I hate Anupamaa's character

Everything I liked about Anupama initially was based more on hypothesis and would be explanations where I was waiting for her to change with new found purpose, strength and wisdom.

But, when I look back, she was always very problematic character and that never changed. In fact she became everything I abhore about patriarchy.

Anyway... It's hard to write about everything because then I will have to create multiple posts but I would like to mention several things which I find especially problematic.

1) She never took her share of properties when she was Shah's Bahu but was fine with having everything on her name when she became "Mrs Kapadia"..

Well... Legality aside.. mai Anupama ke argument use karke hi baat rakhungi. According to Anupama, that (zoo)house belonged to one and only her baapuji (and Mr. Shah). Jis Ghar me wo 26 saal rahi, jis ghar me usne 26 saal unpaid labor kiya (physical, emotional, sexual, childcare) aur abuse saha.. us ghar ne jisne use Padhai puri nahi karne di, Dancer nahi banne diya, aur middle age me "Zero" se start karne ko majbur kiya (don't forget hamari Anupama Devi ji Cancer Survivor bhi hain), us ghar me wo kuch bhi deserve nahi karti??? Legally speaking, to Mr. Shah se to wo bahut kuch "owe" (property wise) karti hain. Wo unke against DV ka case file kar sakti hai. Anyway. She only threated to file case against Kavya, never her pyari Baa and Mr. Shah.

But, thode bahut dikhaawati "hesitation" ke baad she was actually okay to inherit everything when she married Anuj Kapadia. Kaun sa logic tha yaha? She could have denied here as well! I mean, what they are trying to teach us? Ki women ka koi "right" nahi hota hai lekin ye ek "right men" ke "epic love" par depend karta hai ki wo hamare sab kuch naam kar de!

Anyway... Sab kuch Anuj ka tha bhi nahi. I understand his feelings against MD, he doesn't owe anything to her except may be to show some humanity which doesn't depend on personal relationships. Lekin, how could he forget that he has a loving sister as well! Ek din Bhaisahab ke man me aaya to Sara jaydaad Malvika ke naam kar diya (More to cause emotional burden to her and with guilty complex ki mai to "real waaris" nahi hu)! Lekin fir Malvika ne emotional trauma and wounded love mentality ke chalte waapis sab uske naam kar diya to he then transferred everything to "Anupama"! Waah!

What about Late Kapadias? What about their lagacy? What about Mukku's legal rights as 50% owner of everything Kapadias hold? Even though Ankush and Barkha are nothing but opportunistic, vile and good for nothing people but they too can claim some tiny share in Kapadia's empire (legally speaking).

2) She has no dedication towards her career, education, dancing... anything that is necessary for individual development and individual fulfilment:

Only thing she ever take it seriously is her undying devotion to Mr. Shah and his family and her good for nothing children. She constantly ignore Anuj (except dancing with him in Kitchen), Choti Anu, her degree course in whatever college, her health (yup, she is cancer survivor), her career (I don't know ki wo Kapadia Empire ke liye kis tarah se beneficial hai, kya karti hai, I can't comphrend.), her dance (waise bhi uska dance to 90s ka bollywood number hi hota hai), her well-being (we never saw her to go Gym, to jogging in a park, visiting saloon, meeting people who are close to Kapadias). Everything about her is Mr. Shah and Mr. Shah only.

3) Anupama and this show hates women:

Since the beginning, agar koi aurat Mr. Shah ko bhaav nahi deti, Career-orientated hai, individual hai, use ye Show "Vamp", "Crazy", "Mad" women ke roop me depict kar rha hai.

Ameer hokar bhi Anuj "mahan" hain lekin Kinjal ki maa "Naagin" hai.

Kavya "characterless, neurotic, selfish" hai, Sweety "Opportunistic, selfish", Barkha "Manipulative, Lazy, incapable, plotter" hai, Maya "crazy" hai, Dimpy "Battamij" hai, lastes supply MD to hain hi "evil incarnate."

Wahi women thik hain jo Anupama ki tarah keval naakare Men and only men ke liye saans le rahi hain. They make mistakes occasionally but they are not "evil."

4) "Baa" mahan hain, Period.

Baa ko aazadi hai ki wo dusri women ko torment kare, kyonki.... Wo Anupama ki "Baa" hain, old hain.

