Originally posted by: EkPaheli
This is so true.
I understand why people think her kids are allowed to complain, yada yada; but I can’t hold this decision against her.
People need space, even in day to day life. Even if for five minutes you want some time to yourself. It’s not a crime. You need to be considerate about yourself before you can care for others. Else you might be the problem and victim both at once.
People think a weeping Angad or Vrinda have the rights to call out Tulsi but have they even tried to put themselves in her shoes? Their marriage was one of the things that contributed to this mess, in fact it was the final blow. Noyna could get Mihir to come and rescue her and then shit hit fan all because Angad couldn’t talk to his dad.
Pari herself was the problem so there was nothing to be done there back then but Angad could have simply exposed Mittali back then and stood his ground. He didn’t let anyone besides Noyna and Suchitra know the ghost drama thing, the whole gambling addiction thing and then trusted this girl stupidly to call off their marriage. She was not even coming clean to her mom and aunt, her only family about her problems until he cornered her and forced her and he believed her to do what he asked without any basis to trust her in the first place. Then he elopes, gets married on the same day to a different girl and thinks nothing of the mess he created for his mom even now.
It’s crazy how Tulsi hasn’t once snapped at Angad or Vrinda for their decisions but would still apologise to them. She probably thinks it doesn’t matter as Mihir did what he did regardless of what the reasons were, but it’s mind boggling that we see Angad weeping for mummy and are supposed to forget his role in the mess just because he keeps crying for mummy like a good boy. Back then he was under stress or whatever, immature; but 6 years down the line and he doesn’t seem to have realised his role in the mess. He has taken no accountability for his actions also impacting his parents and their marriage in the process. Just crying for mommy doesn’t absolve him of his actions.
Had he handled the situation smarter back then, it’s possible that Noyna wouldn’t have succeeded. It’s possible that she would’ve been exposed in the attempts to get Mihir. Hell, Mihir would have not felt guilty at all for Angad calling off the marriage after Angad had exposed Mittali. Exactly what argument of Noyna’s could have persuaded Mihir to make him ask Angad to marry a girl who lies, gambles, does ridiculous stunts to avoid being caught, tries to malign his image in front of his staff by spreading rumours about his affair with an employee.
So yeah, the whitewashing doesn’t really make a difference when the history stays the same and no accountability is taken.
According to me Angad was wrong in how he handled the mess he created during his marriage. He was immature, panicked, and made choices that clearly worsened an already fragile situation. He should have been transparent, involved the elders, and handled the marriage responsibly instead of eloping. For that, he deserves to be called out.
Where I differ is in treating Angad’s actions as one of the reasons for what Mihir did. Angad’s mistakes may have added stress and emotional chaos, but they cannot be stretched into an explanation for Mihir crossing a line in his marriage. Mihir was not a confused teenager , he was a grown man, a husband, fully aware of the vows he had taken.
Cheating is not a reflex response to pressure. It is a choice. No amount of guilt, stress, or family turmoil forces a person into betrayal. Mihir had options - communication, restraint, boundaries, even walking away but he chose infidelity. That choice belongs to him alone.
Holding Angad partly responsible risks blurring accountability. It shifts focus away from the fact that betrayal in a marriage cannot be outsourced to circumstances or other people’s mistakes. One person’s poor decisions can complicate a situation, but they do not rewrite another person’s moral responsibility.
Context may explain emotions, but it can never excuse betrayal. Accountability cannot be diluted and in this case, it lies squarely where the choice was made.
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