Damn Pakhi - Page 2

Originally posted by: zohakhan7

What punishment pakhi got for the kaands she did in past n is still doing except for the fact that she got away with it thanks to her mother's leniency n hypocrisy.Adopted child isn't even upma's priority so how is CA taking Pakhi place ?

So who is stopping anupama from scolding or slapping pakhi , but expecting her to break ties with her biological daughter for the sake of adopted daughter and to prove her loyalty towards second marriage and husband is a very narrow minded and faulty approach.

Originally posted by: LadooCandy

So what's so wrong if she is still having consideration for her own blood daughter after her second marriage. Should she completely break bonds with her kids from first marriage to prove her loyalty towards second husband. That's a very faulty and insensitive expectation .

Anupama too has completed anuj's family , so what if she is using his material wealth. Why is anupama using anuj's wealth made a big fuss about , she too has completed anuj's life in a sentimental way. Most of all anuj is happy with anupama as wife and wants her . Do you mean to say that this emotional aspect contributed from akshara isn't as valuable as the material wealth of anuj.

Bold: There's nothing wrong about it even , pakhi is anupama's own daughter

If anupama truly loved and cared for anuj and ca i do not mind if she uses his wealth

she never care for him ca or his relatives

shes using him to promote shahs thats all

any fool will understand that

any husband will object to her going to shahs every day she can go to kanta bhavesh house not ex hubby house as thats her mayka

even in USA no husband is ok with wife going to ex hubby house every day

even court will take action if reported to

anupama is never available in his sickness or upset or take care of him or CA in need or his house or relatives

shes after his wealth and power thats all because it benefits her ex hubby and her 3 kids from ex hubby thats all - any clever human will understand this

anurag kids never accept anuj as father and vanraj and anupam a have told him several times stay away from our kids matter so why should only his wealth be used for those 3 or for vanraj and his parents

also its anuj father wealth and business malvika has equal share on business and house eeven if she do not want it its anuj duty to give her 50% shares of kapadiya empire why he transferred it to anupama 100%? its his father created company and wealth

vanraj was angry when ca was adopted as he wanted all kapadiya wealth for his 3 kids go and watch past episodes they all only want anuj wealth and business so acting nice to him sometimes thats all

if anuj had married earlier and had kids before marrying anupama and he went everyday to ex wife home anupama would be on streets doing dharana that anuj is cheating her doing EMA etc and all shahs would abuse and slap him of cheating anupama

Why same rule does not apply to anupama for her ex house visits?

Originally posted by: LadooCandy

Still , pakhi is her own daughter. Give her a break. Yes pakhi is a spoilt brat , but she is already being punished for misbehaving with her mother through all years. She is not her mother's centre of world presently and has been transformed into a side character by the fostered kids CA and dimpy , what greater punishment can a kid get greater than being sidelined for adopted people.

Huh, how did Pakhi get punished? Are we watching the same show? She has been just getting rewarded.

Also you cannot compare an adult kids treatment with a 7 year old child.

Also, Anupama has given way more time to Pakhi than CA how is she been sidelined, it's CA who is always sidelined. Nothing which you said is even shown in the show.

Seeing your mentality, seems you are being more narrow minded currently. No personal offense but just stating what you told in your message.

Once you have adopted someone, you can't keep differentiating between your blood children and adopted children. Both should be same in the eyes of the mother. If can't give the same treatment then should have refused to adopt in the first place.

Also do you really think a 21 year old, who is married, wanting to be a mother needs more care an attention than a small child of 7 years old? I am not saying asking for your mother's attention at any age of life is wrong, but how can one compare a 7 year old with a 21 year old child. And Anupama has never prioritized CA until it has suited her needs.

And as for her breaking off her ties with her children from previous marriage. No one said so. But making the same children an excuse to keep lying in your ex-husband's house the whole time is also no excuse.

Keep yourself in Anuj's place and really think for a second, in reality, would any spouse, how much ever supportive or encouraging he/she is would like their spouse to keep visiting ex-in laws house, who mistreated them, gave them so many taunts and prioritize them over themselves?

And if you are concerned about blood relations? Then what about Kaanta and Bhavesh? Aren't they Anu's own birth mother and blood brother. Why she never goes and meets them? Or talks about them, cares about them? Or brings them home to take care of them?

Originally posted by: LadooCandy

So what's so wrong if she is still having consideration for her own blood daughter after her second marriage. Should she completely break bonds with her kids from first marriage to prove her loyalty towards second husband. That's a very faulty and insensitive expectation .

