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We are all waiting for pratigya to fall in love with krishna
We all want their romance and love stories
We know tht krishna is a very caring husband and will always support her when someone bash her
BUT apart frm the love-romance factor,do u really think that their marriage can work?
They r so difft,not character wise but frm difft world completly..one is educated n the other one isn't
Wat will they have in common apart frm love? How will she live her life in this house? Won't she feel suffocated with her jungli in laws? Won't she feel ashamed of the way her huisband and in laws talk?
What abt when she will socialise with her normal frnds and colleague,will krishna fit in atmosphere? She would propably want to lead a career later on,will krishna let her,and even if he does..how will it feel to have a husband who doesn't have career...
What do you think abt all this?
Also,I would need some advice frm u for my personal life as it does relate to pratigya circumstances as well..
Here is my story..
I am a french born Pakistani girl. I moved to uk 4 years ago and I am 20yrs old.
As a girl my love life has been completely empty all these years. Actually the only person I ever felt for was my cousin. He is from Pakistan and I saw him 4 times in my life since I rarely go to Pakistan. Even though I never really go there to meet my cousins,I do keep in touch with them and have a good rapport with them. The third time I went Pakistan was when I was 14. I spent two month there and it is then that i experienced my first crush.You know the first butterflies,the first blush. Yes I had a huge crush on my cousin,the one that I get along with the most, he is 2 years older to me ,and he is my parents and everyone favorite. We used to be stick together the whole 2 months.I still remember all the silliness we did together,We would always sit together for dinner,during afternoon everyone would sleep and we would spend our time in garden and just talk or joke around. Anyway as a young teenagers, i started to have feelings for him but never told him. A week before I left ,he told me that he loved me. Well of course he was 16 at that time ,so it was probably not love but he certainly had feeling for me.I never gave him his answer and I left the week after. The reason why i didnt tell him anything was because I tought it was silly since I didnt know when I will see him next. And also I was too young to be sure about my feeling,it could have been only a crush and result of spending non stop time together.
Now, 7 years later, I am 20 and I have never seen him again since I have never been back to Pakistan. We still keep in touch as we are cousins. Him and his sister are the best relative I have.
All thought these years,I have never likes any other guy.I did have silly crush,but I always noticed that those guys had always something related to him.Like one had same hairstyle,one was speaking same language,one had same name..but i have always avoided to "fall in love" with any guy since I always had something in the back of my mind that told me that in reality I liked only one guy and it was my cousin. And I am not even joking,till date , I think of him everyday.Since the last 7 years I have have recalled his name in my head at least for 140 days a year. It became like a habit for me to always think about him.And when I sleep ,I always start thinking about all those moments we had when I was 14 and over at his place for the summer. Sometimes i think maybe he is my first love,but then I scold myself that how can love someone i dont see this much. I have always been in the confusion that do I love him or is it just because he was my first ever crush so its hard to forget. I have prayed numerous time to god to make me marry to him in the end. I have sometimes cried also.I dont know why but its like i want my first crush to be my first love and last one too. Even now when I chat to him,my heart feel happy for no reason,even if we dont say anything special,causal talks..I have always dreamt of marrying him,i have imagined even many romantic scene with him..ahah..
But then when I get realistic,I feel that he is no a good match for me at all. I mean I am from europe he is from asia. I have been brought up in a modern community and he has been brought up in a more conservative atmosphere. In my family ,we always speak up our opinion and in his family adult and children don't mix this much. I Believe in working at young age,being independent and I want to make it big with a growing job or business He has never work in his life and believes in a daily routine of good job. I wear only western clothes and in his family they wear only asian suits. I like to do everything for myself alone, independently,for eg ,if i need to go somewhere i just take the car and drive off,but in his family everything is done for you,the food is cooked by cooks,the house is cleaned by cleaner,your driver will always be the one to take you somewhere. In my family,even tough there is respect and love,we do not speak with all the "ji" and all,I mean i literally still sit in my daddy lap at 20 and my sis does the same and she is 25 !!ahah and in his family the children sit and talk in a certain manner in front of adults. Ok there is more differences but right now I cant think of any..