BAA ke Karnamo ki list bahut lambi hai. Anupama ko emotionally, financially abuse karna.. Fir Malvika ke against Mr. Shah ki saazish me bete ka saath dena, Dimpy ko sirf isliye torment karna kyonki:

1) she is rape survivor

2) She can't bootlick

3) she isn't rich like "Piyaari Kinjal"

She emotionally encouraged MD to commit suicide which is a crime btw.

Anyway... The list is endless.

What this is about:

If you're a woman you don't need to worry:

Tum Padhai aur Career par nahi Mr. Shah par focus Karo, Kanha ji se, Tulsi Mata se, Suraj Bhagwan se baat karo... To ek din ek Prine Charming aayega aur tumhare jaisi "Sanskari Cindrella" ko byaah kar le jayega aur saari jaydaad uske naam kar dega!

Aur lastly about mental health...

5) Women's mental health is a joke!

Jaise "mard ko dard nahi hota" ye pop culture myth hai jiska reality se kam hi lena dena hai. In typical patriarchal houses, men's health (including mental health) is always prioritized and women's health is neglected. Mental health ke mamle me bhi problem "social stigma", "unawareness", aur mard ke is attitude ki "mujhe koi dikkat nahi hai".

Lekin academic circles me, social media par, aur TV par Ameer log ye prove karne me lage hain ki aurat to "Shakti" ka rup hai aur wo "rokar" sare gam bhula deti hai aur men don't have that. Bakwas! Batao DV/rape jhelne wali aurat is baat ke liye kiske samne royegi? Apne abuser gharwalo ke samne ya un women ke samne jo women ke sath crime ke liye women ko hi blame karti hain??? Women literally don't get space to share her major problems/pain. Only thing she is allowed to share that doesn't malign her family's name and something that is considered every women's issues. Like: "meri saas to bahut kharab hai, meri to nanand aisi hai, mai hi sara kaam karti hu, mere bachhe ki tabiyat kharab hai, meri daftar ki female coworkers ne ye ye kaha/kiya"

Show me unhone Malvika ke years long Domestic Violence ko takiye ke saath maar Peet aur "Chak de chake" gaane me samet diya! She was practically abandoned after whatever happened to her. Her pain was depicted to highlight Anuj's guilt and Malvika's inability to know who is right for her. After her ordeal, Vanraj (Anupama ke Mishter Shah) manipulated her so that he can use her to fulfill his ambitions.

Then... Teenage Pakhi (FYI, ghar me baccho ka kisi ke sath DV hote dekhna unhe bhi DV victim hi banata hai) was depressed because she had to witness fights on daily basis. I am not saying she is some kind of angel but that is irrelevant point. Koi kaisa insaaan ho, ye sab uske saath nahi hona chahiye. Again, in today's episode Anupama said to Adhik, "ise samjhaao!" Jo aadmi kuch time pahle uski beti ko peet Raha tha, wo samjhaye Pakhi ko? Aur jab beti ne upbringing me yahi seekha hai to fir usse kya ummed kar rhi thi devi ji? When she defended Adhik to kyo kah rahi thi ki wo aisa na kare?

Then... Rape survivor Dimpy ko to show ne (aur audience ne bhi) characterelss, selfish, ehsaanfaramosh aur jaane kya kya kaha! Show me uske mental health par pade impact ko nahi dikhaya ki kaise use "professional help" ki jarurat hai. Nahi, she was mentally harassed by Baa from the start. Once she started to do the same she became "evil!" But Audience couldn't comphrend the very simple thing: ki wo to "script" ke hisaab se Aisa kar rhi thi. She was written to glorify "Anupama" and how people like Dimpy are ungrateful! Bhai "rape" survivor ke saath basic humanity bhale koi nahi show karta par agar koi aisa kare to kya use "ehsaan" kaha jayega? Not in my book. Talk about basic human decency! And it is totally different thant a favor you do for nepotistic reasons.

Worst treatment to inhone "Maya" ke saath kiya. Ek human trafficking survivor, self-made strong women ko pahle to "crazy" dikhaya.. ki she has no qualms about destroying someone's home? Ki ek Independent women ki life "men" ke Bina kuch nahi? Ki ek women ki mental illness uska "naatak" hai (as Kinjal said). Aur they never showed her to take professional help (therapy+ medicines).

Khud Anupama said to her Baapuji ki "I don't need professional help because I have you!" Wow! Way to trivialise mental health issues.

But they showed:

1) Toshu taking mental health counseling after he cheated on Kinjal and abducted Pari.

Though it was Kinjal who was cheated on, and she was weak due to being a new mother and she was constantly manipulated by Baa and Vanraj.. yet they never showed her need to take counseling and take some time off for her health! Instead Anupama said: "maa ko dukhi hone ka time nahi hota!" Wow! Wonderful!

