Originally posted by You-Know-Who
I think we mixing up his personality, his upbringing, and the issues he is facing. He did not get help before the divorce because he thought he could handle whatever was happening. But once divorce goes through, he is unable to sleep, worried out of his mind for Khushi and he finds the help. Or atleast goes to the doctor to get sleeping pills. His limits are different from what we think should be.
And if you notice, he does not get help until he thinks he is the only one suffering. He genuinely tries to have a baby with Khushi, but each time he is unable to. And everytime Khushi tells him the pregnancy test was negative, he cannot help but feel relief. He is a 100% convinced he would never want kids. He does not think his not wanting kids is a mental health issue. So why would he seek help at that time? Maybe the reason for not wanting kids is something he KNOWS he would never get closure on. And he could just be convinced that no mental health professional in the world can make him want to have kids. So why would he go get help?
When you say people are coddling him, I do not agree with that assessment. No one is cutting him slack for his decisions to not talk to Khushi. But there is an acknowledgement of logic behind why he didn't talk to her about the baby issue, from his perspective. Even if he had talked he was convinced Khushi would compromise for him. And he did not want her to compromise for him anymore. And he did not want to keep feeling guilty anymore. I can understand why he thought of divorce.
Everything that happened after that was unfortunate. Yes, he stayed back at that party, but that does not mean he deserved to get raped/molested. The pregnancy scam. The photos. Khushi finding out before he could talk to her. Khushi misunderstanding why he had lawyers involved already. It's like a chain reaction in a nuclear reactor. Murphy's Law.
You cannot find empathy for Arnav and feel that readers here are cutting him a lot of slack. But why does no one ask why Khushi does not confront a husband of 10 years for cheating before leaving him and cutting him off? The same question that she asks Arnav after returning from Lucknow, could have been asked before going to Lucknow. Why not? It is because people behave differently in the face of life changing events. When she was faced with the idea of divorce, she was able to put Arnav in the front. She even thought "oh he must have thought through what he has decided". Or that "he never loved her/does not love her". Or that she was burden. She also thought at least she has some family to go back to. But her rock bottom came when she realized that no, she does not have anyone!. That is when she had the courage to ask him the question of why he did that to her. For the first time, she was able to put herself in front of Arnav's needs and ask that question for the sake of her self respect!
Anyway, I digress. But the point I am trying to make is that timing is everything in people's lives. We have the third person point of view and hence, we are able to pinpoint and say, oh he should have gotten help here. Oh he should have known. But no, people do not react that way when faced with such agony.
Originally posted by: Ashviniv
💯 Agree here.
He thought about therapist but at that he was not sure about divorce. He dismissed that thought because he was just mulling things over and thought may be divorce is the thing which will give Khushi the incentive to move on and have the life she deserved with kids. He will also won't feel guilty for making Khushi unhappy. His solution was divorce at that time and he thought it will solve the problem for both of them
That's why his that sentence feels different now. He thought he was solving this impass for Khushi and him. He is already broken but he thought atleast Khushi would be happy. He was wrong 💯 but in his mind divorce was a solution. So I think when he dismissed the thought of going to therapist because he found the solution. 'Divorce'
I disagree respectfully with everyone including author Arpita about how Arnav handled the La mishap and after. Even if Arnav was not a billionaire, he was multimillionaire for sure and richer than Lavanya. Look at how she used her secretary and PR team versus Arnav. Also Arnav is part of IT even if it's startup and now owns his own company which should have HR and we all do business ethics, workplace rules and regulations as well sexual harassments / bullying mandatory courses and when to complain, what signs to check and what immediate actions required along with emails, phone numbers etc. Why do every organization conduct these courses, so people don't panic in real situation and carry out the correct actions, save themselves. This is coming from personal experience, India startup are million times better with trainings and strictly follow these kind of things for getting projects from foreign countries. My hubby's company has partners, really small companies in India and they are established well with basics in the same time period we are talking about in the story. There is no way Arnav didn't know what to do as soon as Lavanya mishap happened. I am NOT buying this nonsense at all, he was dumbest man to handle it the way he handled it, period. After all AR company is in the film line (doesn't matter Arnav and Khushi are humble and simple), what does he expect his employees will do if similar things happen; act like him and hide things for a month or more, utter nonsense... AR company will shutdown before Arnav knows with law suits and bad image. He should have practiced basics which he did NOT. He is CEO / owner of AR films, he failed big time. Had he told Lavanya about his advisors and lawyers handling the situation, she is the one who would have panicked and backed off. He would have never faced the trauma he faced for two months, MaLaD wouldn't have dared knowing La has to go through fresh medical tests (IUD / no baby would have been shown in ultra sound) and submit the past medical reports for good whole year as well as major incidents before especially drug / alcohol abuse and pregnancy at least. La going to top most private doc in the country clearly indicates how high profile case this one is. I rest my case, no one gets to cry foul for their own stupidity and incapability. Every lawyers knows all this basics and should have guided him better.
