My Imlie - An Oasis of Happiness in the desert of blame game

*little rant from a die hard Fan of Imlie - the character*

I hardly get time to go to other side of social media to get hint of whats going on in fandom world but somehow i got to know that how "imlie's black dress dance on Bawri is being termed as Cheap bar dancer dance" and soo much more..

so i just could not resist but want to share and ask people why so much hate for Imlie.

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Adi and Aru both sides of fandom can support their beloved character as much as they want and can thrash, bash, detest, hate, dislike the other one to all their heart's satisfaction...i wont even bat an eye there.

but why maligning Imlie in this whole process ..?????

just as Malini and Adi are questioning Imlie all this while and blaming her for the mess they have created themselves...

"how can you be so indifferent?"

"how can you be so happy?"

"Why nothing makes her break her spirit?"

"i want to see her miserable?"

like really ???????????????????

Adi - Malini are so hell bent on making Imlie miserable which she already is (even more than they actually can imagine).. just that she knows how to keep her emotions well under her control and not like mr. ex who gets all raging and baffled on things not going his way.

have you see a duck swimming across.. it looks so calm and peaceful outside but look under water and you see the cost of that calm look.. it feet work so hard to keep it afloat.. same is for Imlie.. she is working so hard to forget all that happened with her... people feel she doesn't hv right to do so.. woww

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And if only she would be sitting outside T house yelling, screaming, crying...

"someone please make my babu saheb understand my worth.. someone please make him learn to trust me... please someone please save me from being thrown out of my Pati ka ghar"

she would have been termed as the most nicest , pativrata female lead..

but here she understands her worth, value of her self respect and took that big giant step ahead to get a better life without that mistrust ka putla pati.. things are rubbing people on the wrong side.. again WHY?

Why a girl cant choose who is wrong for her (ex pati dev) and what's right for her (job and self dependence) ?

Why cant she leave a toxic place for creating a better life ahead of her own for herself ?

Why she has to be under the burden of the so called love (which was misjudged as love as she was just giver in that relationship without getting any decent respect) ?

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And now when people should be happy that such girl can lead a happy life she being termed so bad .. wooo sooo ironic.

and i just recall the line by imlie on mehndi when she responds Malini saying "It means it effects you badly that how come this girl from a village can now understand people from city and their relationships too"

Adi- Malini questioning Imlie and her happiness.. must be feeling bad that she can move away from a toxic family and can actually learn to lead a happy life of her own.

And yes i want to add.. this is for Malini to specific...

she wants to see Imlie Miserable and sad.. believe me .. even if you leave her alone on a desert Imlie can create an Oasis of her own with her Spirit, Grit, Determination, Perseverance and that Contagious Smile of hers.

while you can live in your grand palace but being all sulky and miserable cause you know nothing about happiness but just acquiring things..

*rant over*

I see it as logon ko khud peechhe reh Jane se zyada dusron ke aagey badhne ka frustration hai...

Malini toh if you remember she "tried to" move on as well, and same as imlie she had a support system too (in KC, the guy liked her and understood her)

But she was so spoilt and entitled that she couldn't see beyond what "she" wants...

So naturally now she wants to see imlie miserable to proved that imlie is also as week as her (or she's stronger - idk uske brain ka problem pakadna kisi psychiatric ke bas ka bhi nahi hai)

The main problem is imlie does not need them now. Period.

They are baffled that (as you said) kal ki ayi ek gao ki ladki, who's also an illegitimate child can live independently and happily even after they snatched everything she held dear AND they are still miserable!

Originally posted by: SundariP

I see it as logon ko khud peechhe reh Jane se zyada dusron ke aagey badhne ka frustration hai...

Malini toh if you remember she "tried to" move on as well, and same as imlie she had a support system too (in KC, the guy liked her and understood her)

But she was so spoilt and entitled that she couldn't see beyond what "she" wants...

So naturally now she wants to see imlie miserable to proved that imlie is also as week as her (or she's stronger - idk uske brain ka problem pakadna kisi psychiatric ke bas ka bhi nahi hai)

The main problem is imlie does not need them now. Period.

