My Imlie - An Oasis of Happiness in the desert of blame game - Page 2

Originally posted by: -tellyaddict-

@green.. thats valid point you have raised. it feels as if you are watching this show you have to be on the ships of AdiLie or AryLie as in you cant be on the Imlie enjoying the ride alongwith her. As in its mandatory for the female lead to end up with the male lead.. i am a broken record and had mentioned this in so many other forums... female lead character (if written and executed well can lead a life of her own...she doesn't need a man to her side just so she can termed as complete)

Back to topic..

thank you sooo very much for raising so many important points about the show and how Imlie will be blamed no matter what she does and even if doesnt do anything she will still be blamed...reason..

i posted a long reply on another copying n pasting part of it here..

In india Females never allowed to exercise their "right to Choose"... like from the childhood they are treated same

"ye mat karo,

aise mat baihto,

raat se pahle ghar aao,

us se dosti mat karo,

kam khao moti ho jaogi,

cream lagao gori lagogi,

tej mat bolo.. cause ladkiyo ko dheere seere rahna chahiye,

ghar ke kaam seekho.. shaadi ke baad wahi kaam ata hai,

bado se jaban mata ladao..pati shar se nikal dega,

ladkiyo ko dusro ke liye jeena sekhna chahiye,

...etc etc etc this list is not limited to these...

so majority of those submissive female grown up as adults who dont even know if they have right to live this life as their own. And this society expects them to be THAT way only... a lady living this life for her husband, her kids, her in laws, her kid's kids"

so when someone like Anupama's character breaks that societal pressure/expectation people just cant digest... as in we tried so hard to keep such females under control and she had audacity to think about her happiness, live for herself... and thats the whole chaos.

and it will remain until more and more girls come out and can fight for their happiness, their life, mostly Their Right to Choose themselves over the world they have around them.

same here no one is appreciating her that she could show the courage to choose something over her ex pati rather being blamed ke how come she had the audacity do so ? so lame.

And its like this show is all about who will marry Imlie and who loves imlie more.. like Imlie's own wishes has no say in it. as in she is there just as a trophy to be owned/won by the male counterpart.

@blue...well raised point too.

Aryan so far hadnt done anything TO HER TO HURT HER... rather he himself said "Aditya kumar tripathi tumhe mere pariwar and imlie ke aansuo ka badla chukana padega wo bhi duguna (AKT you have to pay double the price of My family and Imlie's tears)

all he has done is to help her (making sure to not to hurt her self respect),

car cleaned by her cause she ruined it n she deserved it,

job cause his sis told him she needed help,

accommodation only after having rent agreement,

safety app on phone.. and just so much more.. not even once that person showed anything wrong to her.. how can she doubt him and intention. let him show what should be doubted and if doesnt then i am with you in asking her why...

regarding Aryan being a threat.. i agree completely. yes people cant accept that Adi can be left alone by the girl who was once just a gawar... just like Adi's male ego cant accept that this girl whom he brought home cause of pity is now a free bird and can move on from him.. and same is majority of people who cant accept that Love doesn't need something drastically dramatic to end (though here it happened) but in reality one can be out of love and its again with them whether they still want to pursue that love or want to move on...

why it cant be understood and accepted.. and blame to be on the girl... cause ladka kabhi kuch galat kar hi nahi sakta.... aur karta hai to are ladki ko samajhna chahiye yaar... ladke to aisa karte hi hai.

loved ur well detailed insights and explanation... do post often.. its so nice to have someone who can support and talk all about imlie without worrying abt the ships she eventually joins...

thank you so much.

I agree with you regarding the treatment of boys and girls in the same family, and I loved the campaign of “ladke rulathe nahi hai.” So much…

I have the same views like you regarding everything except the bit on Adi’s ego…. I don’t think Adi sees Imlie as a gawaar ladki who has moved on from him, Adi is very proud of Imlie’s intelligence and he is in awe of it… I do believe that Adi is egoistic and I feel his main ego is that he believes himself to be a truthful man who fights for the truth and downtrodden, and his ego of he never being wrong is his issue. His question also was “hum kab galat the.” He believes whatever he does is right, and Imlie is wrong because she is insecure and creating unnecessary issues, and that he can never be so wrong about Malini. After Aryan’s entry, he has become jealous, possessive and insecure, and it is bringing out even worse from him.

Adi’s main problem is that he sees himself as a man who got into a mess and he being the responsible and truthful and rightful human, he is taking all the hard but right decisions. And add to it, his blind trust in Malini. He never thought he was being unfair to Imlie, and when Imlie sends him divorce, his immediate thought is Imlie has moved on to Aryan, he is having a baby with another woman who is staying on in his house while his wife is staying at a stranger’s place and he is not even considering that Imlie might ask for divorce because he hasn’t been a good husband to her who never fulfilled any of his promise to her.

Originally posted by: Midnight_moon

book your points regarding imlie not suspecting Aryan or zone out him is applicable to Adhithya & Malini also .

Malini also have not done anything suspicious in front of Adhithya. If wrong pls correct me

In between have you watched “Seetha” from flowers channel.

if you are comparing then to a certain extend, you can compare it to before JM night, after that night, the two situations cannot be compared.

