Originally posted by: Mountains_Lakes
Woohoo! Sandi for the win! What Mom's couldn't do friends did!
P.s. I wonder if that's one of the reasons why there's this gap between older generation and newer. Our generation believes in being self sufficient, vs older generation believes in being respectful and pati Devta types of mentality.
When Wives of our generation don't do this for the husbands and they learn to be independent, mom's feel insulted that how dare DIL make their ladlas do some work.
The situation you describe it’s not very familiar for me. My parents have a modern thinking. When my mom married my dad, she was still working as a social worker, she didn’t do much household chorus on the weekdays. And my adji didn’t mind that. She was the one cooking for my mom when she came home from work. On the weekend my mom worked on the land with my dad and all his brothers.
When my parents moved to Holland and got children they always divided the task, the one who was early from work had to pick up the kids and cook. So my dad cooks, did the laundry, ironing clothes.
My parents are divorced but they still have a great bond, so when we go to visit my adjie my mom stays with her and my adji still cooks for my mom.
Coincidence yesterday I was talking with my dad, he has some cousins and they are very old minded with their thinking. They ars the same age as my dad 53. But like I cannot be with them and my dad has that also. My niece has a boyfriend and he is from the Arya Samajh and we are from Sanatan and now my uncle is bullying him and my niece, cause it’s a different believe. Like what the hell is wrong with you?!! He is a good boy, very nice, works hard has a degree! He takes good care of your daughter but you make it a problem.
I think you’re right! I don’t like it but yeah some places it still works like that.