They are baffled that (as you said) kal ki ayi ek gao ki ladki, who's also an illegitimate child can live independently and happily even after they snatched everything she held dear AND they are still miserable!

exactly.. they are miserable not cause they have the things they want but they cant see Imlie happy even after snatching things from her.

its toxic beyond my handling capacity...

Malini to i can understand theek hai she is ur half sister and u hate her.. but babu shaeb. you claim you loved her once and you love her even now.. then where is the trust that has to be very first step of ur love.. you always end up questioning, blaming imlie... as if blaming her is the easiest thing that you can do reduce that guilt of urs that you never treated her better.

its like when you point a finger to someone else ur own 3 fingers are pointing towards you.. Adi is in same situation

Indian society has normalised toxic marriages for long that it doesn't even seem something fictional... It's like we see it around us all the time and think aisa hi toh hota hai... we've all gone through the same sacrifice to keep our family together

Ye konsi anokhi hai? Did anyone hit her ever in this house? And the list is endless...

Rant time😆

When Imlie was staying on at T house, people were asking why is she such a doormat? why isn't she leaving? why isn't she concentrating on her career? and when she left, they cheered her on. When Adi went to call her, and she refused to go back and had decided to stay in Rathore house, these same people started questioning her character, her decision to concentrate on her career and not be a doormat, and some find her doormat now.

The moment Aryan entered, they wanted her to go back to Adi. More than Adi, these people were threatened by Aryan's presence. If Aryan was not in the picture, if it was just Arpita and Narmada, or Aryan was an elderly man with no romantic angle hinting and if Imlie had stayed on at R house even when Adi went to call her back, they would have cheered her on. Her argument of sending Malini back home would have made sense to them then, with Aryan in the same house, just like Adi all they can see is that, Imlie is choosing to stay at a stranger's house than Adi's house.

People have issues with Imlie talking to Adi after she left home, Imlie burned her MS and removed Sindoor, in her anger, but it had been clear even then that she wants to go back to Adi, even when Adi started taunting her with Aryan, that time also, if Adi had said he will send Malini back home she would have happily gone back. She was ready to go back, even when she didn't know Adi had asked Malini to go back home. People are asking why she is not staying at T house and fighting for her relation, she did that and when she was doing that she was called doormat.

People have issues when Imlie calls T family her family after she left home and why she didn't take help from T family. First of all, her issues were not with T family, all she wanted was Adi to ask Malini to go back to C house. T family had no role to play in that. And T family were all ready to send Malini to C house for Imlie to return otherwise they wouldn't have started planning a party when Adi finally asked Malini to go back home. I feel they never directly asked Malini was because, she is carrying Adi's baby and it should be a decision Adi makes, maybe (just guessing).

And she left home, so she doesn't want to be depended on anyone from that home. And in Imlie's eyes, she is not depended on Aryan also. She is paying rent and staying at his house. She is working in his office and just because he seemed to recognize and reward her for her hard work, she should not trust him?

We all know Malini is plotting and planning but still Adi is trusting her blinding and Adi gets the excused for the faith of 7 years relation. We all know Aryan is here for revenge and people expect Imlie to be suspicious of Aryan from the get go, but what has Aryan done that Imlie should be suspicious of? That Adi got demoted? Adi didn't do his freaking job and was demoted. that Imlie got promoted, and Aryan gave his explanation to Imlie for that. Aryan standing up and protecting Imlie from Adi, AC and MC taunts? And she should be suspicious of him for that?

When Aryan does something concrete and if Imlie doesn't suspect him then, then I will call her blind, but for now, I am not seeing her at fault with regards to Aryan.

People are asking, why Imlie still considers T family after leaving home. My answer to that is this ad

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xlb4SfKhsdM

If Adilie get married then Imlie will be bashed for being a doormat.

If Arylie get married, Imlie will be bashed for being a loose woman and what about her vow that only Adi will be in her life. Why is it so difficult for people to see that people change, and something you believe so strongly at one point in life, can change? Even Adi said that if someone comes and says Imlie loves someone else should he believe that? And nobody explicitly said that, but he still believed it. And there also Imlie is being questioned for not clarifying. Why should she? Did he ask her whether she loves Aryan? He believed it and right now, he doesn't deserve any clarification from Imlie even though she did give him that and she kept telling him that he doubted her character.