What I always wanted in my future husband was that he was tall, smart and clever with a good high profile city job, very open minded but who I always want is Him and trust me he is not at all like what I want! He doesnt fulfill any of my dream guy check list.
The twist in the story is that my dear parents,wishes me to get married to none other than Him! I mean I should be over the moon right!? But no,I am confused! They think he is a really good match for me,that he is a caring a good person at heart (he is i cant deny this!) and that he will keep me happy and that they know what is best for me! But I dont know! I mean we are so different! If I didnt have these feelings for him I would have said No direct! But I juts cant decide! One day I will say yes,because I ve prayed for it so many times and now that even my parents want it would be silly of me to reject.But then I think on practical life basis. Will our couple be successful or not? Its not him the main problem,but its his environment. The life he has and the life i have is not the same! And I do not see myself living in Pakistan at all! I will simply not be able to sacrifice my clothes my food my habits and etc.. And I know he doesnt want to move to uk since he doesn't see the need to and espc that he believes he need to take care of his parents soon as he is elder son (and i love this thinking of him,i truly respect this).
I did speak to him about this once.Yes we are very honest towards each other. He told me honestly that he knows his parents would want him to marry me and I told him that my parents wished the same.He then told me something that touched my heart a lot. He said that he could not say he loved me since we haven't met for all these years but I definitely meant a lot to him.And that whenever he had a girlfriend he always thought of me and he always broke up with them realizing that it was only me that he wanted in the longer term and to marry. I share the same feelings, whenever i think of future,he comes to my mind. If somebody mentions marriage then i think of him only.
I know i am just blabering on and on but as you can read from my words,I am just confused.
Reason to say YES - my parents will be happy and i will blessed by them all my life. I will fulfil my dream of marrying my first love (i still dotn know if i can call this love or not) and I know he will be happy. I am not stupid, and neither will I play modest..I am aware that he likes me more than necessary...my heart will be happy..i know for a fact that he will keep me happy.
Reason to say No - my sisters and brother will always tease me that i married someone from back home..a freshy as they call it in uk, my wedding will be done in Pakistan and will not have my friends with me ! No one can afford such an expensive ticket just for few days of wedding. I might have to live in Pakistan permanently and it means being far from my parents my sisters and brothers and all my friends,he is small in height,taller than me but not so much..ahah..he isnt so ambitious to make it big,he just beleives in a normal happy life, I might have to wear asian suits all my life! and i havent seen him for 7 years! How can i decide now (lets say there is a proposal frm his side) ..
But if I say no,I know i will regret all my life to have hurt his feelings and I dont knw if i will ever be able to fall in love with a another guy. One thing I knw is that if he marries anyone else,I will be sad,I wont show it but i will be sad.
Basically I dont know if love/feelings is enough reason for me to say yes. Dont i need to look at the piratical way of life? Will i be happy with a husband who loves me and I love or with a husband that has everytg that i ever wished ?.
Should i make my parents happy and say yes and accept that he was in my destiny! I mean he had been the only guy present in my mind or heart ..and now i find out that my parents and his parents would like us to get married. Or do I want to say no just because its parents decisions and i like to make my own decisions? But yet i want my parents to be proud of me and prove them that i respect their care for me to choose a good life partner for me.
Oh yeah i forget! Last month, i told him that i took a decision : i told him that if later my parents still wanted me to marry him and he was ok with it then I would say yes! I dont know why i told him this but I just did. I guess I really didnt want him to think that i was not interested in him.So now it if I say no,it would mean I back up with my words and promise! And if i say no then he might think i gave him wrong ideas for no reasons..and that i was playing with his feelings.
Oh god i am sooooooooooooooooooo confused! Today my mum told me that my dad told her to ask me that if I really dont want to get married to him then i should make it clear now otherwise there would be misunderstanding between the two families for no reason.
I cant say YES to him but I really dont want to say NO.
Please help me......YES or NO... !!!!!-wedding won't b until I'm 25 at least
Help !!!!!!!!!!!!! I cant even concentrate on my revisions theses days !
I am sure there are many British born here,and many india and Pakistan born..it would eb good to have opinions from all. Maybe you can look at a side that i cant look at?!