2) Vanraj taking help

Because well, Samar died. Jabki he never cared for him when he was alive. Though it is legit pain. And yes, it is understandable. But specifically showing his pain (everybody is perfectly fine. In fact they are behaving like nothing has happened) they are making us to believe that somehow men's pain are more important than everyone else and they are poor souls who were misunderstood all their life!! Bohooo!

3) Anuj was mentally devastated after Choti Anu was taken by Maya.

His pain was real. But they only showed it to create a plot point against Maya. That's all. And it was again focused on "Anupama ki udaan" and grand entry of MD.

And again, his mental health concerns are shown but neglected by Anupama regarding MD.

4) Samar's mental health struggles were shown realistically (thoda bahut)

But it was shown to create drama in favor of Anupama. For this Vanraj never apologized and Anupama never called out Vanraj for the same. He was not shown to take professional help but he needed the most (more than Pakhi and Toshu) because he was made to feel low since his childhood by his own father.

Join the bohut bohut bohut lambi line of Anu haters

The list is actually never ending, there’s so much to add, example Anupama never allowed anyone, even her best friend Devika to say a word against her Baa Bhagwan and Mishter Shah

Same Anupama becomes a goat and does Baa Baa when Baa abuses Choti Anu and Anuj constantly

Yes the woman has always been problematic, she preaches but never practices, her own family and kids are the worst but she is on a Samaj Sudharo Mission

She literally sits shamelessly outside Shah house even after she has been thrown out of that house many times, but when it comes to Kapadias she demands Anuj to throw them out and is okay if they sit on their knees and apologise to her

The list of her double standards is too long, she is neither a victim nor a bechari - she is just an abuser like Vanraj

Anupama se sab sab sab frustrated hai 😂

The show is deeply misogynist and women are failed to realise this. They call Maya, Dimpy, MD, Barakha Vamps forgetting they are not real characters and they are not able to connect to dots and see the "bigger picture" which the show is trying to portray.

So far.. in the guise of progressiveness they have shown the most regressive plot line ever. And also.. Novel/movie/show ko logically samjh paana shayad sabke bas ki baat nahi hai. Isiliye wo isne wo kaha, isne ye kaha ka example dekar baat kar rahe, "moral of the story" nahi dekh paa rahe.

Is show me kuch bhi sahi nahi hai. Har issue ko chutkula bana diya hai.

Aur yaha kai log Maya ko galat bolte hain? On what basis? Waise bhi Anupama show me EMA sabse bada sin hai (ab MD ne top kar liya hai). Maya ne to EMA kiya bhi nahi. One sided thode EMA kiya ja sakta hai. Rahi baat planning aur plotting ki... To Bhai (ek to ye show hai, reality nahi) isse Anupamaa ko fayda hua. Ek to DKP wale audience ko murkh banate hain aur ye log ban bhi jate hain. Inke ek show ka hero (YRKKH) ek achhe bhale parents se custody case Jeet leta hai (God knows why and how) jabki uska case kamjor hota hai har lihaj se. Aur Custody case karte hue use Villain nahi banaya. But Maya case naa kare iske liye use manipulate kiya gya. But her case was so strong!!! She had enough evidence (court me to plain evidence chalta hai, uske peeche ki emotional appeal nahi) aur uski apni kahani aur media ka support use hi case Jeetwa deta. Is tarah ke cases ka precedence bhi hai. Lekin nahi... MAYA ka pura existence Anuj aur Anupama dono ko apni galti ka ehsas karane (usme bhi Anuj jyada galat hai) aur Universe kaise unhe Alg karna chahta hai, ye drama dikhane ke liye tha! Anupama ek mahan aurat hai, mahan maa hai, mahan biwi hai, blah blah blah hai aur Maya sinner hai! Aur End me uski jaan hi le li makers. What were makers thinking? Ki Mayaa... Tum single ho, socially rejected ho, impure ho (human trafficking), aur ab to beti bhi kho chuki ho (aur unhone motherhood ko hi uske jeene ka eklaute maksad ke rup me dikhaya) to tum jeekar kya karogi? She was treated horribly by every other characters.

Now it is time to bash MD for her lack of motherhood! People are not able to decipher the intention of makers rather than they are giving said character's example and playing on their turf!

Inhe etna bhi nahi samjh aata ki jo dialogue writer likhega, wahi the actor bolega!!

