If wishes were horses..........

If anything, as a saving grace to the show, there has to be atleast one instance where Malavika gives an earful to Anuj and claims authority over Kapadia Mansion and Kapadia Empire even if it is remotely. She gives him an ultimatum to fix his relations and the mess he has created else she will step in and she wont be responsible if it turns ugly.

Anuj (even if it is under some threat from Malavika etc.) makes it clear to Shahs (and his meri Anu) that GK kaka mere guardian rahe hain, Malavika meri behan hain, Ankush-Barkha mere bhai-bhabhi hain, Malati Devi ne mujhe janm diya hain, meri Maa hain ne.

Unhone aisa kuch nahin kiya hain jo tum sab kar guzar chuke ho. Agar aap sabko maafi mil sakti hain toh unko bhi milegi. Aage se hamare ghar ke mamlon me matt pado. Agar izzat nahin de sakte toh apeksha bhi matt karo.

1. Ab se Kapadia Empire ke haqdaar aur signing authority Malavika, Anuj, Ankush ke hi paas rahegi. Final decision authority/veto Malavika ke paas hoga. No third party interference will be allowed.

2. Anupama, Barkha kuch projects (jo unke skillset se match kare) sambhalengi aur Malavika ko report karengi. Unhe results ke anukool rewards (salary, incentives) milenge.

Hybrid working model chalega with minimum of 12 days a month strictly at office for a minimum of 9 hours (includes 1 hour lunch etc. Breaks). Every Friday apne saare projects ka weekly report submit hoga including status updates of 15 mins per project over video call. Every quarter, finance report submit hoga aur project review kiya jaayega.

3. Pakhi-Adhik pehle toh apne liye ghar dhoondhkar shift honge, chahe toh eligibility ke basis par job apply karsakte hain. Interview clear karne par naaukri dee jayegi. Relations ka, naam ka koi galat istemaal nahin kiya jayega (including gaining any favours or recruitment).

4. Shahs, Joshis, Mehtas ya jinhe bhi jo bhi madad chahiye hogi woh niji level par Anupama aur Barkha karsakte hain, Kapadia Empire ka koi contribution ya usage nahin hoga.

5. Out of respect, Malati Devi ko apni Dance Academy aur assets haasil karne me legal aur partial financial assistance diya jaayega jo installments me repayable hoga.

6. Har naye ideas ka poora project review ek expert team ke through hoga. Har CSR initiative company ke stipulated funds ke antargat kiya jayega. Additional personal contributions can be made.

7. Any non-Kapadia will be staying at Kapadia house for a period of 1 week within which an alternate arrangement shall be made by the inmates at a personal level. An exception to this shall be Malati Devi considering her age and the fact, the only (known) surviving Family member is Anuj.

GK kaka shall be brought back to Kapadia mansion with full respect making it absolutely clear to everyone (Ankush-Barkha specially).

Should he disagree to return, he will be duly taken care of, to his liking and convenience and with a full time help for his medical and running errands. Anuj, Anupama, Choti Anu, Ankush and Barkha will visit him atleast 2 times a year.

What this will do?

1. Anupama will actually grow and come out of her "Hero Complex". Her journey from abused to abuser will then move to a survivor.

2. The right message will go out that:

a. Nothing can be achieved without hardwork

b. Second chances are rare and hence precious and should be respected.

c. One has to truly move beyond one's mental conditioning and break away from the shackles of a bad marriage to move forward in life.

d. One has to embrace and accept the new family just as the old one especially one that helps you move on.

e. With ALL the above, Anupama will learn to prioritize better to meet the demands of her new life. She will simply not have the time to run to Shah House and interfere in their matters.

Most importantly, she will learn accountability of one's actions and responsibility to see things through to completion.

Hilarious how Upmaa and Barkha are third parties in Kapadia empire lol. And they can only get projects and report to Malavika no less.

Hilarious how Upma is bashed for not prioritising her husbands' family but the husband is being asked to treat his wife, her own children, and even his SIL as "third parties" lol.

You do realise that apart from her ex-in-laws and ex- husband, the rest of the Shahs are related to Anupamaa by a parental relationship and hence are Anuj's step children?

If Anupamaa has duties towards her adopted daughter, Anuj doesn't have any obligations towards his step-children?

Basically, pati ki family biwi ke liye sarvopari par biwi pati ki family me third party lol

Loved reading this, office politics over kitchen one anyday😍 But the title says it all 😂

As good as point 1&2 sound, Anupama ko hybrid samajhne mein aur implement karne mein 6 months lag jayenge. Wo usse permanent wrok phrom home samjhegi.

What will this do?

