The love triangle in Barfi

I liked Barfi and Jhilmil story. Their relationship was the most purest and innocent.

Regarding Shruti, if she had got love and care from her husband she would have never thought of leaving her husband and going back to Barfi. Her mom's advice to marry a man who could give her a stable and comfortable life was not wrong. If only her husband had given Shruti some love and care too. In the end when Shruti realized she lost the man in Barfi who loved her and needed her, she let Barfi go back to Jhilmil. That shows she was not a bad person.

Barfi was a beautiful film with great performances and marvelous cinematography.

He was trying to change himself for Shruti. jhilmil liked him for him

Hey..... beautiful topic ❤️and a beautiful movie...one of my most loved cinema.

I hold space for both the women honestly...

Jhilmil is easy to love but Shruti is impossible to dismiss.

Shruti is heartbreaking because she doesn’t lack love; she lacks permission. She loves Barfi in a world where love still has to justify itself .. to family, to society, to the idea of a “normal” future. Her choice isn’t cruelty; it’s fear dressed up as practicality. That’s why her regret lingers. It’s not about losing Barfi .. it’s about losing the braver version of herself.Her tragedy isn’t that she leaves Barfi , it’s that she knows exactly what she’s giving up when she does. That awareness is her burden. She loves with foresight, with fear, with “what ifs” which is a totally NORMAL HUMAN BEHAVIOUR and those very things that make her realistic also make her unable to stay.

Jhilmil, on the other hand, loves without future calculus. Not because she’s lesser or unaware but because her emotional world isn’t governed by social consequence. She doesn’t measure love against normalcy, security, or approval. She simply responds. And that simplicity becomes profound.

So yes .. maybe Barfi needed a Jhilmil.Not because Shruti wasn’t enough.But because Barfi himself lives in the present tense.Shruti’s love exists partly in memory and possibility.Jhilmil’s love exists entirely in now.

And Barfi belongs to the now.

That doesn’t make Shruti weaker , it makes her human.And it doesn’t make Jhilmil naive , it makes her free.It really is about freedom.

Not just freedom to love but freedom to exist without constantly being measured.

Now when I think of it, If Barfi had ended up with Shruti, the conflict wouldn’t necessarily have come from her heart. She loved him. She respected him. But she belonged to a world structured around “normalcy” stability, social approval, economic security, appearance. Even if Shruti never consciously made him feel small, that world might have.And that matters.

Barfi’s entire personality is built on refusing to be reduced by his disability, by pity, by limitation. He moves through life with joy because he refuses to internalize the gaze of others. But sustained exposure to a world that quietly evaluates him? That might have planted doubt.Not because he’s insecure.But because environment shapes identity.

With Shruti, there would always be echoes of compromise ...of what she gave up, of what society thinks she chose against. Even if unspoken, those shadows linger.

With Jhilmil, there is no such gaze.

Their world is self-contained. They meet each other outside hierarchy. Outside expectation. Outside the language of “normal.” There is no comparison, no silent checklist, no invisible audience.

That’s why their love feels lighter.

Not because it’s simpler but because it’s free of performance.Shruti’s love is aware of consequence.Jhilmil’s love is unaware of judgment.

And Barfi thrives where he doesn’t have to prove anything.

So that's what just made Barfi and Jhilmil right imo..