papaG & yuvi: adult child-parent conflict; am my own person - Page 6

Originally posted by: Nabni_blr31

What i like about our show is except nighty mama most of the women characters are sorted and they are happy in their own space. Reet's problem is different. But Katha,Dodo,MamaR,Guni Maa,Jenny,Farah,Nevedita are all happy go lucky types.

Sadly all the male characters are totally messed up. 😆

I can still understand reet and her insecurities. if you have grown up being told that as a girl, you are worthless and your only job is to marry well, then your entire existence and hope and value in yourself is tied to being the bahu of the house. reet is well aware that she is somewhat of a drama queen and that people don't take to her readily. so she tries even more harder to get the attention and love from mamaG and papaG. so obviously it would grate that katha gets their attention and praise so easily without even trying. reet in that way feels like a real person.

dodo looks like she is putting on a mask and hiding a lot of unhappiness behind it all. so not necessarily happy but someone who makes herself smile.

nightie mama is just plain weird. I don't understand her at all. 🤢 she seems stranger to me than the messed up male characters.

we continued to have some interesting scenes this week but I was sick with flu and so no energy to really post. but wanted to post some thoughts even if a bit late.

did anyone else wonder why the toy happened to be monkey?

right when we see it, along with papaG, we also assume that it belonged to aditya and now, it will go to aarav. instead, it turned out to be yuvi's old toy and somehow papaG had mixed up his memories. all his good memories he associates with aditya, his favoured son, and he has forgotten the fun he had with yuviraj.

at the same time, aarav's nickname is monkey -- was that something she gave or aditya? why monkey?

in friday's episode, we get mamaG trying yet again to gently tell papaG that he can't expect yuvi to behave a certain way. papaG and aditya were very alike and so they processed and executed things in a similar fashion. yuvi has his own way of doing things. as mamaG says, just different but not wrong. but then papaG reveals that he is very anxious about the future and what will happen to yuvi after his time -- mamaG is not able to say anything.

as I was thinking this weekend, I wondered how much of our conflicts in family arise out of anxiety and worry over the future. a friend is wading through the arranged marriage market for her daughter and she was laughing that it is chaos at home -- the parents (she and her husband are worried), the grandparents (in-laws) are worried and then you have the daughter who is also worried.

so how do we react when we are anxious about the future? do we get hyper critical and blame? do we find fault in everything? in our frustration, do we make things worse?

yuvi is voicing out his frustration more and more because it seems nothing he does meets his father's approval. is there anything he can do to lessen papaG's anxiety? or is anxiety something papaG has to figure out how to deal as a parent? what do folks think?

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

we continued to have some interesting scenes this week but I was sick with flu and so no energy to really post. but wanted to post some thoughts even if a bit late.

did anyone else wonder why the toy happened to be monkey?

right when we see it, along with papaG, we also assume that it belonged to aditya and now, it will go to aarav. instead, it turned out to be yuvi's old toy and somehow papaG had mixed up his memories. all his good memories he associates with aditya, his favoured son, and he has forgotten the fun he had with yuviraj.

at the same time, aarav's nickname is monkey -- was that something she gave or aditya? why monkey?

in friday's episode, we get mamaG trying yet again to gently tell papaG that he can't expect yuvi to behave a certain way. papaG and aditya were very alike and so they processed and executed things in a similar fashion. yuvi has his own way of doing things. as mamaG says, just different but not wrong. but then papaG reveals that he is very anxious about the future and what will happen to yuvi after his time -- mamaG is not able to say anything.

as I was thinking this weekend, I wondered how much of our conflicts in family arise out of anxiety and worry over the future. a friend is wading through the arranged marriage market for her daughter and she was laughing that it is chaos at home -- the parents (she and her husband are worried), the grandparents (in-laws) are worried and then you have the daughter who is also worried.

so how do we react when we are anxious about the future? do we get hyper critical and blame? do we find fault in everything? in our frustration, do we make things worse?

yuvi is voicing out his frustration more and more because it seems nothing he does meets his father's approval. is there anything he can do to lessen papaG's anxiety? or is anxiety something papaG has to figure out how to deal as a parent? what do folks think?

