Lessons from SaiRat (serious post)

We all come to this forum to have fun - joke around, make fun of CVs, do our beizzati in turn.

We also analyse and discuss - mostly Sai, Virat and SaiRat. We point what ails their relationship and what can heal it. We do it in the spirit that this is fiction.

But we all agree that this is a crap show. Whatever interesting material they had, makers ruined it by blind copy paste. We are here only for NeilSha. They are a once in a lifetime couple oozing with chemistry.

So, is there any lesson we can take from this show?

SaiRat to me is a cautionary tale. How everything that glitters is not gold.

Virat is introduced as a model of good principles and conduct. Sai is so convinced of his goodness that to her he can do no wrong. Things are fine in the initial days of marriage. He is extremely charming, attentive and makes his wife feel special. No wonder, his young wife is smitten. But the gross patriarchy, the abuse, the toxicity of his upbringing raises its ugly head - Virat has unknowingly internalised these toxic patterns. He commits an offence, probably realises his mistake, apologizes. But when confronted by overwhelming emotions, repeats the offence again. This pattern is the cycle of abuse.

How often does it happen that children brought up in such households (especially in India) are likely to be abusive themselves? The chances are staggeringly high. So if we or a loved one is dating someone who hails from toxic, abusive families - most often than not, it is a warning sign.

I don't know how many young people visit this forum. But if they do, no one should mistake SaiRat as 'romance'.

Edit: Found some really good posts on TV and abuse. Both the posts are a must read:-

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/ghum-hai-kisikey-pyaar-meiin/5222970/manhandling-and-sorry

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/ghum-hai-kisikey-pyaar-meiin/5210728/addressing-the-elephant-in-the-room-note-on-pg-21-24-april

Happy Sunday! ❤️

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

We all come to this forum to have fun - joke around, make fun of CVs, do our beizzati in turn.

We also analyse and discuss - mostly Sai, Virat and SaiRat. We point what ails their relationship and what can heal it. We do it in the spirit that this is fiction.

But we all agree that this is a crap show. Whatever interesting material they had, makers ruined it by blind copy paste. We are here only for NeilSha. They are a once in a lifetime couple oozing with chemistry.

So, is there any lesson we can take from this show?

SaiRat to me is a cautionary tale. How everything that glitters is not gold.

Virat is introduced as a model of good principles and conduct. Sai is so convinced of his goodness that to her he can do no wrong. Things are fine in the initial days of marriage. He is extremely charming, attentive and makes his wife feel special. No wonder, his young wife is smitten. But the gross patriarchy, the abuse, the toxicity of his upbringing raises its ugly head - Virat has unknowingly internalised these toxic patterns. He commits an offence, probably realises his mistake, apologizes. But when confronted by overwhelming emotions, repeats the offence again. This pattern is the cycle of abuse.

How often does it happen that children brought up in such households (especially in India) are likely to be abusive themselves? The chances are staggeringly high. So if we or a loved one is dating someone who hails from toxic, abusive families - most often than not, it is a warning sign.

I don't know how many young people visit this forum. But if they do, no one should mistake SaiRat as 'romance'.

Happy Sunday! ❤️

Thankyou for posting this.. One should always always realise that this is just a show and not a love story to be inspired of!!

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Thankyou for posting this.. One should always always realise that this is just a show and not a love story to be inspired of!!

💯 Kudos for saying this

I am disturbed with this toxic relationship sometimes ..I still hang around to read posts and FFs

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

💯 Kudos for saying this

I am disturbed with this toxic relationship sometimes ..I still hang around to read posts and FFs

Honestly never take any story on Television seriously..Such threads are very important.. Because it makes young girls believe that their man is eventually going to turn out good.. You see a friend of mine was married to a man who would be toxic one day and very loving the other day... She grew up fantasizing, one of the most famous but toxic leads of ITV/SP , who eventually becomes a good man in the show...Howsoever in real life its not possible and since her exposure to men was so less that she did believe her man would turn out good, since she fantasized love that way.. Needless to say, cycle of love and toxicity continues till date!!

Since women watch such shows more, we are talking about women here, but the whole theory is for both men and women.. To never fantasize these love stories on television, these are unreal!!

A Sai Joshi cannot/should not accept a Virat Chavhan, however how much he is in love with her in rea life..Here I said it!!!Because this one would go on to become a better man as the show ends, the real one would not..Highly unlikely....

A Virat Chavhan with a family like that should never go for a girl untimid and brash like Sai..Will always remain conflicted between his family and her!!!

