Religious competability

Religion play a major part of our social life. We like it or not but we can't avoid it . In situation , especially when living away from home countries, chances are higher to interact with people of different religious background.

In a situation , where you find a person , who is other wise competable in various attributes , required for a great life partner. However he/she belongs to different religion. How much practicle situation is this ?

Would it be better to find a person of less competablity, but of same religion because later in life , with family and social circle it is easier to cop difficult situations which are part of normal life .😊

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

Religion play a major part of our social life. We like it or not but we can't avoid it . In situation , especially when living away from home countries, chances are higher to interact with people of different religious background.

In a situation , where you find a person , who is other wise competable in various attributes , required for a great life partner. However he/she belongs to different religion. How much practicle situation is this ?

Would it be better to find a person of less competablity, but of same religion because later in life , with family and social circle it is easier to cop difficult situations which are part of normal life .😊

It all depends on how "religious" you are! If you are faithfully practising various aspects of your religion and expect your partner to do the same, you would be better off marrying someone who has the same set of beliefs as you do. Also, if you are planning to have children then it would definitely be a better idea to have one religion being followed in the household.

If you are a "believer" but not a practitioner, and are ok with your spouse's beliefs, or in some cases lack of them - you might stand a chance of making it work.

If both of you are agnostics/atheists, then the chances are the brightest; however, who knows when either one of you decides to turn a new leaf 😉

Marriage in any case is all about give and take - how much you are willing to give and how much you are willing to take will decide the success of yours!

^ SJB stole my post! 😛 LOL. I totally agree with her. I think it has a lot to do with tolerance for each other's beliefs...no matter how different they may be from your own. My uncle and aunt have been married for over 15 years and they dont share the same religious beliefs...yet they get along beautifully...and I think it has everything to do with being tolerant of each others' beliefs. The one thing I beg to differ with SJB on is the raising kids with more than one religion in the household. So long as both spouses are tolerant of each other's religions, I dont see how this would be a problem either...children raised in a family that follows more than one religion are amazingly open-minded...my best friend who is half muslim, half catholic (yeah...and you never thought those two religions could get along, now did you?) goes to both the church and the mosque and has her own altered approach to God. I guess ultimately it depends on what is more important to you...a personal, spiritual connection with God...or worshipping God according to a set of rules and regulations decreed by a religion. (PS. I'm not saying that the two cant necessarily exist together...but one can definitely exist without the other.)

Originally posted by: ~globetrotter~

^ SJB stole my post! 😛 LOL. I totally agree with her. I think it has a lot to do with tolerance for each other's beliefs...no matter how different they may be from your own. My uncle and aunt have been married for over 15 years and they dont share the same religious beliefs...yet they get along beautifully...and I think it has everything to do with being tolerant of each others' beliefs. The one thing I beg to differ with SJB on is the raising kids with more than one religion in the household. So long as both spouses are tolerant of each other's religions, I dont see how this would be a problem either...children raised in a family that follows more than one religion are amazingly open-minded...my best friend who is half muslim, half catholic (yeah...and you never thought those two religions could get along, now did you?) goes to both the church and the mosque and has her own altered approach to God. I guess ultimately it depends on what is more important to you...a personal, spiritual connection with God...or worshipping God according to a set of rules and regulations decreed by a religion. (PS. I'm not saying that the two cant necessarily exist together...but one can definitely exist without the other.)

I know a family (catholic-muslim combo again 😛) where one child was raised as a catholic, one as a muslim. So there's another approach, but like I said people can change. I also know a couple who were both agnostics when they got married, but now 10 years down the line they are having a silent tussle over what religion the child should follow. They both don't practice their respective religions; they celebrate both sets of festivals and yet they can't let the child decide We do have the odd exceptions of tolerance, but in the matter of religion it's better to not have a situation where there could be a tussle 😊

It's a really nice topic...well it does not matter as long as no one tries to change your belief, or makes you change for their sake 😊 Then I feel everyone can co-exist in harmony 😛

well if you see from human perspective and worldly point of view then it will be better for you to just go and get married with that person who are compatible but from different religion rather than that person who are less compatible and from the same religion. however, if you see it from religious perspective, when you spiritually down then that partner of yours will not be able to help you spiritually and spiritual life is also important. plus the children that will be born will have confusions of what religions they will have to believe whether to believe in religion of their mother of their father. it will be difficult in your religious pathway because your partner will not be able to help you and strengthen you in your faith and you will also see you will start neglecting your religion and your faith will be lacking when you are weak. if the time was when your faith was strong then it is ok, but we as human beings have our weaknesses and weak moments. if you don't really care about religion then it is ok to just go and get married with people of other religious beliefs.