love someone and marry someone else....

o'k sometimes a girl or a guy gets in a position where he/she has get married 2 a person
that they don't know/love,
but they r in love with someone else.
should they go on with the marriage 4 their families sake or should they speak up for his/her happiness sake?

i know this 1.
i feel th@ sometimes by marrying the choicew of ur parents isnt rite as u probably fell in love thru destiny n should always choose the 1 u love as love is the gr8est gift of life n love some1 n marry some1 will always lead 2 resntment

Originally posted by: samie

i know this 1.
i feel th@ sometimes by marrying the choicew of ur parents isnt rite as u probably fell in love thru destiny n should always choose the 1 u love as love is the gr8est gift of life n love some1 n marry some1 will always lead 2 resntment

but den if da gal goes wid da guy she loves and fings dnt wrk out da guy can go bak to hiz family and it wud be as though nofin has happened but a gal iz abused when she goes bak if an arrange mariage break den it waz all destiny dnt u fink

Originally posted by: zoya786uk

but den if da gal goes wid da guy she loves and fings dnt wrk out da guy can go bak to hiz family and it wud be as though nofin has happened but a gal iz abused when she goes bak if an arrange mariage break den it waz all destiny dnt u fink

Huh!!!😕

Originally posted by: MonicA#1Actress

Huh!!!😕

lol monica let me translate into real english😆

"But then if the girl goes with the guy she loves and things dont work out the guy can go back to his family and it would be as though nothing happened but a girl gets abused when she goes back to her family. If an arranged marriage breaks then it was all destity, dont you think?"

u get it now?

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well now that im done translating let me respond to what i translated..i DISAGREE. i mean whether the marriage is love or arranged "destiny" plays a part in it. we cannot judge the outcome of a married life before the couple is married regardless of how well the two people may know each other.

If a person loves someone else he/she ill never be able to fully commit himself/herself completely to their spouse. everytime they are together, the thoughts of their "real" love will linger their mind and it will deprive them of the capability to enjot life and live life to the fullest. also, their relationship would be tested everyday. If one spouse cannot live up to the needs of the other and cannot return the love they recieve because their heart is with someone else, the relationship will crack. and both sides will be unhappy. it is a lot simpler to marry someone you love and actually care about. marriage is a live long commitment and it should be well thought about.

well i think tht u shd speak up and tell to ur parents i m sure dat they ll help in it and if they dunt like it then leave it to dem bcz whteva our parents decide for us is better bcz they hv lot of experience but u shd once tell to ur parents beside jus leaving wth tht person wthout telling

mst gals jst get emotionally blackmailed and dey go ahead wid the marriage but dont exept that guy as their husband anyone watched Yasmin know dats a classic example

Originally posted by: gk_09

i think we shud speak up and tell them whats on our mind because it's our life and we have to live it not our parents.

Sooner or later they are going to leave and then we will have to suffer.

ur right ennit gk_09 coz at da end of da day we r gonna live wid dat person 4 da rest of our lives but it aint that eazy 4 gals to speak up in all circumstances some cases cme when da gals have to become extreme and leave hme

i guess you have to make a decison as to what is more important to you. the person you have met few yrs or your parents who have given you everything? if its me then i would make my parents happy and fall in love with my husband..