Is calling ones hubby 'aap' that important? - Page 10

I fink d respect for eachodr shud b in r heartss..av seen sum gals callin dere hubby aap infront ov elder n den tum wen d elders arent dere den dey call tum n take dere name😳😉😆

well i feels it will feel gud when u call your hubby in public i mean in public calling tum will look weird and awkward but in personal u can call whatever you want as the relation btw two ppl decides what to call and waht not just my pov

its not important to me but i think most sub-continent husbands wants to be called AAP ...they would still call thier wives TUM...

it was in olden times that a husband would be a 'lord' and 'master' for a wife, and thus he needed to be called 'aap'.

if a wife needs to show 'respect' by not uttering his name n calling him 'aap' then doesn't a wife need the same 'respect'?

it is laughable how the males want all respect but don't want to give it in return. how a woman will keep fast for his well being, while he won't.

here in the show, atleast krishna had guts to say n accept that now that he was married, he didn't need to call pratigya 'ji', showing the age old belief that a wife doesn't have the rights to any respect and that as krishna n his family believes, a wife only has the duties of producing kids.

it is double standards if a girl calls her hubby aap when others are present and tum when they are alone. why not call him tum even when elders are there? you only do it when you feel you are doing something wrong!
it is the same with clothes, I have never seen a man change his dressing style 'after' marriage!

it is the girls who have to leave everything:
1. their parents
2. their home
3. customs
4. surname (identity)
5. religion, in many cases
6. name, in some cases
7. dressing choices, why to leave wearing certain type of clothes 'after' marriage? if those costumes are wrong then why did one wear 'before' marriage??

and it is humorous how the calling of 'aap' is romanticized!!!
if calling 'aap' or 'tum' is no big deal, then let the lady try and call her hubby 'tum' in front of all and then see the consequences!

Originally posted by: shumi.

</div>...<font color="#ff00ff">actually the whole day the wife cooks for her husband and children keeping in mind their favourite items...and she finds pleasure in doing so....and it becomes her pleasure to see how her husband is enjoying her food....she gets more satisfied and happy looking at her husband eating rather than she herself eats. that is why most of the wife don't eat with their husband even their husband insist them to sit with themto eat.</font>
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<font color="#ff00ff">in olden days wife eats in the plate in which her husband ate...😆...and the husband leaves little food in the plate for their wife to eat. if they don't do so the wife get upset or sad😆</font>

same plate 🤢

i dont think there is a difference accordding to me, its not important...id actually prefer tum or call him by his name...
yea but if they respect each other then there should be no prob at all :)

Respect is not so much in words but in actions. One can call one's hubby as 'aap' and then not respect him at all. I feel both the busband and wife should respect each other and it is not necessary to use the word 'aap' to show it. Actions speak louder than words.

wow Hardy, loved ur post!