnavi is not the ultimate glorified lady or anything. She may have her own faults but on this show it was the other side that was weaker whereas Vaishnavi dealt the whole thing with great sensitivity. And I feel this will happen on every show where one person will be slightly better than the better. It all actually depends on the situations and how they deal with them in the 8 days.

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atria

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: kananya
The issue I have here is for every episode somebody is made a scapegoat and the others are glorified. Being human, everybody makes mistakes, but it starts to jar when only one person's flaws are highlighted over the other. This has been happening for every episode. When Jenny talks, no problem but when Sunita replies, she has no class. Actually my friend who started watching the show in the middle even had a doubt that why when Vaishnavi is so sophisticated, why are her in inlaws so lowclass?

Actually I did not like it when Vaishnavi told Raju that she has never seen such a boy who cries all the time. Raja kept quiet but I dont think any mother will keep quiet for such insensitive comments. He showed the anger on his kid instead of taking it on vaishnavi . Vaishnavi has issues with how the parents treat harshita why take it out on dhruv?

Every epi they make a scapegoat of the person it is easier to make a scapegoat of.... Sunita started the whole thing by referring to Jenny as ayah. When the mom-in-law objected, she should have understood that Jenny was regarded differently and let it be, but she kept going around in circles saying ayah, ayah.... After that Jenny disliked her and showed it. And everything the mom-in-law did after she threw Jenny out, I think I would have done the same.... Try to think of it this way-- you take part in a game show, the new woman comes in and as part of her rules starts beating up the mom-in-law, or throws her out of the house ! Is that acceptable? Should the son then not resist, or should he think chalo let it be for four days....😲 Sunita thought of Jenny as the maid, but the mom-in-law clearly thought of her as a daughter, she did not like to see her daughter thrown out and declared war.... Sunita should have been prepared for it when taking such a big step.... her fault through and through....

Regarding Dhruv Vaishnavi was a bit harsh, but I think it makes sense not because of Harshita but because she felt Dhruv was getting spoilt with all the attention.... neglecting a kid is not good, but over-indulgence is not good either. She was trying to get that across.

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ThisismyID

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Posted: 14 years ago

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exactly! u just dont ask ppl to leave.jenny was clearly hurt!

as for the "class" of V's family..let me tell u one thing...if a family accepts someone else and make them a part of their family, treat them like a part of the family...that truly shows their class!

unlike some ppl who dont even treat the people of the house right!

I fully support MIL.

her husband was fine in the beginning but when he saw Sunita's true colours, he objected! which was right on his part! he stood up for what is right!

as for sunita's class...did you see the way she was swearing at them! geez!