If Adini get married, Imlie will be bashed for not stopping Adi from marrying his rapist. In my eyes, Imlie has done everything humanly possible. Other than lying at his feet and begging him, she did everything a self respecting person could. And Adi knows everything that Imlie knows, but he chose to believe Malini over Imlie. and I have said this before, when time comes and when Adi finally accepts that he was raped by Malini, he can never ever say that he didn't know Malini raped him, all he can say is that he chose to believe Malini over Imlie. So, if Adi decides to marry his rapist then it is on him and him alone, not on Imlie.

One major issue with Imlie fandom is that, there is a prejudiced thinking that if you are criticizing either Adi or Aryan then they are accused of belonging to the Arylie fandom or Adilie fandom. Maybe some people can't watch a show without rooting for a couple and it might be difficult for them to believe that for some people it is just drama that is entertaining and not the ships.

I used to be an Adilie shipper, but with the way Adi is butchered, I am no longer rooting for Adilie. I am not rooting for Arylie yet. If Adi is redeemed properly or Arylie have a beautiful love story, I would root for that ship. For now, I am enjoying the drama because I really don't know whether Adini marriage will happen, or Arylie marriage will happen or Adilie will get back together or Arylie love story will start. These things are keeping me interested in the drama, and not any ship.

End of Rant😆

Originally posted by: book.worm

The moment Aryan entered, they wanted her to go back to Adi. More than Adi, these people were threatened by Aryan's presence. If Aryan was not in the picture, if it was just Arpita and Narmada, or Aryan was an elderly man with no romantic angle hinting and if Imlie had stayed on at R house even when Adi went to call her back, they would have cheered her on. Her argument of sending Malini back home would have made sense to them then, with Aryan in the same house, just like Adi all they can see is that, Imlie is choosing to stay at a stranger's house than Adi's house.

We all know Aryan is here for revenge and people expect Imlie to be suspicious of Aryan from the get go, but what has Aryan done that Imlie should be suspicious of? That Adi got demoted? Adi didn't do his freaking job and was demoted. that Imlie got promoted, and Aryan gave his explanation to Imlie for that. Aryan standing up and protecting Imlie from Adi, AC and MC taunts? And she should be suspicious of him for that?

When Aryan does something concrete and if Imlie doesn't suspect him then, then I will call her blind, but for now, I am not seeing her at fault with regards to Aryan.

One major issue with Imlie fandom is that, there is a prejudiced thinking that if you are criticizing either Adi or Aryan then they are accused of belonging to the Arylie fandom or Adilie fandom. Maybe some people can't watch a show without rooting for a couple and it might be difficult for them to believe that for some people it is just drama that is entertaining and not the ships.

End of Rant😆

@green.. thats valid point you have raised. it feels as if you are watching this show you have to be on the ships of AdiLie or AryLie as in you cant be on the Imlie enjoying the ride alongwith her. As in its mandatory for the female lead to end up with the male lead.. i am a broken record and had mentioned this in so many other forums... female lead character (if written and executed well can lead a life of her own...she doesn't need a man to her side just so she can termed as complete)

Back to topic..

thank you sooo very much for raising so many important points about the show and how Imlie will be blamed no matter what she does and even if doesnt do anything she will still be blamed...reason..

i posted a long reply on another copying n pasting part of it here..

In india Females never allowed to exercise their "right to Choose"... like from the childhood they are treated same

"ye mat karo,

aise mat baihto,

raat se pahle ghar aao,

us se dosti mat karo,

kam khao moti ho jaogi,

cream lagao gori lagogi,

tej mat bolo.. cause ladkiyo ko dheere seere rahna chahiye,

ghar ke kaam seekho.. shaadi ke baad wahi kaam ata hai,

bado se jaban mata ladao..pati shar se nikal dega,

ladkiyo ko dusro ke liye jeena sekhna chahiye,

...etc etc etc this list is not limited to these...

so majority of those submissive female grown up as adults who dont even know if they have right to live this life as their own. And this society expects them to be THAT way only... a lady living this life for her husband, her kids, her in laws, her kid's kids"

so when someone like Anupama's character breaks that societal pressure/expectation people just cant digest... as in we tried so hard to keep such females under control and she had audacity to think about her happiness, live for herself... and thats the whole chaos.

and it will remain until more and more girls come out and can fight for their happiness, their life, mostly Their Right to Choose themselves over the world they have around them.

same here no one is appreciating her that she could show the courage to choose something over her ex pati rather being blamed ke how come she had the audacity do so ? so lame.