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Honestly never take any story on Television seriously..Such threads are very important.. Because it makes young girls believe that their man is eventually going to turn out good.. You see a friend of mine was married to a man who would be toxic one day and very loving the other day... She grew up fantasizing, one of the most famous but toxic leads of ITV/SP , who eventually becomes a good man in the show...Howsoever in real life its not possible and since her exposure to men was so less that she did believe her man would turn out good, since she fantasized love that way.. Needless to say, cycle of love and toxicity continues till date!!

Since women watch such shows more, we are talking about women here, but the whole theory is for both men and women.. To never fantasize these love stories on television, these are unreal!! A Sai Joshi cannot/should not accept a Virat Chavhan, however how much he is love with her in rea life..Here I said it!!!Because this one would go on to become a better man as the show ends, the real one would not..Highly unlikely....A Virat Chavhan with a family like that should never go for a girl untimid and brash girl like Sai..Will always remain conflicted between his family and her!!!

This is exactly what I'm scared of sometimes. There are plenty of people who may not understand this .... and plenty of people with self-esteem issues who may fall for this.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Honestly never take any story on Television seriously..Such threads are very important.. Because it makes young girls believe that their man is eventually going to turn out good.. You see a friend of mine was married to a man who would be toxic one day and very loving the other day... She grew up fantasizing, one of the most famous but toxic leads of ITV/SP , who eventually becomes a good man in the show...Howsoever in real life its not possible and since her exposure to men was so less that she did believe her man would turn out good, since she fantasized love that way.. Needless to say, cycle of love and toxicity continues till date!!

Since women watch such shows more, we are talking about women here, but the whole theory is for both men and women.. To never fantasize these love stories on television, these are unreal!! A Sai Joshi cannot/should not accept a Virat Chavhan, however how much he is love with her in rea life..Here I said it!!!Because this one would go on to become a better man as the show ends, the real one would not..Highly unlikely....A Virat Chavhan with a family like that should never go for a girl untimid and brash girl like Sai..Will always remain conflicted between his family and her!!!

I never had such a fantasy but I did end up in a toxic marriage to a person who married me for my high salary. The background check came clean I realised later that he was a closet drug addict and drunkard. His appearance was mild and sweet in front of others and I often come across as brash since I am pretty straight forward . With almost no support except big bro it was a difficult cycle to break away.

The kind of abuse I heard from extended fam for bringing them a bad name was atrocious. Luckily towards the end , person who was my character witness in court was a person of high standing in my community and took a clear stand for me. It helped.

My bro bhabs and I went went thru turmoil.

Many gave me stupid examples from movies and such of how people change so I do tend to take it personally sometimes

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

I never had such a fantasy but I did end up in a toxic marriage to a person who married me for my high salary. The background check came clean I realised later that he was a closet drug addict and drunkard. His appearance was mild and sweet in front of others and I often come across as brash since I am pretty straight forward . With almost no support except big bro it was a difficult cycle to break away.

The kind of abuse I heard from extended fam for bringing them a bad name was atrocious. Luckily towards the end , person who was my character witness in court was a person of high standing in my community and took a clear stand for me. It helped.

My bro bhabs and I went went thru turmoil.

Many gave me stupid examples from movies and such of how people change so I do tend to take it personally sometimes

It takes a lot of courage to come out of such situations.

Love and peace ❤️.

Thank you for bringing up this topic..

We should not romanticise TV characters..

I often think that those stories may be collected from reality life but practically those incidents are harsher...

Dealing with young wife NOT an easy task..

On that contrary living with extreme insecured husband who was raised in a toxic environment not as flowery as it is shown..

Thank you for such a post.... Ppl are sooo in awe of the onscreen chemistry an jazz that they do not understand or see certain things as not correct.

The screen romance has ruined how one should look at a relationship. There is body positivity issue as well.....

Shows are to pass time an not exactly for moral boost or anything.

Hopefully the young generation are not Inspired by toxic behaviour and traits.

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

I never had such a fantasy but I did end up in a toxic marriage to a person who married me for my high salary. The background check came clean I realised later that he was a closet drug addict and drunkard. His appearance was mild and sweet in front of others and I often come across as brash since I am pretty straight forward . With almost no support except big bro it was a difficult cycle to break away.

The kind of abuse I heard from extended fam for bringing them a bad name was atrocious. Luckily towards the end , person who was my character witness in court was a person of high standing in my community and took a clear stand for me. It helped.

My bro bhabs and I went went thru turmoil.

Many gave me stupid examples from movies and such of how people change so I do tend to take it personally sometimes

Thang God you did not give in.. Well yes there are many men out there who come across and extreme gentleman however within months of marriage you see a side of them that is way beyond what you expected them to be.. The man that we saw in Virat during the whole manhandling scene was where your expectations end!!

Much love to you sweetheart for fighting it and not giving it to the relationship in the hope of betterment..This can never get better..