I will be waiting for your replies ..please help.
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We all want their romance and love stories
We know tht krishna is a very caring husband and will always support her when someone bash her
BUT apart frm the love-romance factor,do u really think that their marriage can work?
They r so difft,not character wise but frm difft world completly..one is educated n the other one isn't
Wat will they have in common apart frm love? How will she live her life in this house? Won't she feel suffocated with her jungli in laws? Won't she feel ashamed of the way her huisband and in laws talk?
What abt when she will socialise with her normal frnds and colleague,will krishna fit in atmosphere? She would propably want to lead a career later on,will krishna let her,and even if he does..how will it feel to have a husband who doesn't have career...
What do you think abt all this?
Also,I would need some advice frm u for my personal life as it does relate to pratigya circumstances as well..
Here is my story..
I am a french born Pakistani girl. I moved to uk 4 years ago and I am 20yrs old.
As a girl my love life has been completely empty all these years. Actually the only person I ever felt for was my cousin. He is from Pakistan and I saw him 4 times in my life since I rarely go to Pakistan. Even though I never really go there to meet my cousins,I do keep in touch with them and have a good rapport with them. The third time I went Pakistan was when I was 14. I spent two month there and it is then that i experienced my first crush.You know the first butterflies,the first blush. Yes I had a huge crush on my cousin,the one that I get along with the most, he is 2 years older to me ,and he is my parents and everyone favorite. We used to be stick together the whole 2 months.I still remember all the silliness we did together,We would always sit together for dinner,during afternoon everyone would sleep and we would spend our time in garden and just talk or joke around. Anyway as a young teenagers, i started to have feelings for him but never told him. A week before I left ,he told me that he loved me. Well of course he was 16 at that time ,so it was probably not love but he certainly had feeling for me.I never gave him his answer and I left the week after. The reason why i didnt tell him anything was because I tought it was silly since I didnt know when I will see him next. And also I was too young to be sure about my feeling,it could have been only a crush and result of spending non stop time together.
Now, 7 years later, I am 20 and I have never seen him again since I have never been back to Pakistan. We still keep in touch as we are cousins. Him and his sister are the best relative I have.
All thought these years,I have never likes any other guy.I did have silly crush,but I always noticed that those guys had always something related to him.Like one had same hairstyle,one was speaking same language,one had same name..but i have always avoided to "fall in love" with any guy since I always had something in the back of my mind that told me that in reality I liked only one guy and it was my cousin. And I am not even joking,till date , I think of him everyday.Since the last 7 years I have have recalled his name in my head at least for 140 days a year. It became like a habit for me to always think about him.And when I sleep ,I always start thinking about all those moments we had when I was 14 and over at his place for the summer. Sometimes i think maybe he is my first love,but then I scold myself that how can love someone i dont see this much. I have always been in the confusion that do I love him or is it just because he was my first ever crush so its hard to forget. I have prayed numerous time to god to make me marry to him in the end. I have sometimes cried also.I dont know why but its like i want my first crush to be my first love and last one too. Even now when I chat to him,my heart feel happy for no reason,even if we dont say anything special,causal talks..I have always dreamt of marrying him,i have imagined even many romantic scene with him..ahah..
But then when I get realistic,I feel that he is no a good match for me at all. I mean I am from europe he is from asia. I have been brought up in a modern community and he has been brought up in a more conservative atmosphere. In my family ,we always speak up our opinion and in his family adult and children don't mix this much. I Believe in working at young age,being independent and I want to make it big with a growing job or business He has never work in his life and believes in a daily routine of good job. I wear only western clothes and in his family they wear only asian suits. I like to do everything for myself alone, independently,for eg ,if i need to go somewhere i just take the car and drive off,but in his family everything is done for you,the food is cooked by cooks,the house is cleaned by cleaner,your driver will always be the one to take you somewhere. In my family,even tough there is respect and love,we do not speak with all the "ji" and all,I mean i literally still sit in my daddy lap at 20 and my sis does the same and she is 25 !!ahah and in his family the children sit and talk in a certain manner in front of adults. Ok there is more differences but right now I cant think of any..
