Pratigya go home to ur maayka - Page 10

Originally posted by: stillhopeful

loveanime:👏
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I have noticed you on Shruti's threads before and know that you like the character pratigya alot and I too refrain from posting on Shrutis threads for the same reason that you refrain from posting here but I wanted to say thank you for saying the above. Your comments were rational and I agree wholeheartedly.

if the CVs do not seperate krishna and pratigya then I hope that they show them in such a way together and individually that will meet our expecatations in the future and we can all find some middle ground while maintaining our preferences and our POV.

Hope

Thanks for saying that. But I must say one last thing. I am not a pratigya or krishna supporter. I support what is right according to my perspective of what is right. I don't like to think I belong to any camp because that makes me a groupie, I dont like being a groupie. lolzzzzzzzzzz

Originally posted by: shumi.

<font color="#ff00ff">well said dear..these are the few reaons why i hate that character pratigya..from the day one of the serial she is just doing nothing but annoying...girrr </font>

i agreee she z so obsessed with her mayka 4m day 1 😡 Feeling awful for krish 😭

Originally posted by: shumi.

yes shumi, I married very young at 21. have been married for 13 years and have two kids. oh i see😃...that is why your POV is very much different unlike few teens here that too hardly 14 to 15 year old ....those who are working hard after every episode to justify pratigya character...they don't even know what is pratical life is...long way to go for their marriage... i just feel sorry for those kids and sincerly pray for their happy married life😊....my pre-marriage life was like pratigya. I was idealistic and believed that everything was black or white.
then I got married, lost some of my arrogance voluntarily 😆😆 and realized that marriage is predominately shades of grey with a few specks of black or white thrown in to provide moments of stability.

compromise and appreciation of your partners efforts is the name of the game.

if you do not realize the others worth and consideration and only expect them to appreciate your own or stick to your ideals you will sleep daily in a lonely bed with only your ideals to warm your soul. A very lonely existence.

how about you?

Hope

shumi:

your story is quite familiar to me. echoes stories of my aunties, cousins and friends back home.

makes me smile and empathyize when I hear it.

its so funny there are some girls I work with here who are now 40 or stuff and they are constantly gripping that they are unmarried and that there attempts at finding some one special are not helping. yet these are the same girls who think that I am too compromising as a wife. its ironic they are envious of my family life and the snippets of family moments and emotions I share with them yet feel that my mindset is too subservient?? one of htem told me why should i get my husband a cup of tea are his hands broken? and I told her no becasue its a nice thing to do and i am sure if you do it he will do something equally considerate in return.

telling them that a relationship is give and take does not help because they they want to be womens libbers and have chivalrous spouses all at once and experience proves that is not how most marriages work. anyways it is there life and they can live it as they wish. so after a while one stops advising and just becomes a sounding board for their gripes.😃

Originally posted by: loveanime

Thanks for saying that. But I must say one last thing. I am not a pratigya or krishna supporter. I support what is right according to my perspective of what is right. I don't like to think I belong to any camp because that makes me a groupie, I dont like being a groupie. lolzzzzzzzzzz



whatever works for you is good. I'm happy for you😃

Originally posted by: meerag

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meerag:

I agree with you that as far as hte kidnapping went she was the victim. she truly was. no girl dseserves to go through that. it is sad that she was punished this way for slapping a creep.

telling the truth is not wrong but how and where and to whom you tell it may impact the sensitivity surrounding the matter.

india towns are very community based. most events in life are guided by societal perception.

disclosing something of the nature that she did in public where her character and her version of the truths were almost demorialized in public by he opposign lawyer is what was caused the family shame. i have seen girls who are molested in India who instead of gaining sympathy face public shame whenthey go to report the incident. their lives and their families reputation gets tarnished for no crime of their own.

SS is in the throes of an election, he is at his most vulnerable moment in the public sphere and her public disclosure voluntarily done has angered them because it blindsided them and their lack of knowledge is easily apparent to the town.

her husband is upset because something this major happened in her life and she did not share (when he asked her for months) and worse still did not find him trustworthy enought to see him as her support and ally. that is why he looked upset and dejected when he left. his efforts at winning her trust have been in vain

don't know if they will show him angry today. that we will have to wait and watch.

