Originally posted by: Jiarao
Just watched RR- Amma scene. She gave him real good advice. Hopefully he controls his anger and behaves rationally henceforth.
One thing I didn't understand. She said his anger was the reason for their separation? Wasn't it her who kept him away for his mistake? What role did his anger play there?
She also said he is insecure. But it's not only insecurity but his fear of people taking advantage of Pallavi's goodness. And even if it was she is the one to be blamed here. She had abandoned him and called him a murderer every day which has made him emotionally so weak that he thinks Pallavi staying with him is validation of his goodness. 🤔
One more point Pallavi knows everything about his past right? Yet she left him?
I understand she has a duty towards her parents and there is nothing wrong in fulfilling it.But she is also a DIL, shouldn't she ask for Jaya's opinion before taking such a big decision?
Was looking forward to your take on the episode.
Yes, she talked about his anger but not her own role in it. I wonder if there's more to the past that we don't know or if she was just making a point. Or maybe it was lazy writing. But Amma's anger too played a big role in the separation and there's trauma that hasn't been addressed.
As for insecurity, I don't know why she said that or why Raghav later said that to Pallavi on the phone. As I was saying on another thread, this dialogue made me so angry. It's as if he told her what he thought she wanted to hear even though we know and he knows he was never doubting her or her love, and was never insecure that she'd leave him because she'd think Mandaar would be a better husband. Even Amma's dialogue made me wonder if she actually understood what the problem was, that his insecurity was never around Pallavi herself. Ugh... they love showing an ML groveling on ITV, and I hate it when it's done for the wrong reasons because this way they sidestep the real issue at hand. 
Nope, he was pretty clear that Mandaar/the Ds would emotionally blackmail her or manipulate her into going back and that she'd be sucked into the trap that he saw her struggle to get out. He knows it's because she can be gullible and by the time she realizes her mistake it's often too late and she's been hurt. Not only does he not trust Mandaar, he doesn't want Pallavi to be too emotionally invested in the Ds again and be hurt all over again because he knows/feels they don't deserve her. That's where the insecurities come from, not out of him doubting her or her love.
And yes, he knows that Pallavi can be stubborn when she doesn't want to listen, and none of his words will affect her at this point. She will have to have her 'aha' moment one day.
It pissed me off when she said she didn't want to talk to him until she had 'her Raghav' back. This was in reference to the Raghav jo sudhar gaya hai. She will accept to talk to him on her terms and none else?
I found it interesting that for the first time, Raghav as a husband said no to her going with Sanki but she herself chose to override him, as if to defy his wishes. It wasn't just because of insaniyat, it was also because she was angry with Raghav.
She didn't see that Raghav was like yes Sanki can wash my feet for all I care, but it won't change my opinion of Mandaar and what I know of his intentions. That should have been a flag.
It's almost as if she was waiting for just one opening to have Sanki back in her life, otherwise after what he did, the qasam thing shouldn't have happened.
Btw I wrote about Raghav's abandonment issues here and how it fueled his concerns and insecurities, the fact that Pallavi is aware of his past, etc. I would like your perspective too.
https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/topic/5241572?pn=7#158179892
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