Parental Pressure Never Works

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bheegi

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Posted: 15 years ago

#71

Originally posted by: sheel_dmgdiva
I agree with you di.....parental pressure never works... i understand that shashank wants the best for his daughter but has he ever asked her what is it that she wants or tried to find out whether she was happy

From the moment she returned ..all we get to see is her frustration ..anger ...sorrow ..has he seen all that? why didn't he make an effort to find out whether she was happy..at the moment she needs time for herself,to sort out stuff by herself and he can be a support to her and be her for when she needs him but not take decisions for her.. she needs to do it by herself...

Finally i thought maybe ridz will take a decision on her own Its HIGH TIME that ridz stands her own ground rather than playing the blame game .i dont understand her at all. why doesn't she understand that whatever happened in her life she had an equal part in it, an equal responsibility for her present state. All she does is blame armaan, waqt, armaan,her kismat, armaan and sid as well . i understand that she had to do whatever it is that she did due to certain circumstances and for her parents but she always had a choice .she could have avoided this all together if she had the guts to stand up for herself..even now all she does is cry ...and all we get to see is her crying,more crying,more crying. why doesn't she simply accept her mistakes as well instead of blaming everyone and living in self pity.

She is a matured ,educated adult.she can make her own decisions ..we get to see a glimpse of the independent riddhima once in a while and then its back to square one..

you have given gr8 examples di ..3 idiots and DDLJ.. once again a superb post from you ...di PM me whenevr you post something in DMG forum 😆

thanks sheel. Loved ur comment. If her father is a true well wisher, he would try to get his daughter out of this pit of depression instead of pushing her so far, that she might have no point of return after that.😕

After watching today's episode, I hope Sid will be firm with Shanky and not fall for his pleading out of respect.Sid needs to spell out clearly what Ridz really wants because looks like whatever she might say,she is still not capable of taking the right decision for herself

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sheela

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Posted: 15 years ago

#72

Originally posted by: bheegi
thanks sheel. Loved ur comment. If her father is a true well wisher, he would try to get his daughter out of this pit of depression instead of pushing her so far, that she might have no point of return after that.😕

After watching today's episode, I hope Sid will be firm with Shanky and not fall for his pleading out of respect.Sid needs to spell out clearly what Ridz really wants because looks like whatever she might say,she is still not capable of taking the right decision for herself

thanxx di...exactly thats what i felt.. had enough of riddhima crying..i want her to take stand her own ground but i guess we wont get to see that soon *Sigh*. now why was she blaming the men again..calling them worthless i agree they did many mistakes but didn't she commit mistakes as well..why doesn't she accept them first rather than playing the blame game..again she is confused like always..

yea thats what i felt as well..shashank needs to understand his daughter first..i get the fact that he only wants happiness for her but is shehappy ..no ..

i dont know di..i dont think Sid will be firm on this.. ..i hope that he does though ..shashank needs to know that his daughter inst happy instead she is depressed..todays episode she showed her rebellious nature... In the precap she thought armaan u r leaving me forever now why did she think that 😕 and wasn't able to answer Sid as well in the epi when he asked her if she forgot armaan.. 😕 ..Did dhe move on or not? she is leaving both the men hanging by not being able to decide..confused as always..that is why i feel that she needs time forherself 😊

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Serenity_me

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Posted: 15 years ago

#73

awesome post bheegi , very much needed n very mature post.....

i completely agree wid u bhegi that parental pressure never works.
parents luvs their kids n wanna see them happy forever. parents r our first teacher who taught us about what is right or wrong. our well wishers, guide, best friend n one who always motivate us to take correct decision for our life. parents gave us rights to take our life's decisions then why one day they make us so helpless so that we can't stand for ourselves.

in ridz situation she is not in her senses right now, a girl who is completely heartbroken n confined on all sides wid society pressure n emotinal blackmailing.
shanshak shuld understand her daughters situation n her mental state n emotinal level, let her do what she wants, she is adult not a kid and a responsible doc who knows her responsibilities n what good 4 her shake very well. let her make free to take her lifes decisions n he should ve to respect her decisions.

