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Like your thoughts about constructive anger .........precisely my own thoughts .
About Sulochana : She is one character I really like and can connect to as I see my own mother in her , I can totally understand where she comes from . To this point , in my opinion she has not once been wrong . Absolutely no one in this forum will agree to this but I do .
There r 3 instances for which she is regarded a villain
1] For slapping Manav ..........here i feel ok she cud perhaps have done without that slap but if she was justified in not trustng him , I dont think she was wrong at all ...........anyone wud do the same thing after being subjected to the uneasy observation of her daughters dicey marraige
2] For keeping the phone down rudely when Manav phoned from jail.........To her credit Manav never told her he was speaking from jail just that he was in a crisis . The earlier day he had taken his moms side and told Archu to leave the engagement party although Archu had been invited so she was miffed. No one on the forum stops o think that had Archu phoned from jail and even told she was in jail , STILL SAvita wud have banged phone down . I do not think for a moment that had Sulochana known that Manav was in jail , she wud NOT have given phone to Archu . Whatever her feelings for Manav , she is a decent woman and she wud have given the phone .
3] For not showing sufficient guilt and saying Thank you or Sorry to Manav later ......Again , after studying my own mother closely and also in general the mother species , I understand them much better now . They focus on a goal........their childrens happiness and all their actions and reactions r connected only to that goal . Sulochna has reached a conclusion after trying out the 15 day marraige of Archu which ended this way .............That Archu will never be happy in that houe with that horror story called Savita HOWMUCHEVER GOOD THE BOY HIMSELF IS . The boys good ness is never gonna be sufficient to make her daughter happy and his awful mom comes with him as a package . The boy is never gonna stay seperate . So the best thing is NOT to let Archu EVEr go back there . So inspite of being decent and knowing etiquette she doesnt bother to go and say Thank yous or Sorries as she simply doesnt want to open any channels for her daughter going back there by even raising hopes .
This practical approach is what ALL MOTHERS IN THIS WORLD WUD DO .
The double standards thing ..........I am not justifying her here but I read it diffrently . More than blaming manav for doing a second marraige , it was jumping on the opportunity , that excuse to try and brainwash her daughter who was hopelessly in love with him ...........You see , Sulochana had watched for months that Archu was deeply in love with Manav and was feeling helpless about it ........it was a thing that was not within her control , Archu was slipping away from her . First when she publicly spoke about Manav on engagement day and broke it , second she publicly spoke out in court and defied her and went to his house . Sulochana had lost and she knew it . Well what does a mother do when she loses ? Give up on her child ? No . U see , the winning and losing doesnt matter to the mother who is a strange animal ........its instincts only scream out to protect her young . And sulochna knows it in her heart that by opting for a life with Manav Archu will do the biggest mistake of her life ..........as for a few moments of so called love , she will bear years of untold misery .And so she used that chance to try and get Manav out of Archus mind .
And is she wrong , upto this point in her predictions ? Nope . In fact she is hundred percent correct . In fact Manohar was wrong .....he told her , the boy is good and that is all that matters . But she was uneasy .........her instincts told her that NO THAT ISNT TRUE..........IT IS NOT ENOUGH .
But then Manohar wasnt a mother . She was , and is right as hell .
Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 15 years ago
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