Should homosexual parents be allowed to adopt? - Page 11

Originally posted by: rongna

no, she was pregnant with ross but she and the lesbian partner get to keep the baby.

i have a homosexual classmate a guy...

when i have such people around me as friend or classmate i tend to start understanding indeed they are no different from us except their sexual interest .... they are still caring people....so i guess they should be allowed to adopt children as long as they are willing to fulfill their duties of being a parent....

yet, i guess to certain extend it's a difficult situation for them to care and love a child when both of them are of the same gender....both will act as mother or father....so the child would still be lacking the love of one parent despite having two if you get what i am saying....maybe this will trigger some development problem in the kid too....it's just like thinking of single parent kids....something similar ....

however.....for some kids who are orphans it's still a good idea to have parent whether both are of same gender or not....

i know my view is confusing but yea...that is what i would say hehe

dream

well I ve seen some children brought up by female relatives as parents were away due to job restarints. Child didnt have any probs. i ve also seen some fathers more caring then mothers . So gender by itself shud be no prob. orphans do have a hard life. adoption wud give them better life even if its by a homosexual couple. The child wud feel loved, needed & accepted & gave opportunities for better education & other opprtn

They can adopt if there is a mutual understanding, why not?

But the idea of homosexuality itself gives me creeps, i know its legalized and India is democratic and all that, but even freedom has a limit😳

It would be politically correct to say 'Yes, why not'. But I am against the idea.

Originally posted by: _DrEaM_

i have a homosexual classmate a guy...

when i have such people around me as friend or classmate i tend to start understanding indeed they are no different from us except their sexual interest .... they are still caring people....so i guess they should be allowed to adopt children as long as they are willing to fulfill their duties of being a parent....

yet, i guess to certain extend it's a difficult situation for them to care and love a child when both of them are of the same gender....both will act as mother or father....so the child would still be lacking the love of one parent despite having two if you get what i am saying....maybe this will trigger some development problem in the kid too....it's just like thinking of single parent kids....something similar ....

however.....for some kids who are orphans it's still a good idea to have parent whether both are of same gender or not....

i know my view is confusing but yea...that is what i would say hehe

dream

homosexuals are folks who couldnt get a bearing on their sexuality.... like pschizophrenics...or some other with Psycho illnesses... the reason for not handing over children to them is the same....😊

I like your approach... Even I'd go that way, because after all, it is a debate!!...

On one hand, am totally for the idea... I don't feel homosexuals should be restricted in any way... I mean come on, it is far far far better for a child on the streets to get a decent, probably luxurious life style with guardians rather than a debate on whether he should have two dads, two mums, or a dad and a mum... The child's asking for a home guys, get him that first!!!... Or are you too up there in the legislative system with a high earning salary not to realize how bad he needs a decent meal?? That's definitely something to ponder on...

On the other hand, not from a psychologist's POV, but from the child's itself, there'll be a time when he'll go into society as a child, a student in school etc... And end up realizing his parents are not like others... Indeed very much different! So what happens then?

I still feel though that anything can be resolved by talking it out... If the parents explain to their kid that they are unusual from the moment he starts to understand things, I am damn sure he'll grasp everything right... He may seem uncomfortable at first, but he'll understand... He'll definitely understand...

Also, homosexuals HAVE proven to be better parents than most normal working parents couples around the world by recent studies... The more you deprive someone of something, the more he works to get to it... The same happens with them... Because it is increasingly difficult for them not only to find their identity, but to support children according to the social "norms", they take better care of the chances they get, value them more... Who doesn't see the logic there is a fool and that's it!!

However, I won't deny, that I do sometimes ask myself whether subconsciously and irrevsersibly there can be a difference in the upbringing, and more interestingly, what it would be... Does the child grow up with different approach to issues or things, is everything the same at the end, or which one is better? But only someone who's gone through both is capable of answering that, which is theoretically at least, not possible so... ;)


Cheers,
Sneha

best way to bring up a child wud be to encourage him/her to think out things for himself without trying to thrust ur own idealogies on him.