Malini has done suspicious things in front of Adi. I don’t remember the correct order…

1. Malini gives Imlie the wrong prescription and asks her to get her medicine, and then she falls sick and accuses Imlie of giving her wrong medicine, while Imlie argues that she got the medicine from the prescription Malini gave her. Adi goes off to the medical store and checks the CCTV and sees Imlie happy and chill at the shop and concludes, Imlie didn’t purposefully change the chit, if she did then she wouldn’t be this happy. He followed up on Malini’s accusation, but doesn’t bother following up on Imlie’s statement that she got the medicine from the same prescription Malini gave, he drops the whole issue there, not even bothering to find out how the prescriptions got changed.

2. Adi is looking for Moti Roti in the kitchen, he asks Malini whether she saw them, she says no. Next day, Imlie informs him that Malini fed it to the dogs. Adi’s reply, she might have gave it so it doesn’t goes to waste. He is not suspicious of what happened the previous night. And Imlie tells him Malini is not over him, and he doesn’t bother.

3. At the party, Malini wears the saree that he chose for Imlie and she messes up Imlie’s dress, when Adi questions, Malini pounces on Imlie saying you should have told me if you were uncomfortable and I am not an expert in putting makeup. But she is not blind to see what a mess she had made, and Adi let’s it pass.
4. At the party, when Adi and Imlie are dancing, Malini butts in and dances with him. When editor gifts him a tie, Malini jumps in and ties the tie before Imlie can.

5. Before all these happened, Adi wakes up to find Malini in his bed and her excuse she was medicated and didn’t know how she got there. After all these, he should be connecting the dots faster than Imlie!

6. Adi goes to college to pick Malini, he asks about Imlie, and she says Imlie left, Adi comes home and finds that Imlie hadn’t reached home.

7. Adi and Imlie are practicing for JM dance, and Malini butts in and talks about a wife and how she is!

8. After Adi and Imlie’s ring exchange, Adi sees Malini asking Imlie for the ring because the ring doesn’t fit her

9. Adi brought Malini home because she was having issues with her mother, and her mother is forever visiting his house to meet Malini and it is clear that there is no issues between them.

10. Meethi also tells him that Malini told her that she wants Adi, and Adi declares Meethi is misunderstanding because Malini had asked Adi to get sweets for Meethi.

11. Adi finds out that KC and Malini didn’t know each other. And he believes when Malini tells him that she lied so he and Imlie could move on easily, not even stopping to thinking that she told him KC lie before he told her about Imlie and that time, she had accused him of extra marital affair with Imlie.

12. Then JM night and again Malini claims she doesn’t know what happened. Then Imlie finds the saree and accuses Malini of rape and Adi supports Malini. Imlie gets him video proof and AC lies that it was she who drugged them, and had send Malini to celebrate honeymoon with Adi. After all that happened, he chooses to blindly trust AC over Imlie. And he is not stopping to think if AC sent a drugged Malini to celebrate honeymoon with him, then why was Malini dressed up as Imlie and telling him that she is Imlie.
13. During court case he finds out that Malini stopped the divorce proceedings and when he questions her, her reply she was confused and he doesn’t bother to ask why was she e even confused when she says she is fighting for Imlie and him.

14. Imlie told him that every time Malini has a suddenly moment and he doesn’t bother connecting it to happening when he makes some plans with Imlie.

15. Malini told Adi that Imlie didn’t remind her about the medicines, and Imlie had gone behind her to give her the medicine and finally ended up giving the medicine in Malini’s juice.

16. Malini told Adi that if he wants her to stay in his house then he has to kick out his wife. Adi didn’t even stop to comprehend what gave that power and confidence to Malini to demand such a th8ng from him.

17. Malini accuses Imlie of having shot her, Adi says he just asked, he didn’t accuses. If he thinks Imlie didn’t shoot then he should accept that Malini lied.

18. Malini gets his name written on her hand and when Imlie points it out, Malini lies that the mehendi artist put mehendi for their wedding and she might have done that from her memory. Rupi clearly asks her how were you so unaware when she wrote the name? Adi forgot that it was Imlie who put mehendi for Malini. Few days later, Malini and Imlie both mentions Imlie putting mehendi for Malini.

19. When Aparna lights a dia for Imlie, Malini says Adi has moved on once and he can move on again.

20. Even after Imlie left, Malini knew every single detail of Imlie’s life and she slowly started instigating that Imlie wants all the riches, and he is the same man who had fought his family that if Imlie wants riches she would have gone to her father.

21. Malini accused Imlie of stealing her husband in front of Adi.

Don’t remember the rest😆
if these things happened as a stand-alone thing then it is fine if he remains blind, but so many things and how does he managed to see only Imlie wrong every single time and never suspicious of Malini? It puts a major question in his so called love for Imlie and only dosti with Malini.

