Is marriage EVERYTHING in life??

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JINK

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Posted: 17 years ago

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hey frens,

IS MARRIAGE EVERYTHING IN LIFE???

this is kind of crucial to answer and the answer cannot be a *YES* or a *NO*

i dont know in other parts of the world...but in major part of INDIA, parents think of the marriage of a girl when she is still studying...not even completed her graduation...her age will be around 20-21years.....

why dont parents encourage their children to study, work and be independant?? why do they always want a woman to be at home and do house work??

itz just my POV frens....please dont take this to heart....

i have'nt seen any married couple happy. when i ask my cousin who is married for two years now...she says she was happy before marriage...now that my cousin is not happy, but still she tells me get marriedwhy does she want me to fall in the same ditch?why a woman has to compromise at every point of life...may it be studies, interests or ambition?

in a get together party...i have seen a lot of times that a husband mocks the wife indirectly for some reason...and then escapes at the pretext of a joke

is marriage called a happiness just to show the society???

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Posted: 17 years ago

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IS MARRIAGE EVERYTHING IN LIFE???

NO,😊.....but AFTER MARRIAGE CHANGE EVERYTHING IN LIFE😉...Someone says b4.....Life main Happiness is not everything...kuch log shaadi bi karte hey....😃😉

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Abhijit Kulkarni

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Posted: 17 years ago

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You may ask some questions

1. Is self interests everything

2. Is our ambitions everything

and the answer is nothing is everything but everything is something 😉

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*king*

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Posted: 17 years ago

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well the king does not say marriage is everything but it cums next 2 everything. their is no free lunch in this world. everything cums wid its own baggage n marriage is no exception.

marriage gives a partner who can give u emotional support, if compatible then happiness too is there n not 2 mention kids too.

whether its a guy or gal marriage brings along wid it responsibilities. as the couple r no longer pillion riders in the family but in the driving seat. if not driven properly u mite land in adiff destination than dreamt or planned. u mite even end-up in an accident.

its difficult 2 say 4 which gender marriage is everything. men or women both need it equally.

hmm the king wud stop here. he din get wht he has written hope u guyz can understand.

*king*

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corvette

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Posted: 17 years ago

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I understand exactly where youre coming from, when you talk about "falling into the same ditch"

It was always a mystery to me why when cousins of mine got married it became obligatory to somehow impose the same on everyone else! 😕 Almost as if their own credibility depended on her being able to fix a match!😔

Our culture is such that marriage is always encouraged when a child becomes of age, expecially girls. In a culture that considers daughters to be "pariah dhan" its as if parents know their role is simply preparatory for the girl's real life - apparently in her husband's house/life. (will restrain myself from using an emoticon at this juncture to say what I REALLY think of this!)

In my point of view however this is a terrible terrible way to view a woman's destiny, as if it only is realised through marriage which of course it is not.

A woman's destiny, like I suppose any other individual's destiny, can and should contain loving relationships but ultimately is fulfilled by being able to walk a path chosen by the individual themself - not imposed or controlled by another unless that individual wants that.

There is so much I could write but i wont as I am cynical and I dont want to give you the impression this is what it is like for everyone.

A loving committed relationship between two individuals is a foundation upon which many a life can be built and thrive. But sometimes things happen and the foundation can crack. If it does, the foundation disappears but the rocks are still left. Women are the rocks. As a rock we can still exist and stay strong- it should be up to us if we want to be part of a foundation, or indeed another foundation.

It's also important if you are part of that foundation, that you dont hack off the rocks too often😆

I'm a wife, mother, daughter i(n law), sister (in law) etc etc...

But I'm me first. A rock.

I just choose to be part of a foundation.

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girlpower

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Posted: 17 years ago

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No marriage isn't everything...but believe me, I have seen some very happy couples around me.

Its different with every society and I havent been to that many places to judge them totally.

What i have gathered is that parents DO want their daughters to study and work hard and get a job etc etc. But as someone has said *the right place of a woman is at home*. I must say i disagree, but i cannot change the mind set of others. The parents concern is that if the age goes away it will not come back. And it is easier to get suitors at a young age when normally girls are all petite and at their best *glow*.

So even do I dont wanna get married at an early age, I do understand my parents concern. and in the end the marriage isn't everything concept becomes different.

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Aphrodite

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Posted: 17 years ago

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Marriage is not evrything only when the couple are compatible with each other , have same tastes (atleast majority) . Its not true that opposites attract . ITs only nice to say that .

But when couples with different likings get married it soon will soon turn out that u have to compromise your taste . Its rightly said that marriage is an institution . But its always wise to get married to someone who is very much like you . Only then can the couples be happy . In India most of the cases are arranged marriages where just the boy/girls background , salary and badhabits are considered . And if everything is ok then there is no reason to stop the marriage .

But a very important factor is compatibility which should always be considered .

Hence if you have a happy marriage then you can enjoy all the rest of the things in life and marriage is not everything . But if you have a failed marriage then you cannot enjoy anything else and marriage itself becomes the whole burden in life .

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Posted: 17 years ago

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Is marriage everything in life....hmmmmm.....🤔....depends on who you ask😛

Don't know whether it is everything or not but it definitely is a ghee ka laddoo - jo khaye woh pachhtaye aur jo na khaye woh bhi pachhtaye😆 Yeh baat aur hai ki you seldom find this ghee ka laddoo to be perfectly round. Most are a bit teda here or crooked there...and going by everyone's opinion here, they all taste the same😉😆

btw, I am done eating this laddoo. It has been almost 16 years per abhi tak hazam naheen hua

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Dabulls23

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Posted: 17 years ago

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Originally posted by: Gauri_3
Is marriage everything in life....hmmmmm.....🤔....depends on who you ask😛

Don't know whether it is everything or not but it definitely is a ghee ka laddoo - jo khaye woh pachhtaye aur jo na khaye woh bhi pachhtaye😆 Yeh baat aur hai ki you seldom find this ghee ka laddoo to be perfectly round. Most are a bit teda here or crooked there...and going by everyone's opinion here, they all taste the same😉😆

btw, I am done eating this laddoo. It has been almost 16 years per abhi tak hazam naheen hua

I could not have said it better even if I tried GD 👏 It has been 34 yrs and I am still having indigestion now and than 😉 😆

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Aphrodite

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Posted: 17 years ago

atleast m happy now seeing the replies that m not the only one suffering from indigestion 😆

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