What I always wanted in my future husband was that he was tall, smart and clever with a good high profile city job, very open minded but who I always want is Him and trust me he is not at all like what I want! He doesnt fulfill any of my dream guy check list.
The twist in the story is that my dear parents,wishes me to get married to none other than Him! I mean I should be over the moon right!? But no,I am confused! They think he is a really good match for me,that he is a caring a good person at heart (he is i cant deny this!) and that he will keep me happy and that they know what is best for me! But I dont know! I mean we are so different! If I didnt have these feelings for him I would have said No direct! But I juts cant decide! One day I will say yes,because I ve prayed for it so many times and now that even my parents want it would be silly of me to reject.But then I think on practical life basis. Will our couple be successful or not? Its not him the main problem,but its his environment. The life he has and the life i have is not the same! And I do not see myself living in Pakistan at all! I will simply not be able to sacrifice my clothes my food my habits and etc.. And I know he doesnt want to move to uk since he doesn't see the need to and espc that he believes he need to take care of his parents soon as he is elder son (and i love this thinking of him,i truly respect this).
I did speak to him about this once.Yes we are very honest towards each other. He told me honestly that he knows his parents would want him to marry me and I told him that my parents wished the same.He then told me something that touched my heart a lot. He said that he could not say he loved me since we haven't met for all these years but I definitely meant a lot to him.And that whenever he had a girlfriend he always thought of me and he always broke up with them realizing that it was only me that he wanted in the longer term and to marry. I share the same feelings, whenever i think of future,he comes to my mind. If somebody mentions marriage then i think of him only.
I know i am just blabering on and on but as you can read from my words,I am just confused.
Reason to say YES - my parents will be happy and i will blessed by them all my life. I will fulfil my dream of marrying my first love (i still dotn know if i can call this love or not) and I know he will be happy. I am not stupid, and neither will I play modest..I am aware that he likes me more than necessary...my heart will be happy..i know for a fact that he will keep me happy.
Reason to say No - my sisters and brother will always tease me that i married someone from back home..a freshy as they call it in uk, my wedding will be done in Pakistan and will not have my friends with me ! No one can afford such an expensive ticket just for few days of wedding. I might have to live in Pakistan permanently and it means being far from my parents my sisters and brothers and all my friends,he is small in height,taller than me but not so much..ahah..he isnt so ambitious to make it big,he just beleives in a normal happy life, I might have to wear asian suits all my life! and i havent seen him for 7 years! How can i decide now (lets say there is a proposal frm his side) ..
But if I say no,I know i will regret all my life to have hurt his feelings and I dont knw if i will ever be able to fall in love with a another guy. One thing I knw is that if he marries anyone else,I will be sad,I wont show it but i will be sad.
Basically I dont know if love/feelings is enough reason for me to say yes. Dont i need to look at the piratical way of life? Will i be happy with a husband who loves me and I love or with a husband that has everytg that i ever wished ?.
Should i make my parents happy and say yes and accept that he was in my destiny! I mean he had been the only guy present in my mind or heart ..and now i find out that my parents and his parents would like us to get married. Or do I want to say no just because its parents decisions and i like to make my own decisions? But yet i want my parents to be proud of me and prove them that i respect their care for me to choose a good life partner for me.
Oh yeah i forget! Last month, i told him that i took a decision : i told him that if later my parents still wanted me to marry him and he was ok with it then I would say yes! I dont know why i told him this but I just did. I guess I really didnt want him to think that i was not interested in him.So now it if I say no,it would mean I back up with my words and promise! And if i say no then he might think i gave him wrong ideas for no reasons..and that i was playing with his feelings.
Oh god i am sooooooooooooooooooo confused! Today my mum told me that my dad told her to ask me that if I really dont want to get married to him then i should make it clear now otherwise there would be misunderstanding between the two families for no reason.
I cant say YES to him but I really dont want to say NO.
Please help me......YES or NO... !!!!!-wedding won't b until I'm 25 at least
Help !!!!!!!!!!!!! I cant even concentrate on my revisions theses days !
I am sure there are many British born here,and many india and Pakistan born..it would eb good to have opinions from all. Maybe you can look at a side that i cant look at?!
I will be waiting for your replies ..please help.
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