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Originally posted by: BollyBabe75

The part about never starting the divorce if he knew it would break her or words to that affect. To me it shows that he is not so depressed that he doesn’t have self awareness of his actions.

Yes, he has dealt with a lot but he runs away from his feelings, doesn’t reach out and tries to handle it alone. He has an irrational fear of having a child for some probably traumatic reason, and refuses to discuss it with his wife. Finally, it’s all catching up to him.

He functions well outwardly so others don’t suspect his out of control feelings. But the point is he knows he is spiraling, thinks about going for counseling and as his habit runs away from confronting and thinks he can handle it on his own and the bad decisions start and pile up. He himself realizes he could use help and doesn’t act on it. Now that he has rendered devastation it looks like he may be willing to seek councilling.

I think we mixing up his personality, his upbringing, and the issues he is facing. He did not get help before the divorce because he thought he could handle whatever was happening. But once divorce goes through, he is unable to sleep, worried out of his mind for Khushi and he finds the help. Or atleast goes to the doctor to get sleeping pills. His limits are different from what we think should be.

And if you notice, he does not get help until he thinks he is the only one suffering. He genuinely tries to have a baby with Khushi, but each time he is unable to. And everytime Khushi tells him the pregnancy test was negative, he cannot help but feel relief. He is a 100% convinced he would never want kids. He does not think his not wanting kids is a mental health issue. So why would he seek help at that time? Maybe the reason for not wanting kids is something he KNOWS he would never get closure on. And he could just be convinced that no mental health professional in the world can make him want to have kids. So why would he go get help?

When you say people are coddling him, I do not agree with that assessment. No one is cutting him slack for his decisions to not talk to Khushi. But there is an acknowledgement of logic behind why he didn't talk to her about the baby issue, from his perspective. Even if he had talked he was convinced Khushi would compromise for him. And he did not want her to compromise for him anymore. And he did not want to keep feeling guilty anymore. I can understand why he thought of divorce.

Everything that happened after that was unfortunate. Yes, he stayed back at that party, but that does not mean he deserved to get raped/molested. The pregnancy scam. The photos. Khushi finding out before he could talk to her. Khushi misunderstanding why he had lawyers involved already. It's like a chain reaction in a nuclear reactor. Murphy's Law.

You cannot find empathy for Arnav and feel that readers here are cutting him a lot of slack. But why does no one ask why Khushi does not confront a husband of 10 years for cheating before leaving him and cutting him off? The same question that she asks Arnav after returning from Lucknow, could have been asked before going to Lucknow. Why not? It is because people behave differently in the face of life changing events. When she was faced with the idea of divorce, she was able to put Arnav in the front. She even thought "oh he must have thought through what he has decided". Or that "he never loved her/does not love her". Or that she was burden. She also thought at least she has some family to go back to. But her rock bottom came when she realized that no, she does not have anyone!. That is when she had the courage to ask him the question of why he did that to her. For the first time, she was able to put herself in front of Arnav's needs and ask that question for the sake of her self respect!

Anyway, I digress. But the point I am trying to make is that timing is everything in people's lives. We have the third person point of view and hence, we are able to pinpoint and say, oh he should have gotten help here. Oh he should have known. But no, people do not react that way when faced with such agony.

He realizes at one point that his thinking isn’t normal and thinks he could use counseling but dismisses it. This is before he decides on the divorce. He is self aware enough to know he can reach out to Khushi but doesn’t do it. Akash is telling him to reach out. But he falls back to running away from problems.

Originally posted by: BollyBabe75

He realizes at one point that his thinking isn’t normal and thinks he could use counseling but dismisses it. This is before he decides on the divorce. He is self aware enough to know he can reach out to Khushi but doesn’t do it. Akash is telling him to reach out. But he falls back to running away from problems.

But why would he reach out to Khushi when he knows Khushi would give up her dream of a child for him? He does not want that. That is the root cause of the divorce. he does not want Khushi to compromise anymore.

Originally posted by: You-Know-Who

I think we mixing up his personality, his upbringing, and the issues he is facing. He did not get help before the divorce because he thought he could handle whatever was happening. But once divorce goes through, he is unable to sleep, worried out of his mind for Khushi and he finds the help. Or atleast goes to the doctor to get sleeping pills. His limits are different from what we think should be.

And if you notice, he does not get help until he thinks he is the only one suffering. He genuinely tries to have a baby with Khushi, but each time he is unable to. And everytime Khushi tells him the pregnancy test was negative, he cannot help but feel relief. He is a 100% convinced he would never want kids. He does not think his not wanting kids is a mental health issue. So why would he seek help at that time? Maybe the reason for not wanting kids is something he KNOWS he would never get closure on. And he could just be convinced that no mental health professional in the world can make him want to have kids. So why would he go get help?

