Anupama should not go to America. Period. - Page 5

Originally posted by: --Ruchi--

That's what my point! But here in itv they actually glorify sacrifice and term as " Ma hu ne" I mean come out of that zone. Ma means sacrifice should not be propagated also this superwomen concept and handling everything also not be glorified.

Yes, even first time Anupama chose to abandon dream for her baby. We rightly blame Vanraj and Leela for their plan, but Anupama also had sex without protection, after that chose to have the baby and then after that chose to remain behind with the baby. All were active choices of an adult women

Maybe now they are showing she has learned and grown, however i wished they had shown this with the

Shah families and her own children trying to stop and she flying off, instead of showing Anuj and CA

Shahs were and are always her chains, Anuj and CA have both been understanding. Why are they now showing Shahs wanting her to go and Anuj and CA being the chains? It doesnt make any sense. The series was always about Anupama escaping abusive Shahs

And we all know this nonsense is because of DKP favoritism and actor chemistry which ruins any logic. Anuj Anupama OTT show would have broken all streaming records, yet they chose to have Vanraj Anupama show which is both because of DKP and the actors having too much power.

True and USA was never Anupama’s dream. Both of the time it was served on platter for her. She never did anything to achieve this.

If this was really her dream then they could have show her thinking about it. It comes back with Malti Devi who are going to give Anupama everything on platter.

If it was her dream then where is her struggle. Balancing family matka can’t be her struggle where also she was unable to decide her priorities in past and fells the maintaining her relationships.

Originally posted by: Fighter03

In regular circumstances no mother would leave their young child behind to follow their dreams. Most mothers even if they have a busy career take their kids along with them if the relocate.

But matters are complicated here. Maya made Anupamaa give up CA. Anuj left Anupamaa. She thought she was free and signed a contract.

The logical thing would be to go to US and take Anuj and CA with her.

But, this is ITV soooo.

But now she signed a contract with Malti Devi so she should fulfill it at any cost. Why should Malti Devi pay the price for her family dramas.

Here we are talking about only Anupama who never took her career seriously. She start something then abandoned that. When they adopted choti then also Anupama had her dance academy but she never give time to academy and choti. She was busy with shah family. So it’s not that Anupama is very career oriented woman who wanted to make her identity. She would be happy in shah family if only vanraj didn’t cheated her. Her career is just timepass things for her.

Originally posted by: Snowdrrop

Here we are talking about only Anupama who never took her career seriously. She start something then abandoned that. When they adopted choti then also Anupama had her dance academy but she never give time to academy and choti. She was busy with shah family. So it’s not that Anupama is very career oriented woman who wanted to make her identity. She would be happy in shah family if only vanraj didn’t cheated her. Her career is just timepass things for her.

You have a valid point there. She went to college for 1 week and left that, she didnt pay attention to dance academy and actually never even practice dance in her free time or to destress herself. So, yes I do agree that making an identity for herself - she isnt serious about this!!!

I can't believe people here turned me into a misogynist who thinks mothers should not have dreams. That is such BS and extrapolation on another level. I would say the same it Anuj was doing what Anupama was.

If you have to go overseas, leaving your kid behind, to provide a better life for the family, be it a man or a woman, I would totally respect their choice. They are victims of their circumstances. Even then, in such cases, children may feel abandoned and grow resentful and this is perfectly understandable as well. Parents would then have to bring them to therapy and deal with their emotional issues accordingly.

Here, Anupama is going overseas to pursue a dream, which she can pursue in India as well. As Anupama is an Indian dancer, she would have as many, if not more, opportunities in the country the dance originated from. Why is going to America the pinnacle of her success? What is the big deal with America?

Leaving all that aside, if Anupama dreams of going to America but also brings CA along, then I wouldn't bat an eye. I often see this ranking of priorities online and agree with it to a large extent: your child's needs>you/your partner's needs>you/your partner's wants>your child's wants. Here, CA needs her mother in this very traumatic and tumultuous phase of her life.

