Usual trope !!! - Page 8

Originally posted by: Nja91

Short term mein it's fine but if they had pursued a realistic story of her life walking away, she'd had to work n study, make ends meet. The pension/scholarship will exhaust and then what.... And ultimately she needs emotional security as well. And she's craving for the family so she will take what she gets. Shes also a forgiving person in general. She chooses to see the good in everyone. She is picking her batyles now because she is accepting that people are not going to behave ideally.

That's what I'm saying. You're indirectly accepting Sai's accepting cus she has no other option. Makers turned her into a typical Hindi TV FL & moulded her as someone who'd continue doing things for those who are shitty to her going beyond lengths. That's not sign of a strong character at all, for me atleast. She can be a great human being but not a strong person.

Anyway I want to see Virat crying buckets infront of Sai for treating her so bad after or before confession whenever the time is only then I'll continue watching this show & my viewing experience will be satisfactory otherwise I'm in for bidding adieu to the serial. There has to be some closure & limit of brushing down Sai's sufferings. It gets difficult to watch!!!

Audience rejected their crap and they'll continue doing so if Sai isn't treated well even after all these so-called reunion love confession reconciliation yada yada. More than romance i want to see this!

Yes and my point is that she is tolerating because she is emotionally attached to many in that family. But she is not tolerating by staying quiet and changing her own opinions. She still gives it back but she also doesn't walk away for good and keeps coming back for many other reasons that I have aluded to before. She has not given up on her opinions just to be a docile bahu. But shes a lot more forgiving than she would have been if she had the backup to just get up and disappear for good. Unfortunately circumstances haven't allowed that.

Originally posted by: Nja91

Yes and my point is that she is tolerating because she is emotionally attached to many in that family. But she is not tolerating by staying quiet and changing her own opinions. She still gives it back but she also doesn't walk away for good and keeps coming back for many other reasons that I have aluded to before. She has not given up on her opinions just to be a docile bahu. But shes a lot more forgiving than she would have been if she had the backup to just get up and disappear for good. Unfortunately circumstances haven't allowed that.

That's what I am saying that her character had been made weak due to circumstances.

I think she does it in part to gain acceptance from them maybe and because her aabaa taught her to do the right thing always. He's shown as the guy that will do the due diligence irrespective of consequences. So her need to speak up stems from that. She can't watch silenntly letting things slide. For Sai, its like galat hai toh hai. Plus i feel like she knows that these people are important to V and therefore by default have become important to her too. She does not try to mollycoddle anyone or sacrifice her happiness for them. And when they say something to her she's not cool with, she speaks up. She has only been coaxed into doing something against her will when they attack her self respect or her aabaa. Like mirchi grinding. She hates being seen as a selfish or opportunistic person who is eating muft ki roti. So she used to do the chores etc. And now over time she has built a bond with some of them that she cant let go off too easily so she lets go of some things just like we do with our own family. I think shes not the type to go around counting favors or complaining about how people treat her badly so that's why she comes across as being too good sometimes. But she has not shied away from telling them off in the past. When she disagrees with their thoughts, views she tells them! Her issue is that she is meddlesome and curious by nature. She cant ignore and let things be status quo without interference if she feels bothered by it.

I think she is not like other ITV bahus that just cry and sacrifice their happiness for others by harming themselves. Here she has a person she loves, who has done a lot for her - V and its his family. She is therefore adjusting with his family. She speaks her mind and does what she wants rather than give in to theirvarchaix demands. If she didn't have an emotional attachment to people in that house, she'd have left a long time ago but she found a confidant in her husband and a mother and a brother/sister until Shruti kaand. So yes, shes making adjustments because she loves them. That doesn't make her weak .and unlike mindless yes people in the house who just let BK dictate she has a mind and voice of her own. A lot of her current actions are dictated by her own guilt and self blame. But she has admitted to her aabaa that she feels sad that no one understands her pain and how shes wearing a mask of cheerfulness. I definitely hope that her pain is addressed.

But i do not think Sai is weak. Making adjustments is not a sign of weakness. Thats a harsh word for someone as courageous, opinionated and clear as Sai. She has always made clear decisions and stuck by then unless she has been given objective evidence to change her opinion.

She is an optimistic person who does not allow herself to wallow in self pity. It'd be easy for her to just cry about her fate but she chooses to do the best she can in the circumstances she is in. She is in a marriage, she is surrounded by people she probably does not love but are important to her husband so shes adjusting and thats a pretty relatable thing. We are all surrounded in work/family by people we dont like and sometimes we are not in a position to just get up and leave so we find ways to adjust. Adjusting is not weakness. To me Sai still retains her ability to speak her mind and get her way!

Yes the problem is the Chavans are too nasty .. so whatever Sai is doing makes her un relatable wheras chatterjees were very warm .. they were a family with good interpersonal bonds .. even Rk started caring for Emon at this point on and off. ..

