wow..👏👏👏....so beautifully analyzed. Have no words to describe the brilliance of this analysis. All I can say is LOVED IT !!LOVED IT!! LOVED IT!!
Yes, at that moment, she wanted a warm comfort. She needed to contemplate her thoughts with equanimity. If she had embraced him at that moment, Ram would interpret it as her next step toward marriage. It’s not that she didn’t want to, but she wants to be entirely sure of her want. She wanted a friendly hug at that moment, not the one which could have transpired.
I will add some more of my thoughts to your thoughts.
She knew she had found love but her bruises from the past and the day's events needed a friend and not a husband. I know Ram would have been the friend she wished that moment, but after what he told her about their relationship, it would mean she accepted his resolution.
Whether Ram had understood her at that moment or not, we will find out on Monday. Sometimes we need a friend and not our lover to console us. With whom we share no emotional bonding. [I know this is where the new entry can help.]
When he fell sick during Diwali, she was scared of losing him. With Neeraj or MS, she was strong, and they didn’t affect her natural traits of strength. But Ram was turning to be her weakness, and she promised herself that she would not let that happen. But now Ram has made her weak so that she is losing the capability to pick up the broken shards from the ground. She is wholly scared of losing him now.
In the car on Friday she told to herself – “you are spoiling me by not letting me fall.” All her life, she learned how to rise from fall. In the early days, even before their marriage, every time she was thrown in the woods, she rose up with her head held up high. Then in some months of their marriage, every time even before she would be wobbly, there is this man who is supporting her all the time. What can she do now? No one has ever done that to her; she needs to compose herself and put the puzzle pieces to solve the puzzling thoughts of her heart and mind.
In the same way, she is spoiling Ram; no one has ever cared for him all these years, and here is this girl who, even in her distress, was caring for him in the bakery. What can he do now? No one has ever done that to him. He would not even think of letting her go.
Ram told her on Friday what he thinks her views on love are. But that is not completely correct. When they were going to Babbar’s for dinner that night, Pri helped resolve the doubts about Shivi and Sid’s meeting. Then Ram was stunned, knowing a girl who doesn’t believe in love is supporting a girl in love. Pri explained to him that she believes in love, just that she doesn’t believe in the love shown in movies. There is a difference between fairy tales and reality. Her abusive father and misogynist ex forced her to look at life pragmatically. She feels to gain something in life, one needs to lose something else.
These two dialogues of MS and Pri are appropriate here to understand why she stopped midway:
MS: You are an obligation to Ram [tu Ram ke gale ka kaanta hai]
Pri: Love and I are at loggerheads. We don’t see eye to eye.
We know what MS meant is not true. But tell that to a girl who is devoid of a loving father? She knows that she is everything to Ram. But still, it’s not easy for Pri to maintain her composure. We saw her breaking down in the middle of the road some hours earlier. A private person like her broke down in public. How ironic!
Pri, before going to the dinner, told Ram that ‘pyaar and she have a chattish ka ankhra. She has no relation with love and will never have one. But that doesn’t mean she doesn’t understand someone else’s love and if she can be the reason to unite the lovers, she will happily do so.’ We saw her even in her intoxicated state; she wanted Ram and V to unite in the bakery.
So, yeah, Ram thinks for Pri, love is fake, or she is afraid even to taste it. He gave her time and even offered coupons so she could relax her opinion about love.
Remember when @Ritika told about stonewalling and how Pri would shut Ram off after she saw the embrace? [go and read her post on the last EDT page 1 if you haven’t yet.]
Ram, in his monologue on Friday, said in the car – “Don’t shut me off, Priya.” The majority of the audience didn’t understand why Pri and Ram were behaving the way they did on that confrontation day. This is why Ritika and I were talking about stonewalling and shell. She behaved the same way on Diwali after the date in the hotel and went to the bakery, and Ram understood then and rushed to the bakery. He was not in love then, so how can he let her shut off now.
Priya is straightforward to write but very tough to explain. She is a very layered character. So, in my piece, I used the rain to unfold the petals of the rose to reach the heart. In the same way, Ram will have to fold the layers of Pri one by one to reach the inner core of the heart. She will not retaliate if hurt but close her inner core like a Venus flytrap. [I hope you know how a Venus flytrap acts.]
Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? Yes, there is. Every time she is intoxicated, she bares her heart in front of him. The recent ones on his birthday and Holi, he might remember, but I don’t want him to forget the first time she was drunk at Babbar’s. I saw a glimpse that Ram remembers. That night after dinner, in her intoxicated state, she told him that everyone thinks they are a mismatch (bemil). We saw Ram on Friday and told her that they are unbreakable (bejod). They have withered all storms.
What did she say that night after dinner to Ram about how she felt after marriage?
“Mujhe lagta hai main ek rajkumari hoon. Do you know the princess in the fairy tales? I never believed them when maa used to tell them, but Sara di and Maitri would; but then I met you, and I realized that my prince is here only.”
But then she jokingly dismissed it, saying she was drunk; otherwise, why would I talk nonsense about princesses? This is the dream in her heart. I hope and pray Ram gets it sooner.
Margaret Hale rejected John Thornton once, but at the end of the book North and South, when he was bankrupt, she gave her fortune to rebuild his empire. Even at that moment, she was resisting confessing her love. Then John Thornton called her name and pulled her and said this -
'Take care.--If you do not speak --I shall claim you as my own in some strange presumptuous way.--Send me away at once, if I must go;--Margaret!--'
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