Confusing Abuse with love ...IG post and a reflection wrt show - Page 4

Originally posted by: Arshi67

It has been very interesting reading the well articulated thoughts and views on this thread.

Vanraj may have provided for the family’s economic needs but the psychological abuse that came with it was horrible. Instilling a fear of adverse repercussion is a very powerful tool when it comes to exercising control and getting people to toe your line.

The acceptance of his anger as his right as a provider is not uncommon in real life either. You see the “innko accha nahi lagega” governing the actions of so many women. A matter of fact acceptance of patriarchy that has led to it being normalised.

Television dramas are to a large extent a reflection of society. Its values and thought processes, its dynamics. Anupamaa was sold to the viewer as a woman’s journey to free herself from abuse, tyranny, betrayal and find her own wings. So much of it would have resonated with so many viewers.The makers are shrewd enough to have understood that. Therefore, they do have a responsibility to the audience to handle things with sensitivity. And not in this cack-handed nonsensical manner.

Bapuji saying that Anupama ko todna nahi sirf jodna aata hai is so superficial. It may make for a good soundbite but does not true wisdom and understanding come from knowing when the jodna is more harmful than the todna.

Anupama’s “bediyan baand kar udaane nahi bhari jaati” rung true at the time but this below is also needed,

Nikaal laaya hoon ek pinjre se ek parinda

Ab uss parinday ke dil se pinjra nikaalna hai

~ Umair Najmi

The last 2 lines ❤️❤️... So apt in this scenario ...

Truth to be said it still happens where abuse is portrayed as love even in big and small screens too apart from reality. Anu was always told throughout that V and Baa loved her. Though she might have felt it's not true she accepted it... maybe as a coping mechanism to stay in that place. Now she finds it difficult to cone out of the cage she put herself in. Before it was to cope up and live in a prison... Now it's a bad habit... I know people often get irritated with her ... but somehow I pity her as I know what she might feel... right now she needs love, assurance and therapy to get over the habit... and getting out is absolutely necessary for her to move on

Love story is not a problem it can set an example how relationship should be, how respect in relation can make it beautiful, actual problem is normalizing mental abuse of 27 years without any reason, all positive characters are justifying V forgetting all the wrong doings he did, he made a woman's life hell, took advantage of her innocence, manipulated and tried to create love relation with Mukku knowing about her trauma, when Dholakia misbehaved with Kinju he was strongly opposed but V also did same thing with Kavya had physical relation for 9 years with no intention to marry her. Just bcz V was Shah he was forgiven, why Shah family didn't support Kavya, all the blame was on kavya.

Makers are white washing V and Baa as if it was there nature they did nothing wrong trauma which trauma makers don't even remember that a woman who was demeaned and insulted all the time for 27 years can go through severe trauma, they have normalized everything and shown V as accha pita and beta, then all criminals should set free from jail bcz they may also have family to whom they would have loved

Originally posted by: ...Tiana...

Truth to be said it still happens where abuse is portrayed as love even in big and small screens too apart from reality. Anu was always told throughout that V and Baa loved her. Though she might have felt it's not true she accepted it... maybe as a coping mechanism to stay in that place. Now she finds it difficult to cone out of the cage she put herself in. Before it was to cope up and live in a prison... Now it's a bad habit... I know people often get irritated with her ... but somehow I pity her as I know what she might feel... right now she needs love, assurance and therapy to get over the habit... and getting out is absolutely necessary for her to move on

Makers knew that this show this extremely popular, instead of cashing this popularity only they should also think about the social responsibility they have, forgiving 27 years of abuse just like that treating Baa as mother when still V and Baa never leave chance to humiliate Anu, what you want people to learn that you should forget mental abuse for your mental peace, then every criminal should be forgiven courts should be closed, is it that easy to forget and justify abuser as a good father and son, a man who always humiliated his kids mother in front of them can never be a good father. Why double standards for Shah's. Mental abuse, domestic violence, adoption, these sensitive issues are treated so badly, why cannot makers do proper research, they know many women religiously follow there shows don't make mockery of their emotions