No changes in Anupama - infact she will get to play a victim again, shed more tears and act more bechari. Give 1000 pages Bhashan on Main Maa hu, mere bachho ka haq, Baa Bapuji ki izzat, Mishter Shah Achhe Pita - and jo ghar se nikalne ka clause hai, Maa will straight away run to Shah house from there.

Even if God comes himself, cannot change this woman now or make her understand, there is no scope of improvement in her and she is beyond any redemption.

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Hilarious how Upmaa and Barkha are third parties in Kapadia empire lol. And they can only get projects and report to Malavika no less.

Hilarious how Upma is bashed for not prioritising her husbands' family but the husband is being asked to treat his wife, her own children, and even his SIL as "third parties" lol.

You do realise that apart from her ex-in-laws and ex- husband, the rest of the Shahs are related to Anupamaa by a parental relationship and hence are Anuj's step children?

If Anupamaa has duties towards her adopted daughter, Anuj doesn't have any obligations towards his step-children?

Basically, pati ki family biwi ke liye sarvopari par biwi pati ki family me third party lol

Because those ex children are ungrateful useless married adults who just want to leech him off.

Are you comparing Anupamas adult kids with a child less than 10 year old??

Originally posted by: Musketeer_95

Because those ex children are ungrateful useess married adults who just want to keech him off.

Are you comparing Anupamas adult kids with a child less than 10 year old??

I am not saying that Anupamaa's children are great or she's a great mother to any of her children. But, I do find it hilarious how she is expected to not at all be concerned with any of her children and their families just because she married Anuj — the only good man in whole world — when apparently she is the third party in his family and shouldn't get a power of attorney in his business. Lol.

She shouldn't help her DIL through a young widowhood and pregnancy. She shouldn't be worried about her daughter getting abused etc all because she is married to Anuj. She shouldn't even mourn her son but coddle Anuj's guilt first because Kapadia empire mein upmaa aur barkha third parties hain nei. (Leave alone the fact that wives do have an equal share in their husband's property by law.)

Shaadi do parivaaron ka milan basically means the woman should not inconvinience the man and his money with her relations lol.

Did Anuj not know that Anupamaa has three grown up children and will have baggage with them before marrying her?

More importantly, are her children not his family too? Is Pakhi not his daughter too? Is Dimpy not his DIL too?

Bhai, ek toh ya yeh bol lo ki joint families are codependent and therefore bad ya toh yeh bol lo ki sirf biwiyon ke relations aake family mein rahe toh problem hain.

What happened to GK kaka?

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Hilarious how Upmaa and Barkha are third parties in Kapadia empire lol. And they can only get projects and report to Malavika no less.

The reason for that is their negligence and misuse of power. Had the power not been misused, they would have respectfully earned the position. Even Ankush and Anuj do Not have a veto. Because they are both highly influenced.

Kapadia Empire, we are told, is a million dollar company employing hundreds of people, it needs to have a stable head not people (however close) using it for their whims and fancies. It is a matter of livelihood of the hundreds of employees and their families.

If one needs power and right, one needs to fulfill duties associated to it first to make any claim. Both Anupama and Barkha have failed here one with negligence and another by fraudulent actions. So, while their rights are not being taken away, they are just regulated.

Hilarious how Upma is bashed for not prioritising her husbands' family but the husband is being asked to treat his wife, her own children, and even his SIL as "third parties" lol.

You do realise that apart from her ex-in-laws and ex- husband, the rest of the Shahs are related to Anupamaa by a parental relationship and hence are Anuj's step children?

If Anupamaa has duties towards her adopted daughter, Anuj doesn't have any obligations towards his step-children?

Anupama's two adult, married children are independent. Well, about independent I mean in technical terms. If in reality they aren't, whose fault is it?

If one can expect a 7-year old to pack her own lunch and go to school, do her own homework, fight her own panic attacks, what is stopping a married adult?

In case of emergency, none would stop anyone, its humanity but you cannot run their lives for them. That is interference.

Anyone who cannot treat one's own family with respect does not deserve any either. Her children have given enough proof of it.

But I wonder what had she done for Paritosh-Kinjal or Samar-Dimple 🤔?

She sponsored Paritosh's anger management, half way gave up his treatment when he needed her the most.

Took care of Kinjal through pregnancy and welcomed Pari to Shah House when her husband was seriously ill and recovering.

Took care of Pari who had a whole family around and when Choti was battling panic attack.

She gave up her Dence Ecedemy. Anuj sponsored their shows.

Basically, pati ki family biwi ke liye sarvopari par biwi pati ki family me third party lol

Pehle pati ki family ko apna toh sahi. Unhe jo izzat milne chahiye woh do toh sahi.

