Tere Bin DT#102 (Yumna Zaidi-wahaj Ali) Gham aur hum - Page 43

See martial rape agr Hua Maryam ke saath bhi to Maryam meerab nhi hai jo iske khilaaf aawaz uthayegi vo chod degi apni jindagi uss jnsaan ke ssath

Aur naurez itna himmatwala nhi hai kj murtasim khaan ki behan ke saayh aisa karke usse chodkar chala jaaye he knows he will kill him right at the spot where he sees her

Neither he will leave her to Maryam ka angle aaya bhi kyu samajh nhi aaraha hai

Dono taraf se naurez didn't have much power to leave khan sister like this in between just after marriage , he knows he will enter into dangerous territory to leave her like this enmity with khan will cost his life Will he

And nowwww meerasim inpe koi bhi theory ab banani hi nhi haj saari dekhli kuch nhi aaraha hai samajh main

Originally posted by: Madhuilove

This pic used to give me butterflies , now it is giving me chills 🥲🥺

😭😭

Originally posted by: hypnotoad

Exactly.

MK's last line is: Meri kya aukaat hai aur uss agreement ki kiya haisyat hai tumhe abhi batata hoon.

We then see him lock the door.

The patriarchal culture we live in, our knowledge and assumptions about feudal systems, the coding we see in our local content has conditioned us to think that these cues imply SA / MR.

Jaise purani films mein ek ladki kisi ladke ko thappad maare aur woh ladka bole mein usko mazaa chakhata hoon, we know he means SA. We don't think this means he will TP her house, egg her car, file a police complaint or some other type of get back scheme. This is because this line has been used recurrently in multiple narratives to mean SA. Similarly, the dialogue and visuals we see here are usually coded as SA in our narratives so we assume this is SA too.

Our understanding of patriarchy and feudal systems also makes us think SA.

Agar kisi aur show jo feudal system pe based ho aur ek aurat ek mard ko thappad maare uss pe thooke and that man utters these lines, we automatically think ke SA hoga. Kyunke aise setup main agar kisi mard ki ego ko aisa lalkara jaye to his reaction is to assert his power and dominance over the woman thru sex.

But we have been shown that MK is not a typical feudal lord.

Think back to when MK found Maryam.

When MK finds Maryam, it is not immediately clear how MK will react.

In particular, look at his expression right after the FB as he moves towards Maryam (see pic)

Many people may have thought MK will yell at Mayam or slap her kyunke woh ghar se bhag gayee, khan family ki naak katwadi.

But he hugged her instead.

He did not condemn her, scold her, or respond in any of the ways we assume a man in a feudal system a patriarchal and conservative culture will respond.

The same is happening here.

It is all a misdirect.

Contract ki haisyat or apni aukat dikhana will not lead to SA or MR

Instead MK may rip the contract and say to Merub that it is not this agreement of paper that has made him comply with the terms (i.e. is kagaz ki koi haisyat nahin) but it is because he respects her choices, values her consent, and loves her (his aukaat).

Originally posted by: -INAAYAT-

madhuuuu I am not fine after the promo, dimaagh kharab ho gaya hai ❤️

you know I tried really hard to stay here and put my thoughts across!

kaisi ho tum?

Originally posted by: midniteangel

It wont... theres in NO MR and theres NO talaq..

Only emotional outburst with tod phod

I don't know what to think after the writer's IG story 😭

Originally posted by: Madhuilove

This pic used to give me butterflies , now it is giving me chills 🥲🥺

@bold: the promo itself and the last few minutes of the episode triggered many but not all. It didn’t imply marital rape to me at all so there’s some difference of opinion there, maybe not on IF or Twitter. I asked my friends this as well… b/c I was curious, and they also agreed. So just wanted to clarify that the promos did not give the same implications for all.

For me, what IS stupid and disgusting and triggering is Maria and Nooran adding fuel to the fire by answering questions about this MR potential vaguely and repulsively using inflammatory statements and words like “the situation demands it.” I still am not sure what situation they are talking about, and whether they are referring to MR or something else, but they are purposely leaving that as a possibility because they know what the audience is thinking and they have chosen to give those answers. That’s so disgusting, especially given the huge response to the promo. That is a disservice to Yumna and Wahaj big time.

But also… I really wonder if they all are just counting on the fact that all these Twitter keyboard warriors will eat their words after they see the episode and MR presumably doesn’t happen. I can see them just laughing in their head … like the way Yumna did in one of her geo interviews where she said awam already comes with their viewpoints before watching. Maybe that’s why they are silent or giving vague answers.

If MR happens then, they all deserve the bashing.

But why would Yumna and Wahaj agree to do a romantic photoshoot with MR in the picture. That makes ZERO sense. From what I’ve seen of Yumna, no way she would want to be seen looking lovingly into a rapist’s eyes…holding his face tenderly… like seriously.

Originally posted by: badshah_begum

We don’t need to wait for the episode because the implication is bad enough. They are implying marital rape with the promo and last few minutes of the episode and all the interviews. Using such a sensitive topic that unfortunately too many people in our society think is a non-issue to create hype is very irresponsible and unethical. Fans have shown so much love to Yumna and Wahaj so I think they bear some responsibility to be morally conscious with the stories they are involved in. Even slapping and spitting was too much. This is not a social issues drama. This was a pure romance drama with some trashy elements and if they have added marital rape then it’s just to create another twist, rather than bring awareness to a societal issue. If actors get this much love then they should be able to handle criticism too.

Originally posted by: Madhuilove

thik nahi hain innu .......bilkul bhi Nahi

I still cannot get myself to believe any of this! It's like a nightmare!

Originally posted by: TR_19

Phir bhi feels to long wait.

Originally posted by: lalakhun

i am not saying who is better.. I am just saying serials show women who reject the man that loves them as bad but not the other way round...

Whether men or women

They are not obligated to love a person just because the other person love them

They can love only if they have feelings. It's their right to choose a person they want to love.

And if u think what haya has for murtasim is love then I can say no woman in love will try to kill someone, let a girl be assaulted/ killed to get that man.

That's not love.