Monkey looks like coincidence and then also for some refreshing memories of papag

Yuvu has always been sidlined by father and even wife and none of them even respected him for his efforts... That has taken a roll on him and he is finding peace out side his marriage.... Not justifiable... But that is his valid reason

With anxiety on family and how they respond is very different for each individual and household..... Few remain more practical, few panic and make hasty choices, few fight out of concern.... Vagera vagera..... Can't generalize it!!!

Yuvi, with some affection and understanding from his family, may mend his ways on his own... Without even being told.

Originally posted by: MSgayatri

Monkey looks like coincidence and then also for some refreshing memories of papag

Yuvu has always been sidlined by father and even wife and none of them even respected him for his efforts... That has taken a roll on him and he is finding peace out side his marriage.... Not justifiable... But that is his valid reason

With anxiety on family and how they respond is very different for each individual and household..... Few remain more practical, few panic and make hasty choices, few fight out of concern.... Vagera vagera..... Can't generalize it!!!

Yuvi, with some affection and understanding from his family, may mend his ways on his own... Without even being told.

I like your optimism. 😆

however, it looks like this isn't one of those conflicts that gets magically resolved with one lecture and so am curious to see where they are going with this.

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

tag 3.0

Thanks for the tag

i guess most of has or goin thru this phase...

during school times... comparing with fellow students...

then with neighbour students.... etc etc....

thankfully... after college mostly we dont get into same job where our parents are working... (i hope it same for everyone)... but still... parents feels we r nt matured enuf to handle our life...

in their eyes we r still small baby who trying to walk slowly....

to solution for this i dnt knw

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

I like your optimism. 😆

however, it looks like this isn't one of those conflicts that gets magically resolved with one lecture and so am curious to see where they are going with this.

I feel this gf chick will end up troubling kathaa and her sasuraal and also viaan by triggering his past.... Let's see how it pans out!!

Originally posted by: Nichuss

i guess most of has or goin thru this phase...

during school times... comparing with fellow students...

then with neighbour students.... etc etc....

thankfully... after college mostly we dont get into same job where our parents are working... (i hope it same for everyone)... but still... parents feels we r nt matured enuf to handle our life...

in their eyes we r still small baby who trying to walk slowly....

to solution for this i dnt knw

yea, there is not a one-fix solution but it is good if we can talk about it and understand what motivates parents as well as us. this way we can understand them and vice versa. it also helps to know that we are not the only family going through such conflict. basically it happens everywhere but some families come out of it stronger while others don't.

PapaG has to accept that Yuvi is his own person, and simply let him be.

Yuvi has to stop caring about what others think of him and simply live on his terms. Any person would suffocate under so much criticism and lack of appreciation.

You know M....I didn't comment on your conflict thread because I didn't want to deep dive in that subject. The simple truth is that our parents shape our lives through the way they bring us up. Most of the time, they are figuring things out themselves and end up messing up the children through their own mistakes.

I believe that true love of any sort requires space and acceptance. How is it love if we do not see the person for who they really are and keep on wanting to change the object of our love? The burden of expectations becomes too heavy for any individual's shoulders....comes a point where that person will rebel. We see this happening with Yuvi.

In respect of the future, it is only uncertainty which drives a person's worry. People build up scenarios in their minds, which rarely match with the actual reality. PapaG needs to have faith that everything will be fine. Even if Yuvi sinks the business,it will be Yuvi's business to sink at that point in time. Why give something and then retain control? Parents think that their children don't know better than them, and they are always trying to protect them in their own way. But life doesn't work like this. So, to summarise, PapaG needs to take a step back and let Yuvi breathe, live, make his own mistakes, fall and them get back up.

Thanks for the tag😊.But I have never analyzed these conflicts or thought about the relationships in deeper sense.So,I think I would just read everyone's discussions here😅.