And its like this show is all about who will marry Imlie and who loves imlie more.. like Imlie's own wishes has no say in it. as in she is there just as a trophy to be owned/won by the male counterpart.

@blue...well raised point too.

Aryan so far hadnt done anything TO HER TO HURT HER... rather he himself said "Aditya kumar tripathi tumhe mere pariwar and imlie ke aansuo ka badla chukana padega wo bhi duguna (AKT you have to pay double the price of My family and Imlie's tears)

all he has done is to help her (making sure to not to hurt her self respect),

car cleaned by her cause she ruined it n she deserved it,

job cause his sis told him she needed help,

accommodation only after having rent agreement,

safety app on phone.. and just so much more.. not even once that person showed anything wrong to her.. how can she doubt him and intention. let him show what should be doubted and if doesnt then i am with you in asking her why...

regarding Aryan being a threat.. i agree completely. yes people cant accept that Adi can be left alone by the girl who was once just a gawar... just like Adi's male ego cant accept that this girl whom he brought home cause of pity is now a free bird and can move on from him.. and same is majority of people who cant accept that Love doesn't need something drastically dramatic to end (though here it happened) but in reality one can be out of love and its again with them whether they still want to pursue that love or want to move on...

why it cant be understood and accepted.. and blame to be on the girl... cause ladka kabhi kuch galat kar hi nahi sakta.... aur karta hai to are ladki ko samajhna chahiye yaar... ladke to aisa karte hi hai.

loved ur well detailed insights and explanation... do post often.. its so nice to have someone who can support and talk all about imlie without worrying abt the ships she eventually joins...

thank you so much.

book your points regarding imlie not suspecting Aryan or zone out him is applicable to Adhithya & Malini also .

Malini also have not done anything suspicious in front of Adhithya. If wrong pls correct me

In between have you watched “Seetha” from flowers channel.

Originally posted by: Midnight_moon

book your points regarding imlie not suspecting Aryan or zone out him is applicable to Adhithya & Malini also .

Malini also have not done anything suspicious in front of Adhithya. If wrong pls correct me

In between have you watched “Seetha” from flowers channel.

Malini and Aryan’s actions cannot be held in comparison at all. Aryan helped imlie when she is pushed down and currently has no one by her side. Malini kept feeding aditya’s ego and that pleased him even when he had imlie’s support.

As for your question, feeding dogs the moti roti imlie made? A literal video evidence he himself deleted immediately believing her words? There’s many other instances too. All you need is a rewatch.

Also aditya has shown what he would do to perpetrators who drug people even if he does know their deeds. Marry her daughter 😐

Letting Anu roam around free is actually a major reason his character fell in my eyes. He knows she is a physical abuser, drugs people etc but his principles and truth does not apply here? Why? . because it happened to imlie? Principles and truth only matter when it happens to him? And nobody can be that majboor. that is just a weak character.

Originally posted by: SundariP

Indian society has normalised toxic marriages for long that it doesn't even seem something fictional... It's like we see it around us all the time and think aisa hi toh hota hai... we've all gone through the same sacrifice to keep our family together

Ye konsi anokhi hai? Did anyone hit her ever in this house? And the list is endless...

exactly.. and these tv shows just reiterates that very same time and again to force it even more.. i dont see any show go as progressive as Anupama to let female lead take that step out of toxicity and now its Imlie here..

But its better to have these few shows than nothing at all.. hope more shows will follow such ways to break that typical indian household mentality. .

Originally posted by: -tellyaddict-

exactly.. and these tv shows just reiterates that very same time and again to force it even more.. i dont see any show go as progressive as Anupama to let female lead take that step out of toxicity and now its Imlie here..

But its better to have these few shows than nothing at all.. hope more shows will follow such ways to break that typical indian household mentality. .

Yes I'm hoping these shows serve the purpose of breaking the toxic mentality and stereotypes rather than re-inforcing them.