Pre - warning !! We cannot expect anu to not be a human - Page 2

First of all I think nobody including 4 idiots will know that anu 2 is listening all this coz she is outside d home

Anuj will definitely say yes he loves her but don't keep expectations of getting her coz he know she will not say yes or bhi bahut kuch kahega , I guess Kinjal 2 is in d promo near Toshu hopefully bapuji 2.

Mujhe nhi lagta anu Anuj ko confront karegi , I mean vo kis cheez ke liye confront karegi , aisa to hai nhi ki Anuj plotted all this , she herself said loving someone is not sin.

Regarding shah family Anu never claimed or said anything about Anuj's pov , she always said I only care about my pov that's I m not doing anything wrong & currently I don't love Anuj.

Anuj's confession may force Anu to look inside her that she craves 4 love & companion ship which she never got 4 vanraj , she has controlled herself a lot after d betrayal .

She may feel guilty of not able to return anuj's feelings or indirectly her being responsible for Anuj's alone ness.

Initially she maybe stay irritated where she wanted to be away from Anuj but can't coz she longs to be with him as she can't avoid him, she can be all silent not so chirpy as she is being around Anuj.She may start seeing Anuj in a new light by observing his actions.

Anu indirectly definitely is growing attracted to Anuj by d support , care , respect , admiration he gave to her .

Anu was never in love with vanraj infact she was just in d idea of being ln love with vanraj as she married him, so she thought loving vanraj is her duty.

lovely thoughts and views pouring in here...

and since I’ve read them all I have changed my perception already.

While I agree that Anu jumps to hasty conclusions and they are mostly quite silly and illogical, I do get why she does that, she’s had a life where she was brainwashed on sanskaar and bado ka sammaan and all that stuff so the way her brain works when she is around the very people that brainwashed her is so different to the person she is when she is with Anuj...

there’s a stark comtrast in her behaviour and all that standing up for Anuj at Dushera was cause a) Samar was involved and b) Devika literally put words in her mouth hence she spoke up.

Anu’s character is super flaky, indecisive and confused and her mahaanta just adds to the dunbness ...

We all are more worried for Anuj and dont want to see him hurt and guve in to the pressure and distance himself but I wont mind it makes Anu think rationally and with a clear conscience not giving two hoots about the idiots who only know to provoke.

Originally posted by: piyu008

She is not going to return his feelings overnight nor I expect her to. For acknowledging them maturely would do.

I would be totally fine even if she politely rejects Anuj for now. But that is the thing, if she handles this confession maturely and politely - no issues at all.

I just don't want her to go under all Samaj or Baa pressure to react to Anuj's confession. Writer has a knack to write scenarios which screams of hypocrisy.

Anu tend to say one thing and apply another when it comes down to her precious Shah's. I think that is why most are worried. That Anuj might get entitled to feel - he did something wrong. Which he didn't and it shouldn't be done otherwise.

If Anu-Anuj were alone during this confession then there were no troubles at all. Major variable in this situation are Shah's and Anu's Shah bhakti!

superb take and need I say I totally agree👏

Originally posted by: hinz

lovely thoughts and views pouring in here...

and since I’ve read them all I have changed my perception already.

While I agree that Anu jumps to hasty conclusions and they are mostly quite silly and illogical, I do get why she does that, she’s had a life where she was brainwashed on sanskaar and bado ka sammaan and all that stuff so the way her brain works when she is around the very people that brainwashed her is so different to the person she is when she is with Anuj...

there’s a stark comtrast in her behaviour and all that standing up for Anuj at Dushera was cause a) Samar was involved and b) Devika literally put words in her mouth hence she spoke up.

Anu’s character is super flaky, indecisive and confused and her mahaanta just adds to the dunbness ...

We all are more worried for Anuj and dont want to see him hurt and guve in to the pressure and distance himself but I wont mind it makes Anu think rationally and with a clear conscience not giving two hoots about the idiots who only know to provoke.

While I do agree about her being brainwashed for over 26 years and being flaky. I believe any person regardless of how oppressed they are, reaches a saturation point and begins to question their belief system- even if they don't act on those thoughts to actively rebel and defend themselves (or others) they have a degree of self awareness to question their situation, analyse and introspect, which we don't see Anu doing at all.

She reacts (almost impulsively) only when attacked or prompted by somebody. Even this time around, she reacted to Ba and Vanraj questioning her character and left the house. When she got to her mother's place she was given reassurance and support by her family which was enough for her to move on to being optimistic for the future. We didn't see any degree of introspection, analyses, self realisation or awareness about the situation.

IMO introspection is a key part of developing your EQ, it helps you recognise vicious circles, they highlight your weakness, the patterns and traps you repeatedly fall into. Its a key technique to help you move on from trauma. It helps you develop your confidence and become more decisive. Which is why I said in another post that rather than going from one high point to another for TRP's, the writers need to give her breathing space to live her life independently, adjust to her new circumstances and come to terms with life as an independent single woman. For this we need less of Shah's for now and more of Anupama struggling on her own. She needs to make mistakes and learn from them, she needs to develop her confidence, gain skills, be it via education or experience or exposure to the world outside her sheltered life at the Shah house, so that it can all help her question 26 years of conditioning and change her mindset. Sure, once she develops these skills or even while she is developing these skills we can have the occasional shit stirring by the Shah's in the background but their overall involvement needs to decrease for now and they can always be brought back later for the drama.

Until she resolves her past trauma there is no way she can have a successful relationship with Anuj and quite honestly (this may rub people the wrong way) but Anuj deserves better than the current Anupama. Anuj is a great support and he should continue to help her constructively but I think they need to show at least flecks of AK the businessman. Oh and he needs to be more conscious of Anu being his blind spot or realistically he will end up running his business into ground - in fact they could use this as a plot point to push Anu into learning new skills.

Yes Maybe a little separation that will ignite her mind in maans direction

I wouldn't mind

I do love angst in a love story thr pain also

I've decided to keep my mind open

Bring it on . Just want maan endgame

Anupama s devotion and affection was bestowed on undeserving folks who spared no efforts in demeaning her and making her feel worthless.

She has never experienced the attention and care Anuj accords her. She had once told Devika A prince Charming can be only in a tale.

When she realises that Anuj is her Prince Charming and like the Sleeping princess she had been in a dazed state all along.

It will start in disbelief and will sink in that here was someone so devoted to her. Who had remained single due to that love. Who had unconditional love when the liar she was devoted to double crossed her. The dignity and decorum of Anuj, that he had never once voiced his love will leave her awe struck. She knows what it is to be in a unrequited love state.

Things will change in time. We need to emulate Anujs patience with characters and creatives.

Originally posted by: moonwearer

Anupama s devotion and affection was bestowed on undeserving folks who spared no efforts in demeaning her and making her feel worthless.

She has never experienced the attention and care Anuj accords her. She had once told Devika A prince Charming can be only in a tale.

When she realises that Anuj is her Prince Charming and like the Sleeping princess she had been in a dazed state all along.

It will start in disbelief and will sink in that here was someone so devoted to her. Who had remained single due to that love. Who had unconditional love when the liar she was devoted to double crossed her. The dignity and decorum of Anuj, that he had never once voiced his love will leave her awe struck. She knows what it is to be in a unrequited love state.

Things will change in time. We need to emulate Anujs patience with characters and creatives.

Well Said. Patience patience like Anuj ... lol

The Diwali video is such a cute one very positive.

Originally posted by: moonwearer

The Diwali video is such a cute one very positive.

Yo, very good vibes. ❤️