Co- Parenting - Page 2

Originally posted by: Peacelover15

Hey all this is a neutral question not from the show's perspective. I really want to know how does Co-Parenting actually work?

Do children from broken homes really suffer this bad or in reality they get to spend time with their mom and dad as and when they wish to?

Also if one of the parent is remarried , what could b the complications?

In real life I think co-parenting is extremely complicated..will be unique to each relationship..at different stages of life..age of kids .and if there are more than one kids .effect on each kids will be different..a lot of variables will affect it... financial situation of each parent .. support mother has. Circumstances of seperation..nature of each parent and each kid.and it will vary as children grow up and have some say in matter .but one thing is sure it is inevitable that a child will get affected by a broken marriage..some more some less..I know someone who had different stages of co parenting at different times of their lives..they evolved with time and distance and had forgiven each other and mellowed a bit...it again changed when kids became independent..but a person needs to evolve everyday as parent .have to think a child before themselves always..I read somewhere that heal before you become a parent so that a child doesnt have to heal from having you a parent..but every child will be scarred to some degree if parents have a bad relationship irrespective they stay together or are separate..parenting is tough and it's a process. Evolving as a person is easier said than done..but since it's a conscious decision for a person to bring a kid in a world.. they need to think about their kids well being before themselves..it's what I feel..coz I have first hand seen damage of broken home on an individual

Originally posted by: Neerasi29

In real life I think co-parenting is extremely complicated..will be unique to each relationship..at different stages of life..age of kids .and if there are more than one kids .effect on each kids will be different..a lot of variables will affect it... financial situation of each parent .. support mother has. Circumstances of seperation..nature of each parent and each kid.and it will vary as children grow up and have some say in matter .but one thing is sure it is inevitable that a child will get affected by a broken marriage..some more some less..I know someone who had different stages of co parenting at different times of their lives..they evolved with time and distance and had forgiven each other and mellowed a bit...it again changed when kids became independent..but a person needs to evolve everyday as parent .have to think a child before themselves always..I read somewhere that heal before you become a parent so that a child doesnt have to heal from having you a parent..but every child will be scarred to some degree if parents have a bad relationship irrespective they stay together or are separate..parenting is tough and it's a process. Evolving as a person is easier said than done..but since it's a conscious decision for a person to bring a kid in a world.. they need to think about their kids well being before themselves..it's what I feel..coz I have first hand seen damage of broken home on an individual

Yes completely agreed, I really wanted to know views about this topic as fortunately in my family and friends, there are no broken homes.

Originally posted by: Peacelover15

Yes completely agreed, I really wanted to know views about this topic as fortunately in my family and friends, there are no broken homes.

That's an incredible blessing ❤️❤️ parents relationship and nature affects people more deeply than anyone realises...those are formative years and they shape you..a person doesn't realize their reactions to situations and who they are unconsciously shaped by their formative years...some lose faith in relationship ..some resolve their commitment to not having relationship as their parents..but one thing I am absolutely sure about after you become parents..if it's your conscious decision to bring a child in this world...it's your responsibility to think about your kids always before u till the time they are dependent on you...an individual can't think about themselves before their kids..it's very difficult to do day in and day out and there will be failures but that resolve always needs to be there😊

Originally posted by: Peacelover15

Oh wow this is so refreshing.. The child has two happy homes.. All credit goes to your best friend and her ex

There is no love, no hate, no grudges nothing much to talk in between them. When she says, oh ya he is at his dad’s place, I asks her so many time, don’t you feel insecure or anything? She says “ we have seen good and worst both sides of each other and I feel, his worst side was only reserved for me in the entire world so I am glad he shows his best side only to our child like he does for the world.
I can feel her unsaid words that he was/is good to everyone except her.

This makes me sad! Honestly I m happy he is good with the kid! But she is still the mother of his child and for her to say, his bad side is reserved only for her, breaks me!

Originally posted by: Ambajee

This makes me sad! Honestly I m happy he is good with the kid! But she is still the mother of his child and for her to say, his bad side is reserved only for her, breaks me!

Now also when they meet for dropping or picking up their child, they just say hey to each other and handover their child. No words no taunts no grudges nothing.

He is still in my Facebook friend list , neither of them are bad person, it’s just that they couldn’t think anything beyond their ego, their child is also nothing in front of their ego.

So this is her main reason to feel that he is good for entire world except her.

Akshara and Abhimanyu’s divorce case was never extraordinary but Akshara took it to another level using xyz reason to hide their child’s existence for years and now hidden mess is out in front of the world and it is paining their child in terrible way.

Wow! This really shows u need to see the story from both perspective right with equal lens. There is never a right or wrong person in this type of situation. If it’s settled amicably, then that’s all that matters. Like you said, bringing an ‘I’ into a relationship is as toxic as bringing a mother-in law or father-in law into it.

Originally posted by: Ambajee

Wow! This really shows u need to see the story from both perspective right with equal lens. There is never a right or wrong person in this type of situation. If it’s settled amicably, then that’s all that matters. Like you said, bringing an ‘I’ into a relationship is as toxic as bringing a mother-in law or father-in law into it.