Abhira trust issues - Page 3

Originally posted by: lagjagale

I am talking about the constant lying. Look, I understand her POV back then, and no one is saying that Abhi isn't wrong or he doesn't deserve this. It's more the lying about everything from day 1. And maybe Abhi deserves it, but does Abhir ? People have pointed out him losing out on Birla name and the associated wealth, but he is also losing out on Goenka's wealth and love. Again I understand the complications and how little people have supported her, but she has lied about everything, how is anyone supposed to trust her moving forward?

We are constantly forgetting the fact here that even after the white day. The moment she knows that a baby is fine and alive she called. Constantly called him

What was his behaviour. What was his reaction to Shefali that Akshu is missing. His words was bhaag gayi hogi phele bhi gayi this.

How much impractical but with Kunal Khera she went for Abhi. Atleast even after everything he should not say this and agar andar hi rkha tha toh divorce ho hi jaane deta. Akshu didn't send separation paper, she didn't asked for it to stop either once kairav was innocent.

She could have died, raped, anything. The supposed husband, love her more than anything did not care.

In reality Abhi type of guys doesn't deserve the love of Aru forget Akshu and Abhir.

He was cruel to his wife who just miscarriaged their babies i mean the situation, the moment.

The question should be how can someone trust a guy whose first action in anger is to get separated.

So why should two people who can't handle each other's weaknesses forced in a marriage like situation , forced to cohabit ? There is no such compulsion. If things didn't work out tum apne raaste main apne raaste .why not ?

Are we living in the pre in dependence era where the girl had to live with the man no matter what ? She has the choice to divorce and live her own life without getting judged. We have seen our mothers and grandmothers telling us how they lived their life adjusting and compromising throughout..so why not choose one's happiness ?

In reality both the man and the woman has to compromise in a marriage but if it's one sided it never works .

Just to clarify that I am not an Abhi hater .. Harshad Chopra is magnificent as Abhi .. but I just don’t understand why his big crimes are forgivable whereas her mistakes or bad decisions are all unforgivable crimes .. haven’t you seen normal girls choosing not to go ahead with their feelings for their family , for parents? Do they go and tell the guy I love you ? It is a choice and it is not a crime to make that choice ..

And someone mentioned about her lying to a child .. would Sbhimanyu and family be okay if she tells the whole truth to the child ? Or would your definition of truth only include the fact that he fathered the child but hide the fact that he threw her out and refused to talk to her throughout the rest of her oegnancy and did not even bother about her ? That once she lost the babies as per him , she was of no use to him ? That he considered her expendable when compared to his family .. are we forgetting humanity just because the male lead is hot and he had better scenes and he claims toLove after breaking every promise he ever made to her when it was testing time?

Originally posted by: solembaum

Just to clarify that I am not an Abhi hater .. Harshad Chopra is magnificent as Abhi .. but I just don’t understand why his big crimes are forgivable whereas her mistakes or bad decisions are all unforgivable crimes .. haven’t you seen normal girls choosing not to go ahead with their feelings for their family , for parents? Do they go and tell the guy I love you ? It is a choice and it is not a crime to make that choice ..

She totally had the choice and full rights to make one Nd abhimNyu must have respected her choice . Even if she loved him, even if he loved her , even if arohi wanted him or not , or any situation, she still has the right to refuse.

Lying to a 5 yr old child or not lying doesn't make sense ..he is not grown up enuf to understand the circumstances that's about it. Lying to abhimanyu , she didn't lie but she hid he truth ..she tried to tell him but he didn't listen ..that doesn't mean after she moved on and got settled she should have kept trying to tell him ..he cud have also reverted bk and asked her abt the phone call.

As for marrying a stranger , knowing someone for 6 months is enuf , abhinav wasn't a stranger when akshu chose him..she took help from a stranger , there is no written rule that all all strangers are bad and not to be trusted. This is not what wr tell our children "don't take toffee from a stranger" ..somebody who lends a helping hand in distress , has proved that he is trustworthy.

See my c point is hypothetical obviously they showed Akshu is head over heels too but is keeping her sis above but she didn't say if you love me marry my sister shit.

He made that choice himself. Ruby liked him too, he was hot and aware that girls go gaga over him.

Choose anyone. why the sister of your supposed love. That is on Abhi and

Yes Abhira patching up on wedding day was on bith of them.

Akshu i don't think lied to him after marriage.

And she trusted him too.

Remember Rudra called and said shit about Abhi to Aru and Aru call Akshu.

Akshu straight forward said Abhi k words nahi hain yeh.

Akshu didn't tell about Anisha coz of the surgery

Akshu trusted his decision regarding her work too when he without consulting her he got an offer even though Shefali called him controlling.

About wealth let's say serial world mein usko nahi dikha rhe coz then technically Akshu should just ask her share of property.

Cut ties emotionally with Gorillas and spend her life with Abhir and Nav in luxury. Starting a good business from that property share.

And how come her telling the world that Abhir is her and Nav son will be snatching Goenkas property too

She totally had the choice and full rights to make one Nd abhimNyu must have respected her choice . Even if she loved him, even if he loved her , even if arohi wanted him or not , or any situation, she still has the right to refuse.

Lying to a 5 yr old child or not lying doesn't make sense ..he is not grown up enuf to understand the circumstances that's about it. Lying to abhimanyu , she didn't lie but she hid he truth ..she tried to tell him but he didn't listen ..that doesn't mean after she moved on and got settled she should have kept trying to tell him ..he cud have also reverted bk and asked her abt the phone call.

-- this what if she told him the truth and Abhir hated his father in a small age like this.

Then also Akshu's fault. Coz she can't tell him k papa hain kahan

Star ban gaye like Ruhi nahi bta skti

Btaye kya.

Not denying the fact that she too needs redemption buf more than that need therapy.

Abhi in my pov needs redemption 100X, therapy.

If they go for custody battle he is gone case for me

Arre arre! Ruko zara, sabar karo!

Originally posted by: lagjagale

Yeah, she is definitely lying to Abhinav as well. I also never understood why Abhinav loves her. Just cause she handles the house and is a good mother? I know people will ask then why Abhi loved her, and I honestly feel like back then, she was very lovable despite all her faults. She was sweet, kind, and loving. Now she just gets angry or sad, sometimes there is happiness if Abhir does something cute and stuff, but she usually just reverts back to being distant and cold. Combine that with knowing that this woman had a complicated pregnancy and still refused to go to her family, hid her son from her family and from his father, and didn't want any relationship. And then, meeting Abhi and her family and realizing that Abhi is actually a good parent, whatever his equation with Ak and her family is actually supportive even if they support Arohi more. I know I am just listing Ak's negatives, but I just wish there was more of an explanation to why Abhinav loves her or how that developed.

Sorry yaar but none of them are good parents.

Abhi has made Ruhi very ziddi moving forward these kinda kids become what i want i get. In real world they become very greyish.

About Abhir knowing the truth will ruin them. But in away they thought him he is not always going to get all things he zid for.

Navra as a parent better than Abhi if we minus the Abhir biological parents part.

Exactly! And then in yesterday's episode he was doing that drama of not being able to see her shivering in cold. He is nothing more than a double faced loser.