After such a big truth came out she should have called her husband before going home. test the waters. it is a sensible thing to do. till then stay at maayka. and if her disclosure for her father's sake destroyed the marriage her father was trying desperately to preserve then let the marriage burn and stay at maayka forever.

I have to say that pearl grey makes this girl take her pratigyas at the wrong moments and for wrong reasons. she gains no sympathy from me as a married woman or a viewer because even her recent pratigya to brave it was not taken in the spirit of being a wife but in the spirit of being a martyr. her martyrdom seems a farce to me, unnecessary, illplaced and illtimed.

Originally posted by: mia03

I never blame Amma, when she said pratz, is krishna enemy. Her father got off, her duty is done run after your husband, try to talk to him. what kind of parents are they, the didn't even send her after krishna. why is the professor, accompanying her to the in laws ? to show he is a dutiful papa.

mia I agree.

I do not like Amma as a motherin-law. she is the MIL from hell. in fact were it not for Amma, pratigya's life with SS would not be so bad because from the beginnign SS was tolerant and di dnto meddle unless force to.

but as a mother, Amma makes one valid point, this is not the life she sought for her son. her son will never appreciate her concern in this regard because still belives he can win her love over which is folly. kids are like this they see their parents concerns as over protectiveness.sometimes it is and sometimes not. either way Krishna is learning his lesson the hard way.

Originally posted by: stillhopeful

yep me too married at the age of 22 soon after my masters....alhamdulillah i too have two cute school going kids ...my symbol of love😃. i married to a stranger whom my father selected and told me to marry...at the very first sight i don't like him and i told my father i don't want to marry him...but my father tried to convince me...finally i was force to marry him...after marriage when i stepped in to my in laws house yet another big shock...their house is not even one fourth of my maika...( cuz my in laws house is in metropolitan city and my maika is in a small town) on the top of that i had three useless brother in laws and one good soul mother in law...lol just imagine my condition.

but you know what ? the moment i married i stood for my husband i don't even know he is a bad guy or good.cuz i understood that this what my life i have promised in front of god and my relatives that i accepct him as my husband...without expecting any thing i loved my husband and supported him. surprisingly the same love and support i got from my husband too😛...but i was the one who step forward...😊

you know what? some time if there is any conflict between my husband and my father i supported my husband...cuz i can not tolerate or let my husband down in front of my maika. i use to tell to my parents i don't want to go to the place where there is no respect to my husband...even if that is my maika...yaar that doesn't mean that i don't love my parents....i don't respect my parents etc etc...my parents are every thing for me. my parents are my worls cuz i don't have any siblings... my parents shower all their love only to me.

when my husband got canada visa my father don't want to send me to canada...he don't want my husband too go to canada...my father was right cuz i am the only child to my parent. naturally they don't like to send their child to that far...i was confused. i don't know what to do...migrating to canada was my husbands long time dream...he applied for the visa before my marriage...just cuz he married to me he was unable to go...finally i supported my husband and migrated to canada( before migrating to canada two years i was in saudi too ...working as a saudi university lecturer)...yaar in india i was working for southern railways central government job...for my husband sake i resigned my job in india and in saudi as well...now sitting at home jobless😆.....never mind for my husband sake i can lose any thing...in fact it is my pleasure😃

that is why i don't like this pratigya charater...for me her character is very much annoying and weird...she is not a marriage metrial at all.it is my POV no offence😃

shumi:

your story is quite familiar to me. echoes stories of my aunties, cousins and friends back home.

makes me smile and empathyize when I hear it.

its so funny there are some girls I work with here who are now 40 or stuff and they are constantly gripping that they are unmarried and that there attempts at finding some one special are not helping. yet these are the same girls who think that I am too compromising as a wife. its ironic they are envious of my family life and the snippets of family moments and emotions I share with them yet feel that my mindset is too subservient?? one of htem told me why should i get my husband a cup of tea are his hands broken? and I told her no becasue its a nice thing to do and i am sure if you do it he will do something equally considerate in return.

telling them that a relationship is give and take does not help because they they want to be womens libbers and have chivalrous spouses all at once and experience proves that is not how most marriages work. anyways it is there life and they can live it as they wish. so after a while one stops advising and just becomes a sounding board for their gripes.😃

guys there is a lot of character bashing going on in here and its against the rules... guys please next time read the rules and follow them or else we'll have to start raising warning level...