[Member Poll] WHAT ARE YOUR LIFE CHALLENGES - Page 4

Originally posted by: nautankitadka

Most of these tbh. But my biggest flaw is that I actually like to live in my own bubble with a high steel wall and barbed wires around me, where noone can hurt me, but then noone even knows the real me. My grandparents are currently my entire world, and I genuinely don't feel like I need anyone else's validation beyond them, but they won't be there forever, and that scares me 😶

Let your heart gets hurt

Easier said than done

That's where the beams of eightment go through

Overcome the emotional pain of fear and unknown

Life meant to be lived

U fall n rise again n again

Messy process for everyone but enjoyable

That's how u learn n live

The more u live in the bubble with fear of getting hurt, the more u become vulnerable n anxious with every little change, will evolve into full blown panic as well...

Just

FLOWWWWWWW with no fear of future

Originally posted by: FingerFetish

I live in the past and can’t seem to enjoy nor move forward because the feeling of nostalgia and regret suffocates me.

Nostalgia is just an illusion dear.

Mind glorifying the ordinary routine things from the past due to emotional attachments.

Do practice breaking the spell of nostalgia with factual decoding I mentioned earlier in this thread, it will definitely & easily keep you more in the now and let you enjoy the life much more.

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1. Quick tempered. Anger may last longer than i'd prefer to
2. Too hard and judgemental of myself. I find it very hard to forget and forgive my mistakes or errors.
3. I need to learn to NOT take things too seriously.

1. I wear my heart on my sleeve

2. I am an emotional fool and let my emotions consume and dictate me

3. I fall too fast, crash too easily, and trust too much

Originally posted by: hasini009

That’s me🤔

I don’t even argue, just silently walk away 🥺

Ohh buddy! It may be because subconsciously we want to safeguard ourselves from getting hurt again.. 😒

Originally posted by: Charu21

If something goes wrong/ I get emotionally hurt by someone, I get distant very easily. I would feel absolutely nothing for that person, even if at some point that person had an important place in my life. I would just slowly make the distance wider and end things. Though this happens in extreme cases but I really feel I need to work on that. :(

I am extremely awkward socially. Like extremely! In real life, I need to mix up with people more. I like to stay in my "comfort zone" only.

Happens with me too.

Even if the person had been one of my best friends i can't maintain relation with them once i get in my getting distant zone, after i reach a point of no return. Though i give many chances to the relationship before i reach the point of no return, but the fact is after certain instances of hurt the relationship doesn't feel the same and it starts feeling like I'm faking it. Which i don't like and then I completely move away.

So yes.... Kinda similar to u.

Originally posted by: NatkhatPyare

Happens with me too.

Even if the person had been one of my best friends i can't maintain relation with them once i get in my getting distant zone, after i reach a point of no return. Though i give many chances to the relationship before i reach the point of no return, but the fact is after certain instances of hurt the relationship doesn't feel the same and it starts feeling like I'm faking it. Which i don't like and then I completely move away.

So yes.... Kinda similar to u.

@ bold - ditto!

It's as if there is some switch to my emotions.. I would feel just nothing once it is turned off if I get hurt. To me it happens in extreme cases only but yes I totally get what you must feel at times like this.

Originally posted by: NatkhatPyare

1. Quick tempered. Anger may last longer than i'd prefer to
2. Too hard and judgemental of myself. I find it very hard to forget and forgive my mistakes or errors.
3. I need to learn to NOT take things too seriously.

1. Always do 10 minutes of kapaal bhaati and 10 minutes of anulom velom in the morning.

These 20 minutes will be a catalyst to control a large chunk of your anger. I am practicing it regularly every morning since 2014 and can see the drastic changes.

Kapaal bhaati takes care of the anger and stress while anulom velom not just eases anxitey but balances out both sides of the brain , the creative and analytical one.

Point 2 and 3 are usually the byproducts of these pent up emotions and unchannalized negative energy which is taken out by the above stated 2 breathing exercises techniques.

Also daily physical exercise of work out, yoga or atleast 30 minutes of brisk walking will marginally decrease these symptoms

To address the issues (not the symptoms) you need to dig down and have to address the root cause to make peace with them once and for all to not these issues keep haunting you for the rest of your life in form of these emotional discomforts and dis_eases.

Originally posted by: NatkhatPyare

Happens with me too.

Even if the person had been one of my best friends i can't maintain relation with them once i get in my getting distant zone, after i reach a point of no return. Though i give many chances to the relationship before i reach the point of no return, but the fact is after certain instances of hurt the relationship doesn't feel the same and it starts feeling like I'm faking it. Which i don't like and then I completely move away.

So yes.... Kinda similar to u.

Seems like commitment issues and FEAR of the future, expectations, fear of not maintaining it in a PERFECT way as of now (which is practically impossible).

Seems like you set impossible level of expectations for yourself unconsciously.

Something that hinders you , a glass wall kinda thing that is basically a fear of the future and what will happen next or precisely if it's good now, what's the guaranteed it will remain like this forever...or fear of something bad will happen...in short & simple worss its one form of ANXITEY, i.e. fear of unknown which emotionally shuts you down subconsciously to make you SAFE from the UNSEESN PSECEIVED MIND MADE damage/hurt.

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Originally posted by: NatkhatPyare

Happens with me too.

Even if the person had been one of my best friends i can't maintain relation with them once i get in my getting distant zone, after i reach a point of no return. Though i give many chances to the relationship before i reach the point of no return, but the fact is after certain instances of hurt the relationship doesn't feel the same and it starts feeling like I'm faking it. Which i don't like and then I completely move away.

So yes.... Kinda similar to u.

I’m the complete opposite. Despite getting hurt in a relationship (including friendship), I forgive too quickly and can’t move on because I’m stuck with nostalgic feelings of the times when things were good.