Anupama too has completed anuj's family , so what if she is using his material wealth. Why is anupama using anuj's wealth made a big fuss about , she too has completed anuj's life in a sentimental way. Most of all anuj is happy with anupama as wife and wants her . Do you mean to say that this emotional aspect contributed from akshara isn't as valuable as the material wealth of anuj.

Bold: There's nothing wrong about it even , pakhi is anupama's own daughter

There is a huge difference between having relationships with your kid and treating your grown, married kids like babies, rushing to interfere in their lives, never letting them grow up. NO ONE has ever asked her to break bonds.

How has Anupama completed Anuj family? By spending 90% of time at her exes house, spending time with her ex who still lusts after her? That's called emotional cheating. She also neglects CA to the extent in any other country she would be arrested and thrown on jail for neglect. There is zero balance, 90% of times she is with her exes.

There is a huge difference between staying in touch with her kids and neglecting her current home and marriage which she is doing. No spouse in the world will tolerate this. Even under Indian laws such neglect is grounds for divorce without alimony. Your own mother will never abandon your father once you are grown up. First priority will always be her husband. But Anupama constantly leaves Anuj to be with her ex in laws. She even left when he was recovering from a serious injury.

She is an emotional cheating spouse obsessed with her exes and not able to justify her current marriage. Anuj being a foolish simp doesn't make what she is doing right. She even abandons her own mom to worship her abusive ex in laws.

She is a joke of a woman in every sense.

Originally posted by: LadooCandy

Still , pakhi is her own daughter. Give her a break. Yes pakhi is a spoilt brat , but she is already being punished for misbehaving with her mother through all years. She is not her mother's centre of world presently and has been transformed into a side character by the fostered kids CA and dimpy , what greater punishment can a kid get greater than being sidelined for adopted people.

Sorry, but if Anuj's parents had meted out the same treatment to an "adopted child", he wouldn't be boasting off a Kapadia surname that Shahs are flaunting over.

Woh Anupama ki bachchi hain, the matter ends there, adopted or biological is immaterial.

Besides, Pakhi is a legal adult and much married. She should concentrate on making her life better. She has a perfectly conducive and supportive ecosystem to do that. If she or any grown up cannot grow out of her mother's constant attention, then the problem lies with the parents who cannot make their children independent.

And she is jealous of a 7 year old and a pregnant woman who is already going through so much? Really?

Which other married daughter demands undivided attention of a mother?

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

Sorry, but if Anuj's parents had meted out the same treatment to an "adopted child", he wouldn't be boasting off a Kapadia surname that Shahs are flaunting over.

Which other married daughter demands undivided attention of a mother?

Anuj or his fostered parent's choices regarding adopted kids and biological ones can't be imposed on other people. What was even the logic of bringing this up.

That's a very old mindset and to some extent sexist , a girl no matter how much grown up or married still remains a daughter to her mother . As for jealousy that's a natural human trait which every human irrespective of age showcases.

Originally posted by: LadooCandy

Anuj or his fostered parent's choices regarding adopted kids and biological ones can't be imposed on other people. What was even the logic of bringing this up.

That is how adoption works. By adopting a child, one is NOT doing any favour on anyone, least of ALL the child. If one is unsure of it, they should NOT adopt, simple. The child is NOT optional once the choice of adoption is made.

Just an FYI, there is legal protection of the child and punishment for the adoptive family under such treatment.

Anuj is an adopted child, he knows it. He understands the insecurities and situations the child has been through while in the orphanage. He should understand and ensure the child is protected against abuse, illtreatment and most fundamentally NEGLECT.

That's a very old mindset and to some extent sexist , a girl no matter how much grown up or married still remains a daughter to her mother . As for jealousy that's a natural human trait which every human irrespective of age showcases.

Now coming to your point, was it NOT absolutely clear in the earlier post that ANY Grown up child DEMANDING undivided attention of parents is the failure of the parent.

Issues that a married woman should raise at the first chance, she chose to be silent.

Things that she should have solved by herself, which is everything else, she expects Anupama to solve.

She just does NOTHING. Hell, Barkha for ALL she is, has raised her husband, Adhik, as her own child. How does she treat her?

She even got married to Adhik because he was related to Kapadia's assuming they are stinking rich and stayed in a Mansion. There was no love back then.

If a grown-up is jealous of their 7 year old sibling, or jealous of a pregnant woman who has gone through so much just a month back, that too about the attention her mother gives her (when infact, Choti Anu has been the most neglected child), then, she needs immediate professional help Not Anupama's laying down or pillow tearing treatment.

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