When you say people are coddling him, I do not agree with that assessment. No one is cutting him slack for his decisions to not talk to Khushi. But there is an acknowledgement of logic behind why he didn't talk to her about the baby issue, from his perspective. Even if he had talked he was convinced Khushi would compromise for him. And he did not want her to compromise for him anymore. And he did not want to keep feeling guilty anymore. I can understand why he thought of divorce.

Everything that happened after that was unfortunate. Yes, he stayed back at that party, but that does not mean he deserved to get raped/molested. The pregnancy scam. The photos. Khushi finding out before he could talk to her. Khushi misunderstanding why he had lawyers involved already. It's like a chain reaction in a nuclear reactor. Murphy's Law.

You cannot find empathy for Arnav and feel that readers here are cutting him a lot of slack. But why does no one ask why Khushi does not confront a husband of 10 years for cheating before leaving him and cutting him off? The same question that she asks Arnav after returning from Lucknow, could have been asked before going to Lucknow. Why not? It is because people behave differently in the face of life changing events. When she was faced with the idea of divorce, she was able to put Arnav in the front. She even thought "oh he must have thought through what he has decided". Or that "he never loved her/does not love her". Or that she was burden. She also thought at least she has some family to go back to. But her rock bottom came when she realized that no, she does not have anyone!. That is when she had the courage to ask him the question of why he did that to her. For the first time, she was able to put herself in front of Arnav's needs and ask that question for the sake of her self respect!

Anyway, I digress. But the point I am trying to make is that timing is everything in people's lives. We have the third person point of view and hence, we are able to pinpoint and say, oh he should have gotten help here. Oh he should have known. But no, people do not react that way when faced with such agony.

I would like to quote our dear author here.

“If everyone acted perfectly we wouldn’t have a story to read”

That’s it. That should be the core thinking we all should have before we make up our minds. It’s that charactered CAN F up. CAN make a mistake. CAN not be perfect in face of all situations. Arnav CAN make a mistake despite trying to do what he thought was right by Khushi. He CAN make a mistake in trying to assess that Khushi was not Lavanya’s target. Khushi CAN make a mistake of not being more forceful with him because she has seen him just break his back and give to others all his life.

If we think on those lines, characters become a lot more human and the angst becomes a bit more tolerable ♥️✌🏻

Originally posted by: Savera84

Hello Aashi,

This story is on Tumblr. You don't need to sign in to read the story.

I can't add external links here.

Search for Letter Box, Arshi FF in google and you will find a link which takes you to Prologue: The Bigger Price

Some chapters have working links to the next chapter and some have non working links. Nothing to worry.

Just go to the bottom of the page and use Right arrow until you get to the next chapter. Some pages have comments only. Hence you need to hit right arrow few times to get to the page with the next chapter.

Hope you enjoy the story.

Cheers..

Thanks Raji I will check this out ❤️

Originally posted by: shyamidutt

Maybe that’s an incentive for Arpita to give us the update faster 😂.

But I must say you guys are incredible. Every time I come back there are several pages to go through. It’s like reading several updates together. Now I’m worried. I’m going to have a houseful of guests (my husband’s friend traveling from India) so we play host and tour guide and I will be having major FOMO.

Try to restrain yourselves a bit guys 🤣. Atleast for my sake 😜 or God knows what I will do. Forget Maggie I might make inedible food the next two days 😂😂

I know right. I just sleep like normal human and already lots of things are discussed which I would have loved to participate in. By the time you read the comments it's like hey I wanted to say the same or hey I don't agree😕

I am going on a trek on 13th August with my gal pals keeping my kids at home. I was very excited for it.still am. but now I am thinking may be the confrontation chapter will be that week and I am going to miss the major discussion😭.just thinking about it is making me go crazy.

My husband is teasing me that u are ok to keep kids and me at home to enjoy with girl gang but now u are going crazy because u won't be able to discuss a story??? Woman get your priorities right🤣

Originally posted by: Ashviniv

I know right. I just sleep like normal human and already lots of things are discussed which I would have loved to participate in. By the time you read the comments it's like hey I wanted to say the same or hey I don't agree😕

I am going on a trek on 13th August with my gal pals keeping my kids at home. I was very excited for it.still am. but now I am thinking may be the confrontation chapter will be that week and I am going to miss the major discussion😭.just thinking about it is making me go crazy.

My husband is teasing me that u are ok to keep kids and me at home to enjoy with girl gang but now u are going crazy because u won't be able to discuss a story??? Woman get your priorities right🤣

Oh damn, I did not think that far along. I am expecting August to get really busy for me too! :( Now I am bummed!