I haven’t watched Seetha, after the show was over, I saw their one video and realized this couple was famous and curiously googled and saw their kolam romance and fainted then and there seeing that in a Malayalam serial🤣

Originally posted by: book.worm

thank you tellyaddict😊

I agree with you regarding the treatment of boys and girls in the same family, and I loved the campaign of “ladke rulathe nahi hai.” So much…

I have the same views like you regarding everything except the bit on Adi’s ego…. I don’t think Adi sees Imlie as a gawaar ladki who has moved on from him, Adi is very proud of Imlie’s intelligence and he is in awe of it… I do believe that Adi is egoistic and I feel his main ego is that he believes himself to be a truthful man who fights for the truth and downtrodden, and his ego of he never being wrong is his issue. His question also was “hum kab galat the.” He believes whatever he does is right, and Imlie is wrong because she is insecure and creating unnecessary issues, and that he can never be so wrong about Malini. After Aryan’s entry, he has become jealous, possessive and insecure, and it is bringing out even worse from him.

Adi’s main problem is that he sees himself as a man who got into a mess and he being the responsible and truthful and rightful human, he is taking all the hard but right decisions. And add to it, his blind trust in Malini. He never thought he was being unfair to Imlie, and when Imlie sends him divorce, his immediate thought is Imlie has moved on to Aryan, he is having a baby with another woman who is staying on in his house while his wife is staying at a stranger’s place and he is not even considering that Imlie might ask for divorce because he hasn’t been a good husband to her who never fulfilled any of his promise to her.

ur most welcome.. am so glad i can talk abt imlie just abt her with some...

@bold.. you said it right. i was wrong abt him being just egoistic.. he might have but not that big of an issue... and now after reading ur point i can understand adi even better...

but then as i was discussing in AryLie i came up to word toxic masculinity and while writing abt it i was like it feels so like Adi.. Adi has this toxic masculinity just little under the covers and not the full blown but its there...

his mom is all time.. adi beta maan ja adi aisa mat kar... adi sudhar ja.. mallu mam...sab imlie kar rahi hai.. these 2 ladies are feeding his toxic masculinity nd when Imlie challenges it.. he could not handle... he just could not stand being proven wrong... no one had ever done that to him in past..

as you said Adi cant accept himself being questioned let alone proven wrong.. and Imlie did exactly that which is why he is like this..he is unable to comprehend the situation when he is being questioned and pointed fingers at himself... so all he does it end up blaming Imlie cause he thinks she is doing wrong.

PS.. i can be completely wrong as i perceived a character from my POV.. so would like to know ur inputs on that... if you think Adi is that way.. or is just the way you explained abt him.

Out of context for her telly ji

Originally posted by: SundariP

Out of context for her telly ji

yes i know.. she talked abt Adi's issue so i shared my pov.. i can be wrong completely just wanted to know her take on it.

Originally posted by: -tellyaddict-

ur most welcome.. am so glad i can talk abt imlie just abt her with some...

@bold.. you said it right. i was wrong abt him being just egoistic.. he might have but not that big of an issue... and now after reading ur point i can understand adi even better...

but then as i was discussing in AryLie i came up to word toxic masculinity and while writing abt it i was like it feels so like Adi.. Adi has this toxic masculinity just little under the covers and not the full blown but its there...

his mom is all time.. adi beta maan ja adi aisa mat kar... adi sudhar ja.. mallu mam...sab imlie kar rahi hai.. these 2 ladies are feeding his toxic masculinity nd when Imlie challenges it.. he could not handle... he just could not stand being proven wrong... no one had ever done that to him in past..

as you said Adi cant accept himself being questioned let alone proven wrong.. and Imlie did exactly that which is why he is like this..he is unable to comprehend the situation when he is being questioned and pointed fingers at himself... so all he does it end up blaming Imlie cause he thinks she is doing wrong.

PS.. i can be completely wrong as i perceived a character from my POV.. so would like to know ur inputs on that... if you think Adi is that way.. or is just the way you explained abt him.

I don't know whether Adi has toxic masculinity, before this sautan drama, Adi and Imlie were equals and it was Imlie who had the upper hand. But yeah he walks around like a Maharaja at his home and everyone walks on their toes around him, but when he goes overboard Aparna and PT does bring him down. But they can't control him. He could be controlled only by Imlie. Adi's character went for a toss when he was manipulated by Malini with no logical explanation.😕

There was a time when Adi lived in constant fear and insecurity that Imlie would leave him, specially when she finds out that Malini is her sister, (he even fainted when he thought Imlie left him) but once the truth was revealed and Imlie chose to stay with him, even after the T family turned against them, but Imlie stood by their marriage, he became over confident and started taking Imlie for granted.

He started calling Imlie who saw him live happily with Malini for 7 months, insecure when Malini came back home. I lost the connect with him and have no idea what his character sketch is now. Even in today's episode, the man who declared his remarriage before even Imlie signed the divorce papers was telling Aryan that Imlie will move on quickly from him

Adi's main drawback is he can see only what he believes and he only accepts what he sees as the truth. If everyone else's truth is different from his, then they are wrong, for him, he is the absolute truth.

Adi is like a flame who could be tamed only by Imlie and now, even she can't calm him down and he is now burning himself and everything around him in his blind rage, that is all I can understand from him now😔