why people always expect Sacrifices from simi...? - Page 2

Originally posted by: shanti05

Bana I agree with your second point !! I was watching the old videos and when Simi agreed to marry RB Manju was soo soo happy but could'n see the unhappiness on her daughters face coz she was thinking Arrey Simi ko Ek Ristha Mil gaya.. As a mother if she had sat with Simi and asked Beta Tumhey Yeah Rishta kaisa lag Raha Hai Kya tum Kush Ho I am sure Simi wud have burst into tears and told she isn'nt happy !!

There is a limit to ones sacrificing capability and one wants to lead their life to ones wish and sacrifices milestone will come during the life time but dose'nt mean you need to have always peak Milestone !!!

so true manju has been portrayed as worst mother who never cared or cares for simi's happiness. She was ready to sacrifice her but now that simi has found her happiness she oposes because society or her freinds do not aproove of such marraiges.

Simi needs to decide and choose her on hapiness rather than ebing concern about how and what mothrs like manju feel.

Originally posted by: Bana

Sacrifice for others happiness is a much misunderstood concept - do we help/sacrifice for others' immediate gratification or stand our ground and refuse to give in, because we believe the other person is wrong and will eventually appreaciate our decision. A mature person should take the latter approach, even at the cost of upsetting others now.

Those of us who have small children do this all the time - we refuse to give in to some of their demands, making them unhappy, because we believe it will be good for them in the long run.

Secondly, marriage is a decision that is taken today, but with lifelong consequences. A mother becomes happy when her daughter's marriage is fixed, but will she remain happy if she sees her daughter unhappy in her marriage in future?

Originally posted by: ramas

so true manju has been portrayed as worst mother who never cared or cares for simi's happiness. She was ready to sacrifice her but now that simi has found her happiness she oposes because society or her freinds do not aproove of such marraiges.

Simi needs to decide and choose her on hapiness rather than ebing concern about how and what mothrs like manju feel.

Sometimes we have to make our own decision.

Simi is grownn up woman and have to learn to say no to such demand and rsihta made by her mother.

I mean when we choose our life partner we are asked to take that deciaion. It is about time simi speak up that she chose abhi already and decided to marry him as she has accepted his roka .

Originally posted by: Laila2009

But Manju did not, and as as long as Manju has not accepted it to her Simi is not engaged. She has no problem in accepting the rishta from the Daggars and she is willing to forgo Simi's happiness for the sake of her own image in the neighborhood. She's more interested in appealing to the neigbors than her chldren. Basically for Manju, she "owns" her daughters and as a result can do with them as she pleases. She thinks they are incapable of knowing what they want for themselves and must thus do it for them.

When the neighbors make their put downs she doesn't speak up in defense of her children or family. Instead she feels ashamed. A real mother slaps these people and throws them out and tells them where they can shove their comments. Manju is a weak woman and Simi is to blind to see it.

I do agree I would not slap some one but ask them to stop or leave and tell them to leave my children alone as it is none of their business and that their mother is alive to to decide what is right or wrong. Manju should truly be ashamed of herself. as for simi she is carrying her mother's insecurities badly. i mean it is unusual that a woman 30 years old behave this way like she needs her mom's acceptance for everything.

Originally posted by: ramas

I do agree I would not slap some one but ask them to stop or leave and tell them to leave as it is none of their business and that their mother is alive to to decide wah tis right or wrong. Manju should truly be ashamed of herself. as for simi she is carrying her mother's insecurities badly. i mean it is unusual that a woman 30 years old behave this way liek she needs her mom's acceptance for everything.

But then it is not unusual seeing Manuj's behavior towards her. When simi was ready to accept Roka she held her hand. Manju has always abused her putting her down and making her feel like her little girl who is good for nothing.

Simi needs to see a shrink badly as much asn manju does.

If and when abhi marries simi he needs to take her to shrink immidiately and get her out of all these for the sake happy married life or this amy pass to 2nd generation.