Originally posted by: _LalithaJanaki_
Well said Rupali Didi!👏
I think Divorce is only allowed when one (man or woman) is suffering from domestic violence. I've known many people who got divorced because they "found out they were not in love after all" or "they don't understand each other well enough" or "they love someone else".
I'm sorry, but all these should come into consideration before marriage, not after. One should take a lot of things into consideration before marrying a person, and not make any rash judgments. Marriage is a sacred union, and should not be treated with carelessness like many are doing these days.
No one deserves to suffer domestic violence (mental or physical), so I think that should be the only reason for a divorce.
As for "Live-In" before marriage, I am totally against that. My reason is plain and simple. It says in our Hindu scriptures that before marriage, a man and woman should not have any relationships. Until the consent of a parent is given, and all the scriptural rites are completed, any union between a man and woman leads to Narak. People who "live together" before marriage are said to have characteristics of a rakshasa, because rakshasas do things only for pleasure, and do not follow Dharma (for the most part, leaving aside rakshasas like Prahlada and Vibhishana).
As for polygamy, I will not say that it is sinful, because many good kings in our Mahapuranas had more than one wife. But many Kings married for heirs, while today, people will only act selfishly if polygamy is allowed.
Back in the previous yugas, each wife of a King was given a special status, her own apartment/palace, her own maids, etc. Basically, she was well provided for. But today, how many people will treat all their wives equally?
Today's society runs more on pleasure and jealousy than Dharma. That is because it is Kali Yug, In the previous Yugas, people followed scriptures, and they were righteous for the most part. Even Ravana, despite his faults, was a Shiva Bhakt, and did treat his wives equally. He was a relatively good King, and treated all of his sons equally. And same with Duryodhana. Despite his jealousy and pride, he ruled Hastinapura with righteousness during the Pandavas' exile, and he too treated all of his wives equally.
What I'm getting at is that even the "evil ones" of the previous Yugas had morals. But today, how many people consider Dharma and Scriptures when in a relationship? How many people ask for the permission of their parents before getting into a relationship? According to our scriptures, even dating is a sin, but it is relatively better than "living in".
That's why I don't think "Live In" on Polygamy should not be allowed in today's society. Our society does not have the responsibility or morals of Age Old Societies, and until duty and Dharma are once again given more importance, people should not get the same liberty as people did in the Olden Days.
Jhanak
Shiv Shakti