Second big mistake, Arnav did not use common sense to have La tested with his trusted medical facilities as well. He decided to blindly trust her in spite claiming she is NOT a friend, another bummer. No stupid emotions here, this is REQUIRED step here. He is 34 years old, was trying baby with own wife so exactly knows consequences of unprotected s*x and hence should have been mentally prepared; already a month is gone by since the mishap happened and the guilt has settled in to start using his brains. He also should have tested himself for drugs or otherwise within 24 hours of mishap which he didn't do it either.
Arnav's biggest problem is he thinks too much in his mind and then thinks the things have happened which NOT the reality at all. He ended up making mountains of mistakes because of this. He behaved with Khushi as if he was divorced to her (ignoring her as if she doesn't exit, walk away, not talk to her at all) when the reality is that he hasn't even discussed the divorce matter with her and she is staying with him under the same roof. And you all may NOT like this but Arnav meeting Lavanya alone behind his wife's back when he has not confessed his wife about the adultery incident happened between him and Lavanya is an official CHEATING in the eyes of law in India or any where else. Not just emotional cheating but he touching her, putting his arms to console, clingy La hugging him so physical cheating too. I was so bothered by this that I reconfirmed this one, you girls can too. In any case, in Khushi's eyes it is already cheating, she is not aware of the whole truth, photos and Arnav's ignorance have guided her to it. Arnav showed big time ego and powerplay to keep Aman in the same room when Manali visited him in his office later, where was this common sense when he was meeting Lavanya alone??? If Manali was there, why didn't he take Aman with him?? Lawyer Aditya Kumar guiding him about coming clean, texting but doesn't tell Arnav that he should NOT meet La at all or not alone else it's cheating his wife??? Unbelievable! What kind of an idiotic lawyer Arnav has hired. This is another biggest blunder Arnav created by his own actions, never forgivable.
About informing Khushi about divorce, he thinks she would be at least with her parents. But then her parents will take her with them after divorce news is a given, so then why was he even upset and couldn't sleep when Khushi returned to Umanagar to her parents later? Isn't he contradicting himself?
When Arnav received proof of adultery, the pics, how come he didn't think his wife might have received them too or random texts if they want to extract money or any other motive? It's obvious. Blackmailers will try to involve spouse or family members is given. He is reactive here too and never guesses Khushi is under threat too.
When Arnav was with Khushi for two+ months after La mishap, he chose various excuses NOT to tell her about his ONS with La, her pregnancy or divorce, all he said was I will take care of alimony, I will courier you if you forgot something so he had already let her go from his life long ago, unfortunate but true.
I also don't understand his logic to hide about La from Khushi just because she agreed for divorce. No matter when she knows, she is going to be upset, she will be more upset if he didn't tell her himself and disrespect her love, devotion and their 10 years long marriage. Didn't he think if La had a baby (he still thought La was preggo), Khushi will figure out their relationship happened while she was yet to be separated from Arnav. Anyone can easily backtrack when La got pregnant if there had been a baby, it's that straight forward.
The most unexpected reaction from Arnav is when Aman tells him La is NOT pregnant. He cares about Lavanya's privacy of all the things??? Aman should have slapped him tight right there. Then if he was realizing La was attracted to him and Ma asking for his divorce etc., they would go to any level to get Khushi out of his life and after he rejected La, she was wounded, she will definitely go after Khushi but Arnav chose to sleep over it, happily relieved that no baby onboard, pics taken care so his image is intact. This is where I called him self centered (Even Arpita has confirmed he being selfish in her reply to me) narcissist because he came across as one. Later when Ma dared to leak divorce news, Khushi and her family faced brutality which would have easily been avoided if Arnav was thoughtful and proactive. MaLa D openly conned him and he still needed proof about the pics, another bummer. The guy can't get basic 2+2=4. And even if 2+2=4 is not true, MaLa D lying about baby, putting him through so much sufferings, what Khushi would have gone through if she would have found out or he had to tell her to convince for divorce, was enough reason for him to destroy them and he decided to let go, another big bummer!
Maybe next part will shed more light and Arnav might have done some of the things, at least confrontation with La etc. But so many things were simply avoidable if he used common sense.
I agree timing was everything and Arnav missed it big time. Khushi did not confront him about La because he didn't come clean when she asked him his reason for divorce, all he said was he is unhappy and they drifted apart. Onus was on him to tell Khushi about La and not the other way round.
His mother's dialogue broke my heart, Khushi definitely deserved better and deserves better treatment from him! I truly hope down the line he realizes or Khushi shows what he has put her through which he could have easily avoided by using his money, resources and intelligence better!
Overall Arnav's not thinking through and no proper actions behavior was a complete let down for me in this chapter! My logical and educated mind cannot accept the damage he has pulled off for no reason, he just got super lucky La wasn't preggo. I am not even a lawyer but by just being logical, I can point to so many loop holes and he is supposed to be an astute rising businessman who is great at chess (Chess makes you think all angles of a situation in real life, main concept being how the king can get attacked from various angles and what can save him with thoughtful moves, also watch opponents moves and move to checkmate the opponent) but he forgot to apply chess in real life and is in self goal situation...
Anyways I am so looking forward to the next chapter!
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