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Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

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Wives are entitled to a share in their husband's property— by law— irrespective of whether they are good wives or not. Just like children are entitled to their parents' property irrespective of whether they are good children or not. It's a matter of economic rights, not a prize/reward for being conforming.

I do not invalidate one set of family relations for other. Her attachment to her abusers is toxic and codependent but her attachment to her adult children is very natural. Do our parents stop fussing over us especially if we, as adults, have tough times? No. She is not a good mother or MIL but her worrying about Pakhi getting abused, or taking care of Dimpy, or mourning for Samar is not misplaced lol. That is how any parent reacts.(It is another thing that she is a huge ass hypocrite being an abuser and enabler herself.) More importantly, why is it made to seem like her blood relations are leeching on Anuj, the great? Are her children not his children too?

Like, Malti Devi would have had a problem with Pakhi spending Anuj's money or Samar's widow staying at the Kapadias if they were his biological children? NAH.

The criticism isn't that they are brattish, selfish adults, it's that they impose upon Anuj's money while not being his biological children. Even in your post, it says that any Shah needing help should be helped by Anupamaa with her own money lol.

Edit: if we suppose, for a second, that her adult kids were Anuj's biological kids, would her love for her husband and kids be pitted against each other? She would just be called a bad mother who doesn't know how to prioritise. Which is genuinely her issue lol.

it was the man and the baby who really wanted you in their life fought back.. value them Anupamaa, nothing means nothing can compete with their love for you in this life.Anuj you understand every reaction of your wife, why you felt she is saying yes with acceptance in mind..when her husband needs her constantly, She very well knows he cannot be happy without her. GK kaka itne old , CA itni chhoti, aur wo un par Anuj ko chhod ke chali jati hai .Obviously... Nakul once told that he researched everything abt Anupamaa.. So md must be knowing about her realioshp with shah ..Now Anooj has his entire business, house in her name and does her chamchagiri all the time to please her so that she doesn’t leave him,

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

I am not saying that Anupamaa's children are great or she's a great mother to any of her children. But, I do find it hilarious how she is expected to not at all be concerned with any of her children and their families just because she married Anuj — the only good man in whole world — when apparently she is the third party in his family and shouldn't get a power of attorney in his business. Lol.

Her actions do NOT reflect her concerns, do they?

She needs to learn to prioritize.

She shouldn't help her DIL through a young widowhood and pregnancy. She shouldn't be worried about her daughter getting abused etc all because she is married to Anuj.

And what gives you the impression that she cannot do any of them? Which of these is she actually doing now? Although it is a big question as to what is she doing now?

She shouldn't even mourn her son but coddle Anuj's guilt first because Kapadia empire mein upmaa aur barkha third parties hain nei.

Are we saying, that she blamed Anuj for her son's murder and said she can't stand his sight and that was ok?

How is being a third party in Kapadia Empire related to her mourning her son's murder?

(Leave alone the fact that wives do have an equal share in their husband's property by law.)

While there are instances of regulating these for protection against undue advantage especially in cases if divorce and re-marriage. We can go technical here, but like i have said before, i am not a legal expert and my primary source would be google.

Shaadi do parivaaron ka milan basically means the woman should not inconvinience the man and his money with her relations lol.

First of ALL, she has to accept them as her own.

Do pariwaar Shah and Kapadia nahin hain.

Did Anuj not know that Anupamaa has three grown up children and will have baggage with them before marrying her?

More importantly, are her children not his family too? Is Pakhi not his daughter too? Is Dimpy not his DIL too?

Bhai in sabke liye usne kiya kya hain?

Add-on credit card? Sponsoring phunctions at Shah House? What else has she and/or Anuj done for them?

Shouldn't parents be making their children independent to fight the world? Shouldn't they teach them to build a life of their own, solve their own problems?

They should practice the same when Choti grows up as well.

Why are they both not insisting Pakhi to complete her education and get herself a proper job or do something with her life?

Bhai, ek toh ya yeh bol lo ki joint families are codependent and therefore bad ya toh yeh bol lo ki sirf biwiyon ke relations aake family mein rahe toh problem hain.

Yahi toh baat hain, joint families aise nahin chalte.

Agar jamai ka pariwar beti ke ghar jaake unki beizzati kare ya unhe illtreat kare toh woh bhi utna hi galat hain and tab kuch dooriyaan banaye rakhna hi behtar hain.

First of ALL, let this be absolutely (although I have mentioned it in the beginning itself), these are limited to the show, Anupama and based on the instances depicted by her character.

Secondly, I am glad that Barkha's character is being empathised with, which otherwise we have seen utter disdain about.