Originally posted by: Nja91

I think she is not like other ITV bahus that just cry and sacrifice their happiness for others by harming themselves. Here she has a person she loves, who has done a lot for her - V and its his family. She is therefore adjusting with his family. She speaks her mind and does what she wants rather than give in to theirvarchaix demands. If she didn't have an emotional attachment to people in that house, she'd have left a long time ago but she found a confidant in her husband and a mother and a brother/sister until Shruti kaand. So yes, shes making adjustments because she loves them. That doesn't make her weak .and unlike mindless yes people in the house who just let BK dictate she has a mind and voice of her own. A lot of her current actions are dictated by her own guilt and self blame. But she has admitted to her aabaa that she feels sad that no one understands her pain and how shes wearing a mask of cheerfulness. I definitely hope that her pain is addressed.

But i do not think Sai is weak. Making adjustments is not a sign of weakness. Thats a harsh word for someone as courageous, opinionated and clear as Sai. She has always made clear decisions and stuck by then unless she has been given objective evidence to change her opinion.

She is an optimistic person who does not allow herself to wallow in self pity. It'd be easy for her to just cry about her fate but she chooses to do the best she can in the circumstances she is in. She is in a marriage, she is surrounded by people she probably does not love but are important to her husband so shes adjusting and thats a pretty relatable thing. We are all surrounded in work/family by people we dont like and sometimes we are not in a position to just get up and leave so we find ways to adjust. Adjusting is not weakness. To me Sai still retains her ability to speak her mind and get her way!

All the adjustment are only done by her, not her husband. This relationship isn't of equals.

Also, no self-respecting woman would be happily taking money & husband paying her for taking care of him, treat her like a nurse. By that Virat validated Pakhi's calling her nurse. Also shows why he didn't stand up for her then or had any reaction or got offended. It was too low. Seeing a woman pin for a disgusting man like him without any remorse makes me feel disgusted. And that makes her a doormat. Everyone calls her as one on twitter too even most of hardcore solo Ayesha fans on twitter too call her doormat, weak. Her continuously stressing on Sai Virat Chavan is so annoying, also joking about her career for him is offputting. Looks like her husband has taken precedence over her dad in her life rn. If she called herself Sai Joshi Chavan that'd still have been acceptable. She's lost herself & immersed her identity completely into a worthless selfish guy like Virat!

Originally posted by: Nja91

I think she is not like other ITV bahus that just cry and sacrifice their happiness for others by harming themselves. Here she has a person she loves, who has done a lot for her - V and its his family. She is therefore adjusting with his family. She speaks her mind and does what she wants rather than give in to theirvarchaix demands. If she didn't have an emotional attachment to people in that house, she'd have left a long time ago but she found a confidant in her husband and a mother and a brother/sister until Shruti kaand. So yes, shes making adjustments because she loves them. That doesn't make her weak .and unlike mindless yes people in the house who just let BK dictate she has a mind and voice of her own. A lot of her current actions are dictated by her own guilt and self blame. But she has admitted to her aabaa that she feels sad that no one understands her pain and how shes wearing a mask of cheerfulness. I definitely hope that her pain is addressed.

But i do not think Sai is weak. Making adjustments is not a sign of weakness. Thats a harsh word for someone as courageous, opinionated and clear as Sai. She has always made clear decisions and stuck by then unless she has been given objective evidence to change her opinion.

She is an optimistic person who does not allow herself to wallow in self pity. It'd be easy for her to just cry about her fate but she chooses to do the best she can in the circumstances she is in. She is in a marriage, she is surrounded by people she probably does not love but are important to her husband so shes adjusting and thats a pretty relatable thing. We are all surrounded in work/family by people we dont like and sometimes we are not in a position to just get up and leave so we find ways to adjust. Adjusting is not weakness. To me Sai still retains her ability to speak her mind and get her way!

Weak and loosing self-respect have bigger meaning..

She is unrealistic currently but certainly not some one who is loosing herself..

She literally controls any situation even if it is out of her hands..

I would call her weak if she had victimised herself which she never does..

At the same time she is an achiever and thought provoking young lady..

She is forgiving but she doesn't forget.. She neither sees any goodness in bk and gang..

Her priorities are different now.. Because that's just life...She will tolerate till she can and then she will make her own ways with different sets of priorities..

Originally posted by: msin

Yes the problem is the Chavans are too nasty .. so whatever Sai is doing makes her un relatable wheras chatterjees were very warm .. they were a family with good interpersonal bonds .. even Rk started caring for Emon at this point on and off. ..

RK genuinely cared for Imon at many points. This episode brings tears in my eyes whenever I see the way these 3 made sure Imon survives. This episode is the main reason why Ronno deserved lifetime loneliness. Imon should've dumped his ugly ass forever. Can't believe they were the endgame even after this. Got Imon back so easily.

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