Originally posted by: Learrntowrite

Well said, as always Akanksha 😍 I like that she writes things in the ff as it is and then may or may not choose to defend what the character did in the comments. This way FF remains a unique experience for us all.

Akash forgave Arnav quicker than Payal anticipated and I’m pretty sure she will not be as forgiving given that she was very blunt initially too. In some ways I think she feels more protective of Khushi even though she was Arnav’s friend first. Both of these characters, like us, reacted so differently.

Payal cares for Arnav too. She feels bad looking at his state after Khushi left and knocks some sense into him (which was needed, he was in chaos). While Akash’s support at a time when he would have felt at his lowest must have also meant something. He even defended Arnav in front of Payal once. Now even if Payal knows about Panchgani, I doubt her reaction would be same as Akash.

Imagine this. Both friends care. Both know the same things and yet might have supremely different reactions. We’re all doing the same. As you said, plenty of room has been given for us to assume things as we deem fit and that’s why it garners such a huge response. I fully agree. ♥️♥️♥️

Isha I think this comparison is perfect. Payal knows him for the longest time. Still her reactions are different than akaash. It might be because she is woman too and can relate to khushi's pain more than a man.i am not saying akash, Arnav, Aman can't understand but they might not understand the depth of that pain

Somehow that's also true for us readers here. We connected to Khushi immediately because as a woman u can actually feel that pain

Originally posted by: You-Know-Who

I think we mixing up his personality, his upbringing, and the issues he is facing. He did not get help before the divorce because he thought he could handle whatever was happening. But once divorce goes through, he is unable to sleep, worried out of his mind for Khushi and he finds the help. Or atleast goes to the doctor to get sleeping pills. His limits are different from what we think should be.

And if you notice, he does not get help until he thinks he is the only one suffering. He genuinely tries to have a baby with Khushi, but each time he is unable to. And everytime Khushi tells him the pregnancy test was negative, he cannot help but feel relief. He is a 100% convinced he would never want kids. He does not think his not wanting kids is a mental health issue. So why would he seek help at that time? Maybe the reason for not wanting kids is something he KNOWS he would never get closure on. And he could just be convinced that no mental health professional in the world can make him want to have kids. So why would he go get help?

When you say people are coddling him, I do not agree with that assessment. No one is cutting him slack for his decisions to not talk to Khushi. But there is an acknowledgement of logic behind why he didn't talk to her about the baby issue, from his perspective. Even if he had talked he was convinced Khushi would compromise for him. And he did not want her to compromise for him anymore. And he did not want to keep feeling guilty anymore. I can understand why he thought of divorce.

Everything that happened after that was unfortunate. Yes, he stayed back at that party, but that does not mean he deserved to get raped/molested. The pregnancy scam. The photos. Khushi finding out before he could talk to her. Khushi misunderstanding why he had lawyers involved already. It's like a chain reaction in a nuclear reactor. Murphy's Law.

You cannot find empathy for Arnav and feel that readers here are cutting him a lot of slack. But why does no one ask why Khushi does not confront a husband of 10 years for cheating before leaving him and cutting him off? The same question that she asks Arnav after returning from Lucknow, could have been asked before going to Lucknow. Why not? It is because people behave differently in the face of life changing events. When she was faced with the idea of divorce, she was able to put Arnav in the front. She even thought "oh he must have thought through what he has decided". Or that "he never loved her/does not love her". Or that she was burden. She also thought at least she has some family to go back to. But her rock bottom came when she realized that no, she does not have anyone!. That is when she had the courage to ask him the question of why he did that to her. For the first time, she was able to put herself in front of Arnav's needs and ask that question for the sake of her self respect!

Anyway, I digress. But the point I am trying to make is that timing is everything in people's lives. We have the third person point of view and hence, we are able to pinpoint and say, oh he should have gotten help here. Oh he should have known. But no, people do not react that way when faced with such agony.

💯 Agree here.

He thought about therapist but at that he was not sure about divorce. He dismissed that thought because he was just mulling things over and thought may be divorce is the thing which will give Khushi the incentive to move on and have the life she deserved with kids. He will also won't feel guilty for making Khushi unhappy. His solution was divorce at that time and he thought it will solve the problem for both of them

That's why his that sentence feels different now. He thought he was solving this impass for Khushi and him. He is already broken but he thought atleast Khushi would be happy. He was wrong 💯 but in his mind divorce was a solution. So I think when he dismissed the thought of going to therapist because he found the solution. 'Divorce'

Originally posted by: You-Know-Who

Oh damn, I did not think that far along. I am expecting August to get really busy for me too! :( Now I am bummed!

But I get it. I had to attend a small function and I was glued to my phone instead 😂😂😂. Same thing then in office. If I were to go to a trek or anyplace remote, I think a part of me will just be constantly crying in FOMO 😭