Parental Pressure Never Works

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Posted: 15 years ago
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As a parent and also as a professional, I can testify that parental pressure NEVER works on kids. It either makes them rebellious or depressed. Everyone wants to be in control of their own lives, even a two year old child fights for his own independence.

Three Idiots proved this point very well where academic pressure from parents was beautifully portrayed.

If DMG is trying to be innovative in it's thinking, I hope this track where Ridz has been repeatedly subject to parental pressure (marriage, divorce, khaadan ki izzat etc), at some point we are going to see her break down completely. She is already showing signs of rebellion where she blasts both Sid and Armaan for trying control her lives....it's that wish to be in control of her own life that's prompting her to do that.

With this new track where Shanky forces SR to stay married, i feel we will witness the final assault on Ridz's desire to be in charge of her life. This time instead of rebelling, she will become more depressed and lifeless. Her relationship with SId was never based on love and now with trust issues and divorce papers, I cannot see her falling for Sid and vice versa.

My prediction and earnest request to CVS: Ridz might suffer a major setback health wise with no will to live. It's then Armaan will have to revive her desire to live again.

Hopefully, We will hear a dialogue from Shanky: mujhey aaj ehsaas hua hai kiapni beti ki khushi ka sabse badha dushman main hoon

DMG CVS it's your chance to show something realistic once again and send out a message to all parents and kids that parental pressure ruins their kids' lives

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Hi Sangeeta Dhi....Nice Post...and well versed with Facts....I agree too.....Even wish for once Shashank would look into Riddhima's Life....and understand that.....He is Forcing her to be in a relationship,where is not happy....She did this for her family...So that Thier name and her upbringing will never be questioned.....But For a daughter who supressed everything for the sake of her parents....atleast This once Shashank must be like Amrish Puri Of DDLJ.....and leave her free from every bondage to a life filled with happiness and love with Armaan...........
Edited by rickks - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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I agree Di! Parental pressure never works thats why I dont agree with this track..I've studied psychology and seriously this is not going to make it easier on Riddhima in now way, but like you said, it will kind of ruin a desire for her to live..shes gonna be EVEN more weak, in the literal sense, and yeah...

Yes, Parents have a right to decide whats right/wrong for their children, I agree with that..But considering its your life, I believe that in the end, the decision is yours and its up to you to make your life worthwhile!
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Honestly...It's so scary to see a youthful show showing such a bad representation of parents 😳
This kind of behaviour from parents not only makes spectators be disgusted in and children themselves be pushed away from the parents...and lose all respect for these 'parents'...but also ruins the childrens lives...! How can such parents ever smile when they've put a stamp of depression on their childs life?
Really really really disgusting and disappointing!
Honestly...Shashank Gupta has truly proved that Riddhima is not his real daughter... And Padma has proved that Riddhima was nothing but a mistake in her life! The amount they have shown concern towards her life...is SICK..I have nothing more to add!
Edited by Preeti_285 - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Yes, I agree. It never works. And btw I hope this happens.😊
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Posted: 15 years ago
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awesomely put Bheegi di!
Yes Parents care about children
Yes as Children we need to respect them
Yes most of the times Parents do it out of love!
BUT

There comes a time in everyone's life where you need to make a stand of your own If your ideals clash with your Parents. What is the logic of Spoiling not only your life but also many others by doing something ONLY becos Papa ne kaha tha :(
The 3 idiots example is so relevant for all of us here: What if u r pushed headlong into a profession you will never make it good at? You will FAIL eventually right?
In the same way What if you are given away to someone you barely know , whom u dont love - Maybe you will try to make it work- But with Ridzi - It didnt work it wasnt meant to be
YET YET if someone forces you to Swallow the poison and live a Jailed life for the sake of Compromise, WOULD YOu WOULD YOU?

The parental pressure will not work ji, not work at all unless the parents want their child scarred for life.
Riddhima will somewhere down the line realise How grown up she herself is and then we shall see what DECISION SHE makes for HER life, not cos of Mum or Dad but becos she wants to live a Normal , Happy Love-filled life :)
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Posted: 15 years ago
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I agree...parents should guides their children ..and should not ..force their views on them!!
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Riddhima was FORCED into the marriage and she is being FORCED to give it a chance.Whatever is done out of compulsion and force is never successful.She may give in to the pressure of society and parents today but a day will come when she will be tired of doing things for others happiness because she will realise that all that she is doing for others isnt giving her any happiness in life.She will realise that there was one decision she talk all by herself and it was only then when she was happy 'literally' and that was when she took a decision that she loves Armaan.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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di ur sooo true....actually sometyms these shows really portrays some
truth of lyf....
parental pressure actually nvr works...
even if it seems lyk working the child who has been pressurized....becomes depressive patients....

well....who knws wat's the future of our fav couple...AR
....!!!!!!!!!
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Again a wonderful post di.

And I agree parental pressures never work. I myself have very controlling parent and the more they try to control the more I rebel. I know they do it out of love and concern but Its just the way it works. They cant always put their wishes on us. Do this do tht, go there.. and here its not mundane things its marriage a life time commitment.. a beautiful relation which you want to last forever and ever.. I mean okay to some extent.. but after some time you have to let the child be.. and here its not even a child we're talking about.. it's a 23 year old girl. Or more? I don't know. She has her own understanding of her life. And for once she took a decision to do sth in her live. Once.. she did what she wanted without thinking what everybody else would react.. and there you go.. shanky comes along.. I mean you cant ever take an independent decision if youre parent always cut you off. It makes you weak and vulnerable. Its her own life. Its your own mistakes you learn from. You can guide them but not order them around for the rest of their life. Its HER life. Cant she take her own decision? Shes always dependent on someone or the other. Always.. shanky, armaan,sid, society.. her sister..

One should let her be a free willed person. Everyone deserves to.

I hope this time around she sticks to her decision or shes gonna go in for life time trap in a loveless marriage. Tht would make her dull and she would be living just for the heck of it.

We do not want to loose our riddhimma, who had dreams in her eyes to be a great doctor and live her happy fairy tale life with her love armaan.

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