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Shumi Di,aw...you called me shumi di!?😃...you know what if you want me to make chup just call me di...i will not open my mouth ...this one i have told to my friends in this forum... any way you can call me dadi too....seriously you can call me so.i will not mind it😃 ...i am a fun loving person...waise dadi our di mai srif da ka hi farq hai...😃
There is at least one incident in every ones life when they may have felt threatened. For young girls there is always this fear that such incidents could ruin their lives.fortunately it was not in my life 😃...all prises goes to god. i trust in kiya karam...y it happens to so many girls but not for many girls like me and my friends...is god is partial?...is he evil to punish innocents?...no it is all cuz of their deeds.Rolli's incident came to light because she is a public figure. There are thousand of such incidents taking place all over the world. Understanding their plight is as important as such girls are vulnerable and fearful of the double standards of our society. They seldom come forward and suffer throughout their lives. A little awareness and realization is much needed to at least feel their pain.yep i totally agree with you😃... still you may be wondering why i am against the character pratigya in spite of feeling pity for her....till her marriage pratigya charater is fine.even if she said few lies to her parents like going out with rolli to find krishna etc...fine i don't find fault with her character ( but her weak acting irritated me...ouch!)after her marriage i started hating her like hell...i agree with all those reasons you give for her...fine...but you know what ?our feelings reflect what we are...if i am a cruel person my feeling will also be cruel...if i am a kind person then so my feeling...so my feeling reflects what i am...to know what type of person i am just read my post and stillhopeful reply
yes shumi, I married very young at 21. have been married for 13 years and have two kids. oh i see😃...that is why your POV is very much different unlike few teens here that too hardly 14 to 15 year old ....those who are working hard after every episode to justify pratigya character...they don't even know what is pratical life is...long way to go for their marriage... i just feel sorry for those kids and sincerly pray for their happy married life😊....my pre-marriage life was like pratigya. I was idealistic and believed that everything was black or white.
then I got married, lost some of my arrogance voluntarily 😆😆 and realized that marriage is predominately shades of grey with a few specks of black or white thrown in to provide moments of stability.compromise and appreciation of your partners efforts is the name of the game.
if you do not realize the others worth and consideration and only expect them to appreciate your own or stick to your ideals you will sleep daily in a lonely bed with only your ideals to warm your soul. A very lonely existence.
how about you?yep me too married at the age of 22 soon after my masters....alhamdulillah i too have two cute school going kids ...my symbol of love😃. i married to a stranger whom my father selected and told me to marry...at the very first sight i don't like him and i told my father i don't want to marry him...but my father tried to convince me...finally i was force to marry him...after marriage when i stepped in to my in laws house yet another big shock...their house is not even one fourth of my maika...( cuz my in laws house is in metropolitan city and my maika is in a small town) on the top of that i had three useless brother in laws and one good soul mother in law...lol just imagine my condition.but you know what ? the moment i married i stood for my husband i don't even know he is a bad guy or good.cuz i understood that this what my life i have promised in front of god and my relatives that i accepct him as my husband...without expecting any thing i loved my husband and supported him. surprisingly the same love and support i got from my husband too😛...but i was the one who step forward...😊you know what? some time if there is any conflict between my husband and my father i supported my husband...cuz i can not tolerate or let my husband down in front of my maika. i use to tell to my parents i don't want to go to the place where there is no respect to my husband...even if that is my maika...yaar that doesn't mean that i don't love my parents....i don't respect my parents etc etc...my parents are every thing for me. my parents are my worls cuz i don't have any siblings... my parents shower all their love only to me.when my husband got canada visa my father don't want to send me to canada...he don't want my husband too go to canada...my father was right cuz i am the only child to my parent. naturally they don't like to send their child to that far...i was confused. i don't know what to do...migrating to canada was my husbands long time dream...he applied for the visa before my marriage...just cuz he married to me he was unable to go...finally i supported my husband and migrated to canada( before migrating to canada two years i was in saudi too ...working as a saudi university lecturer)...yaar in india i was working for southern railways central government job...for my husband sake i resigned my job in india and in saudi as well...now sitting at home jobless😆.....never mind for my husband sake i can lose any thing...in fact it is my pleasure😃
that is why i don't like this pratigya charater...for me her character is very much annoying and weird...she is not a marriage metrial at all.it is my POV no offence😃shumi:
your story is quite familiar to me. echoes stories of my aunties, cousins and friends back home.
makes me smile and empathyize when I hear it.
its so funny there are some girls I work with here who are now 40 or stuff and they are constantly gripping that they are unmarried and that there attempts at finding some one special are not helping. yet these are the same girls who think that I am too compromising as a wife. its ironic they are envious of my family life and the snippets of family moments and emotions I share with them yet feel that my mindset is too subservient?? one of htem told me why should i get my husband a cup of tea are his hands broken? and I told her no becasue its a nice thing to do and i am sure if you do it he will do something equally considerate in return.
telling them that a relationship is give and take does not help because they they want to be womens libbers and have chivalrous spouses all at once and experience proves that is not how most marriages work. anyways it is there life and they can live it as they wish. so after a while one stops advising and just becomes a sounding board for their gripes.😃here is the link for tha above post.well to add few more...i would like to say i follow the principle let by gone's be by gone's. by sitting and brooding over the past will no way going to help you.surely ruin your future....and i never follow the principal of tit for tat, eye for an eye...of course i can not expect these things from others .all five fingers are not of the same size isn't it? but i am free to say i don't like those kind of people without using harsh words isn't it?finally and personally:sam 😃...in this forum i see two male wonderful members you and adil. adil is such a cool dude who always make kind posts ( unlike me
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