Jaise Sallu Bhai apni movies me ek saath 100 goons ko hawa me uda dete hain, waise hi TV par bhi ek mahan FL baki sari women ko hawa me uda deti hain! They are essentially written such way as to show FLs mahan. They can never be right about anything. Aur to aur... Kya society hamari aisi nahi hai? Real life me bhi to women are taught to think low of other women? Hai, na?

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

The list is actually never ending, there’s so much to add, example Anupama never allowed anyone, even her best friend Devika to say a word against her Baa Bhagwan and Mishter Shah

Same Anupama becomes a goat and does Baa Baa when Baa abuses Choti Anu and Anuj constantly

Yes the woman has always been problematic, she preaches but never practices, her own family and kids are the worst but she is on a Samaj Sudharo Mission

She literally sits shamelessly outside Shah house even after she has been thrown out of that house many times, but when it comes to Kapadias she demands Anuj to throw them out and is okay if they sit on their knees and apologise to her

The list of her double standards is too long, she is neither a victim nor a bechari - she is just an abuser like Vanraj

Wahi to... Sab kuch likhne me 1000 post lagenge. Fir bhi end nahi hoga. Devika ke mamle me to Mai shuru se kah rhi hu ki Anupama ne kabhi dosti ka farj nahi nibhaaya hai. Hamesha one-sided friendship dikhai hai. Kbhi Anupama call karke Devika se nahi puchti ki tum kaisi ho, Dheeraj (actor ke Marne ke baad recast kar sakte the ya use bhi dead dikha sakte the) ke jaane ke baad kaise cope kar rhi ho? Tum akele kaise rahti ho? Apne Mr. Shah ke liye wo sab kuch karti hai, par kbhi use Devika ko "ghar ka khana" bhejte wagairh nahi dikhate! Kyonki at least, Anupama jaisi patriarchal woman ko etna to kar hi sakti hai!

Nahi... Keval apne matlab se wo Devika se baat karti hai. Sab kuch 100% one-sided rahta hai. Anupamaa jaisa dost to kisi ko naa mile bhagwan!!

Sirf yeh hi nHi anupama is owner KE n kH but she never fulfilled any duty any of them. She never even called devik when dheeraj passed away . She ignored Anuj twice. I believe she is become really overconfident and attention seeker . She wants everyone to worshiped her and give her attention 24 hrs. She knows everyone cares for her no wonder she become selfish women . Kabhi bhi.kanta maa and bhavesh koh call.nahi Kiya jabki woh dono uski sabse jayada( even more then kapadia ) caring kerte hai aur usko hamesha hi protect karenge but noo she abandoned them.

Did she went to office , we haven't seens her in the office until last year. She abandoned her dance academy despite she could take it from.dimpy anytime . She ruined mti devi career . But she never tried to comfort MD . She never considered ankush as her bhaiya despite he cares for her . And most importantly she forget Samar aur uski Gaye hua only 1 mont hi hua hai

Character of Anupamaa is nihayati ghatiya and besharam. Ye dogli "orat" kabhi nahi sudhregi. Enjoy the journey of an unpaid maid slaving for her abusers and manipulating others in the process

MERI ANU KABHIE GHALAT NAHIN HO SAKTI

Jub serial mein roj roj writer log 90 percent screen space shah ko denge

Is anupama serial mein 90 percent screen space shah family dikhaya jaata hai whether anupama shah house jaaye ya na jaaye yeh writer log 90 percent shah family hi dikhate hain .

Writer ki story aadhey se jyaada focus shah mein rehna hai

Agar anupama kapdia mein bhi rehti hai agar anupama choti ke saath time bhi spend time kar rahi hoti to woh scene bus 2 minute dikha kur turant shah house mein scene mein shift ho jaata hai jo 15 minute tuk dikhaya jaata hai jahan pur sub ya to khayali pulav Bana Rahe hote hain ya jhagda kar Rahe hote hai

Abhi bhi 90 percent yeh log 90 percent vanraj toshu kinjal pe focus kar Rahe hai ki vanraj Kitna depress

Jub yeh log Devika ko jyaada dikhate nahi woh bhi Saal mein 2,3 bar hi Darshan deti hai Kapadia ko Kam screen dete hai to to anupama kahan se Kapadia caring karte hue dikhaya

Agar Kal ko yeh writer log 90 percent screen Kapadia ko dein aur Devika ko roj roj dikhayein aur bus thoda sa shah dikhayein . Tu anupama choti ki care na kare to kehna