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shihij07

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Posted: 15 years ago

#74

as usual! another wonderful analytical post by you di! why am i not surprised?
initially[ during kash times] i actually love the father daughter equation, riddhima and dr. shashank had portrayed.
they understood each other even with a little communication and reassured and advised each other when they needed them the most.
but after that i actually didn't find understanding during that whole armaan riddhima relationship revealation, until both of them were starving to death.
the conversation which both dr. shashank and riddhima had just before their roka gave us a fleeting glimpse of a caring and affectionate and wise father.
but afterwards, everything seemed to be lost, since armaan's memory loss till the shoot out and then dmg -2.
armaan needed riddhima post memory loss. maybe she was not doing the correct thing but atleast he should have advised her to handle the situation, rather than telling her to stay away from him.
she was bound to commit mistakes and she did. she changed his examaination sheets. here not only ridz but dr. shashank were at fault.
and during the whole shoot out scene, where he was blatantly and continuously accusing armaan for destroying her daughter's life actually shocked me.
and now dmg-2, i really missed the initial dr. shashank who little cared about the society and did what the situation demanded.
i may to some extent agree to it, that he needed to hide armaan's truth coz he was compelled due to armaan's promise.
but riddhima was dying a mental death in front of his eyes everyday. she had become lifeless, irrational, emotionally unstable, irritable and hated her own life, her own presence without armaan. still he didn't say the truth, knowing that armaan was her life. he lived inside her.
and finally when she knew the truth and set out to search him, he sent sid, when he had other reliable persons[ kirti,padma aunty, atul , even himself] and didn't know him personally.
he developed a trust on him just at the drop of the hat, which even armaan took almost two years and deserved an applause.
i could not imagine a parent lending her daughter's life to a random person, be it any reason
when riddhima, returned , wailing about the 'rape', he just reacted to the societal pressures, riddhima had actually said stinging words to her parents but they failed to support her. they both didn't even ask her what followed in panchgani.
nor did they tried to make her understand the truth.
as a doctor atleast, he should have analysed riddhima's situation and give her the apt treatment, rather than the bondage with sid.
he didn't even try to explain the situation to both of them, rather than succumbed to the society.
i didn't understand it. when sister padma 's honour was being damaged, he didn't realise even once that the marriage which he was going to put her daughter in would not bring her honour back.
even after her marriage, padma aunty was being put through a character assessment!
i expected padma aunty to nurse riddhima, allowing her to heal and make her independent as she made herself when she became an unwed mother.
and after the marriage, nobody from them bothered to ask riddhima, about her post marriage life., how was siddhant treating her. and i am surprised, that even on there wedding ceremony,,they didn't ask both of them what actually they both were discussing moments before marriage or something unpleasant had just happened!
parents usually sense things with their experience and logics!
and now when riddhima is actually trying to loosen the shackles, remove the blindfold from her eyes and opening her heart and mind to face the reality, he is again going to unleash her with the whacks of societal pressure, rules of marriage and family honour.
it sounds inhumane and immature.
he should give her some space and time so that the blurred understanding of things she has got right now, becomes clear.
both of them should sit beside her and see through her soul, what it desires. they should let her get out of this stance, rather than thrusting,her in the mess again.
they should act as a guiding light and as a friend to their daughter, rather than assuming or deciding about her life.
its their duty and chance to advice and heal, and its riddhima's duty and chance to listen and decide ultimately what is actually good in the long run!

Edited by shihij07 - 15 years ago

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@ammy-ridz

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Posted: 15 years ago

#75

Wonderful post!!

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Sorry...Din't see it before.

You are soo...Right there di!....It is true that Parents have a say in their childrens life. They can take decisions....BUT that is till the Child isn't mature enough to take them on hi/her own!

The nature, the Birds give us the best example of how a child leaves the parent nest after being well enough to fly, to face the world on it's own!...How flowers detach from the trees when they have blossomed....and if they don't they wither!...OK enough of Philosopy there...I know but it's not my fault ...my current novel making me do that :P

Anyways, point here is Every human wants to experience Freedom!!.....Our history is witness of how much people have strived and struggled for freedom!

And the freedom I m speaking of is not just about a Nation or a continent...it covers overall aspects.....it demands freedom from Imposition...imposing anything under the sun!!...It demanded feedom to live your life on your own terms and acc to your will, to take your decision yourself! without others interferance...and these 'others' is applicable to everyone including your teachers, parents, friends and bosses!

What shashank need to understand here is that he WAS the one to take decisions for Riddhima when she couldn't. But now he has No-Right!!........He had already mis-used his right on his daughter by forcing her into an unwanted Marriage!!.....AND that was the last thing Riddhima could have done for her Dad's happiness and satisfaction. SHE sacrificed her-self. AND that day itself...she was no longer Shashank Gupta's Daughter but Riddhima Modi!!....Shashank had lost all rights on her with her Kanyadan.....

Now..It is her decision to stay in the marriage or walk-out!!....AND Shanky HAS to accept it!!.....He cannot dominate her!...He lost that right!....Now either he should accept her daughters decision or shouldn't accept....BUT he is not the one to force her anymore!!.....Forcing has NEVER worked..and Never will...It will only and ultimately lead to either making Riddhima mentally unstable or Rebellious.....(I m counting for the second one here!).....Haven't we seen enough of examples from reel and real life how a human mind works!!......A streached rubber band, a volcano eruption !!....same is with humans....the more force the more is the possibility of the outburst!!....Whether it is 3 idiots, Tare zameen par, or real-life..Force has never worked and never will!!😡

I just Hope Riddhima realises this and Rebels this time!!.......She has suffered enough by now, under the burden of his ehesaans of adopting her!!...She CAN be selfish now!!....I so badly want to see the Riddhima -Who Cheated for Armaan, Who Eloped to Armaan's home when shashank had refused to AR relationship, Who organised the boxing match and bike-race for Armaan's sake!!.......I WANT THAT RIDDHIMA...PLZZZZ!!!..I know I m asking too much from someone like Riddhima...but her initial image is still not completly washed off my memory....I still have hopes in her....AND besides I want Ridz to realize -SHE wants and Needs Armaan and Only Armaan on her OWN!!......I don't want Sid or anyone else for that matter to interfere here!!...She has to prove and realisze her love for her Amaan to 'Herself' first....before declaring it to the World and the Man him-self!!

Again i m repeating....Great post di!!😊

Edited by ammy-ridz - 15 years ago

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