If Anuj suddenly says he doesn't want to be a business person and that he wants to be the next Jay-Z and chooses to migrate to America, I would say the exact same things for Anuj as well. I don't know why some people are implying I wouldn't because that is not what I said, at all.

My 2 cents here:

1. It was Anupama's dream to perform in America. Alright. She had a flourishing Dence Ecedemy that did international shows right? Remember Samar stating they had shows abroad? Why did she not go then?

2. Kinjal supporting Anupama leaving her foster child is laughable to say the least.

She had a problem with Rakhi Dave because she was a working mother who couldn't give her time and they did not have a joint family who would tend for her.

Now she herself left a lactating child behind saying " Mummy dekh lengi".

Now Anupama is leaving a 7 year old girl who has faced so much already, amidst an extended family that could care less, have, in the past mentally abused the child. What are her explanations Now?

Anupama can be pressurised also vo bhi anuj se , usme itni aukaat hai, anuj mein itne guts to Aaj uski zindagi aise nhi hoti , matlab kuch bhi

U can't pressurise anupama into doing anything until she herself wanted to something, it's a proven fact in d serial.

She has so much pressure of not divorcing her true love vanraj but still stayed adamant into divorcing her true love . How many times anuj asked anupama to concentrate on their marriage, even begged but anupama gave a damn .

Anupama devi vahi karti jo vo khud karna chahte hai .

Will anupama leave shah family or her true love vanraj if anuj pressurise her ? Iss forum pe jyada tar sabko pata hai iska answer

Originally posted by: Potato_couch

I can't believe people here turned me into a misogynist who thinks mothers should not have dreams. That is such BS and extrapolation on another level. I would say the same it Anuj was doing what Anupama was.

If you have to go overseas, leaving your kid behind, to provide a better life for the family, be it a man or a woman, I would totally respect their choice. They are victims of their circumstances. Even then, in such cases, children may feel abandoned and grow resentful and this is perfectly understandable as well. Parents would then have to bring them to therapy and deal with their emotional issues accordingly.

Here, Anupama is going overseas to pursue a dream, which she can pursue in India as well. As Anupama is an Indian dancer, she would have as many, if not more, opportunities in the country the dance originated from. Why is going to America the pinnacle of her success? What is the big deal with America?

Leaving all that aside, if Anupama dreams of going to America but also brings CA along, then I wouldn't bat an eye. I often see this ranking of priorities online and agree with it to a large extent: your child's needs>you/your partner's needs>you/your partner's wants>your child's wants. Here, CA needs her mother in this very traumatic and tumultuous phase of her life.

If Anuj suddenly says he doesn't want to be a business person and that he wants to be the next Jay-Z and chooses to migrate to America, I would say the exact same things for Anuj as well. I don't know why some people are implying I wouldn't because that is not what I said, at all.

Exactly, the misogynist thing is just an excuse for anupama fans. They know anupama hasn't been serious about any dreams or career. Kapadia empire is way way way bigger than any dance academy and she is the owner. She is abandoning that

Ok lets says she is not interested in business but only in dance. She left her dance academy and students for dimpy. Then she opened another dance academy and now she will abandon those students also to go to America. She abandoned her studies.

She is extremely unprofessional and clearly not interested in any career. America just seems a new exciting thing for her but i can guarantee if she goes, she will abandon that in a few weeks

Pretending that she is suddenly very career and dream focused is so funny

Saddest thing is that she now has an excuse to blame CA for not going and staying with Shahs, when she was going to abandon her dreams sooner or later anyways

If CA was normal than anupama would have gone to America but with CA not in senses n her health deteriorating anupama won't go obviously.

Or may be they will show anuj anupma taking any to America for treatment.

Whatever the dream of mother or father is i don't think it should be above a child's health.

Child being adopted or taken birth is both parent's choice hence they can't be considered a liability as it was parent's choice to bring the child in ur world hence u r responsible for them.