Being Married - Page 2

Originally posted by: masin

I agree that the golden rule is "don't air your dirty laundry in public", but I can also see why that's very often difficult to follow.

It's hard to hide your hurt or anger, especially if it runs THAT deep. I can see why Raghav is unable to cover his ghussa in public, not saying he can't do better, but he's simply expressing how he feels in his heart. He doesn't know how to behave any differently, dunyadaari isse nahi aati. If he really cared to fit in the world around him, he wouldn't be in Sanki's bad books and nor would his sister detest him. He wears his heart on his sleeves, as much as he tries to show otherwise, and I think that paired with his temper always puts him at a disadvantage with his loved ones.

Also, if roles were reversed, I don't think Pallavi would hide her hurt or anger either. We've seen her lash out at Raghav on multiple occasions without caring for the time or place. She's embarrassed him as much as he's embarrassed her in today's episode (haven't watched it yet, going off of forum updates) so I would hope she understands why he's unable to put a veil over his feelings.

All that said and done, what their marriage is greatly lacking right now is communication. They were phenomenal at it before their confession, but iss ILY ne toh inki shaadi shuda zindagi ki samjho jaan hi le li!

Completely agree with this…and the hurt is deep when it’s caused by our own and leaves nothing but regrets…he got ditched by his own sister and he knows that she is still going to be the one to suffer either way…when Sunny faces the consequences of his evilness and /or when she gets to know Sunny’s reality…and he feels helpless coz he knows he won’t be able to do anything about it…and the disappointment is directed towards Pallavi coz he thinks somewhere her naive nature is responsible for what happened…at least that’s how Keerthi made it look like…

Apart from lack of proper communication I also feel that with their extreme love for each other they unintentionally take each other for granted..

Originally posted by: Anu1975

Completely agree with this…and the hurt is deep when it’s caused by our own and leaves nothing but regrets…he got ditched by his own sister and he knows that she is still going to be the one to suffer either way…when Sunny faces the consequences of his evilness and /or when she gets to know Sunny’s reality…and he feels helpless coz he knows he won’t be able to do anything about it…and the disappointment is directed towards Pallavi coz he thinks somewhere her naive nature is responsible for what happened…at least that’s how Keerthi made it look like…

Apart from lack of proper communication I also feel that with their extreme love for each other they unintentionally take each other for granted..

Exactly! He's feeling hurt for multiple reasons and while he can cope with the rest of it, he simply didn't expect Pallavi to let him down. (We know she didn't, but he doesn't see it that way)

@ bold: Absolutely! Also, I think that a lot of the love they feel for each other, whether that's emotional or physical, has been pent up for months! They're both frustrated to no extent and they haven't had a chance to exert their frustration. Their dates get spoiled, their conversations get interrupted, something or the other always gets in the way when they're trying to bare their hearts out. They just go about their day knowing that the other loves them so much, but that's not reassuring enough in the long run.

Honestly..if it was a real life scenario...

Pallavi would not have fallen head over heel in love with Raghav after all raghav put her through, Yes he repented , Yes he tried to make amends etc etc but still , in real life how can u fall in love with a guy like him....

Also pallavi stayed at her ex house , nursed him went out with him the whole day etc etc, which husband in real life would let his wife stay at her ex house even if it is question of life and death of ex..

So I think if they show real life of raghav and pallvi , they might not even become couple ..

Originally posted by: masin

Exactly! He's feeling hurt for multiple reasons and while he can cope with the rest of it, he simply didn't expect Pallavi to let him down. (We know she didn't, but he doesn't see it that way)

@ bold: Absolutely! Also, I think that a lot of the love they feel for each other, whether that's emotional or physical, has been pent up for months! They're both frustrated to no extent and they haven't had a chance to exert their frustration. Their dates get spoiled, their conversations get interrupted, something or the other always gets in the way when they're trying to bare their hearts out. They just go about their day knowing that the other loves them so much, but that's not reassuring enough in the long run.

@bold: well said…love alone is not enough to run a relationship…both love each other to bits but are completely different personalities…Raghav is emotional pragmatic dominating and extremely protective and Pallavi is compassionate naive idealistic and extremely forgiving…till they don’t learn to accept and live with each other’s personality it is going be a chaotic ride especially with people always on the lookout to separate them…

Originally posted by: Anu1975

Completely agree with this…and the hurt is deep when it’s caused by our own and leaves nothing but regrets…he got ditched by his own sister and he knows that she is still going to be the one to suffer either way…when Sunny faces the consequences of his evilness and /or when she gets to know Sunny’s reality…and he feels helpless coz he knows he won’t be able to do anything about it…and the disappointment is directed towards Pallavi coz he thinks somewhere her naive nature is responsible for what happened…at least that’s how Keerthi made it look like…

Apart from lack of proper communication I also feel that with their extreme love for each other they unintentionally take each other for granted..

Yes because they have unintentionally taken each other for granted due their extreme love, they assume the other will understand their point of view or thoughts without verbalising it. But it doesn't work that way. They need to have a long conversation about things. Too many issues are only in their thoughts & not expressed to each other.

Originally posted by: Shakti1604

Yes because they have unintentionally taken each other for granted due their extreme love, they assume the other will understand their point of view or thoughts without verbalising it. But it doesn't work that way. They need to have a long conversation about things. Too many issues are only in their thoughts & not expressed to each other.

Exactly…and it’s completely relatable too sometimes people end up feeling so strongly for each other that they don’t even realize the hurt they cause to the other till the damage is done..love doesn’t automatically lead to acceptance…acceptance comes from understanding which is what is missing between Raghav and Pallavi now and what will be exploited by their detractors…

The writers have done a good job here…

Originally posted by: Shakti1604

Yes because they have unintentionally taken each other for granted due their extreme love, they assume the other will understand their point of view or thoughts without verbalising it. But it doesn't work that way. They need to have a long conversation about things. Too many issues are only in their thoughts & not expressed to each other.

Communication. That’s what is missing